Fallin for younger person

hurleymike54

i'm 25 fallin for a 17year old who works with me.....
shes gorgeous and we get on so well together....
but havent told her how i'm feelin....

should I tell her....or is the gap too big??


Rgds,
Mike

azezil

IN the workplace - As long as you are aware of your professional responsibilities and are responsible enough to ensure that the relationship does not raise concerns about favoritism, bias, ethics and conflict of interest, i say go for it.

On a personal level you should be aware that you will probably have very different view on most things, want to go to and do different things.

It will be difficult! but good luck with it

hurleymike54

will this kind of setup work,
wait till shes 18, i'll be 26??

one part of me is sayin if only I were a little younger
the other is sayin GO FOR IT


any ideas?
MIke

xx

The workplace scenario makes is a little difficult buddy. But don't get too hung up on the age thing - ironically enough, my mate who's 25 is going out with a 17 year old girl. They've been going out for about 8 months now, and they get on great.

Sangre

You do realise that since you are over 18 it is stautory rape until she is 18.
Im mostly referring to xx.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but its ok for two 17 year olds to make whoopie, but when one of them turns 18 its a no-no.

p

Sangre, age of consent in Ireland is 17, not 18.

Also, I believe that bit about two, underage people having sex is also wrong, but not sure on those details.

Originally posted by Sangre
Correct me if I'm wrong, but its ok for two 17 year olds to make whoopie, but when one of them turns 18 its a no-no.

I dunno, if thats the case, I'm sure in the UK , you can get married at 17.
If thats the case, theres a lot of lawbreaking every year when the leavin' results are out:p

Regarding the thread question:
Hurley Mike, how well do you get on with her.
Are ye all the time laughing and giggling at the same jokes?
do you think she might feel the same way?
If yes to that and all the usual things-Go for It!

I'd say throw caution to the wind and , ask her out, all the usual stuff and see what happens.
Otherwise you will do your head in not knowing, and possibly see someone else steal her away from ya.
To be honest once your intentions are true and you know that you feel strongly for her and want to look after her etc, etc...,
then I wouldn't give a hoot about what others would think, I'd go out with her , keeping a lower than usual profile if necessary and ignore what other people are thinking.
They may think that they know best, but to my mind anyhow,it's yourselves that have to be happy first and thats the priority.
Most of the people that you know, that might say something bad about it are probably only jealous anyway;)
mm

xx

Age of consent is, indeed, 17. And my mate is fully aware of this sangre.

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HairyLemon

nothing wrong with it,
ASK her out....

as long as she doesnt suffer from butcrust?
keep smiling
Lemon

yellum

I went out with someone recently enough. He was 18 and I was 26.

I'm an immature person or so I thought but I found there was a difference and so we didn't click too well. I've been out with a few people now around the 18-20 mark and most don't seem to be as mature as I'd like them to be.

But each couple is different so you may be lucky. Ask her out, see how it goes. If it doesn't work, well then so what.

Best of luck.

smiles

Originally posted by p
Sangre, age of consent in Ireland is 17, not 18.

Also, I believe that bit about two, underage people having sex is also wrong, but not sure on those details.

The age of consent in Ireland is 17, not 16 or 18 as most people think, it's 16 in England but not here.

If two underage people have sex is also illegal, and I'm almost certain that the guy can be charged for it, regardless of him being 13 are her 16 say.

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Kone

Go for it!

hurleymike54

Thanks Guys

Shes mad about me I know
but what do ya reckon is goin thru her head

I really think it could work......

What probs would she have goin out with a 25 year old bloke....

Helix

who cares, just bang her

The Sweeper

Problems:

1. Your friends slagging you and her.
2. Her friends slagging you and her.
3. Trying to go out - some pubs/clubs will let you in and not her.
4. Sexual experience.
5. Different interests.
6. You becoming uncomfortable with a lack of maturity on her part.
7. Her thinking you're a doddering auld fart.
8. Her having unrealistic expectations of the relationship because of her age.
9. You occasionally getting the feeling that you're babysitting.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to rain on your parade really, but I just think that the eight year age gap will make a considerable difference. Not if you were 30 and she 22, but the fact is that she's still got a lot of growing up to do.

The other thing is that you work with her. Do you socialise with her? How do you know what she's like outside work? And if it all falls apart, who'll quit?

You're old enough and she's young enough that it may well look as though you're taking advantage of her.

Tellox

I dont see too huge an age gap between 25 and 17.. age gaps seem to grow smaller as age rises... look at a 58yr old and a 50yr old. Your unlikely to even flinch when you hear about that age gap. Then think about 20 and 12. its insane. But I honestly cant see the problem with a 25 and a 17yr old. Her parents might alright, but nobody else should.

Only thing you've got to worry about is the fact that you work together. Nevertheless, ask her out for a drink,and see how things go.

NeMiSiS

If my 17 year old sister brought home a 25 year old fella,Id beat his ass,then my dad would ,then my brother would,then we all would.

What can you realy have in common with someone that age,seriously? She cant even get into pubs yet..legally anyways,shes probably just finished her leaving cert, if even.

I remember being about 16 - 17 and in school and some of the girls going out with lads about 25 ,and I figured they were just pure ****ing perverts and loosers who couldnt score with a girl their own age,cause the girls their age knew better. I still think this ! Hell Im only 21 I have mates older than me like 25 - 26 and if they were going out with a 17 year old,the abuse they would get would be unnatural,personally I dont think its relationship material your after - your after a quick lay.

Maybe its just that I have a sister that age it wrecks my head consiberable more than it probably should. Im just giving ya the other side of the scales ;P

Tom

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NeMiSiS

Just dont dig sleezy ****ers I guess ?

Tom

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chump

I think she's too young.

I think it would be wrong for you to go out with her.

tman

Originally posted by p
Sangre, age of consent in Ireland is 17, not 18.

Also, I believe that bit about two, underage people having sex is also wrong, but not sure on those details.

does anyone have concrete proof of this?
every time i tell my mates the age of consent is 17, not 16 i get laughed out of the room.
i'm sure i'm not making it up tho

tman

i say go for it btw, 17 is my minimum cutoff point & i'd say ittl remain that way till i'm old & grey

Originally posted by chump
I think she's too young.

I think it would be wrong for you to go out with her.

Thats two one liners if ever I read any.
Decisions like this deserve a little more thought, methinks than blanket refusal.

originally posted by Nemesis:
What can you realy have in common with someone that age,seriously? She cant even get into pubs yet..legally anyways,shes probably just finished her leaving cert, if even.

Now that is nonsense,most girls that age sail into pubs.
It might only be a few months for all we know before she's 18 and a legal adult.

For the record,My Grandfather was 51 when he got married to a girl who was 18.
She had seven kids before she was thirty and they were very happy.
Most of the locals, from what my Dad told me were saying Fair play to ya boy! .
mm

eirebhoy

If you do ask her out, tell us how you get on!

Chad ghostal

Originally posted by tman
does anyone have concrete proof of this?

these people agree with 17

http://www.ageofconsent.com/ireland.htm

tman

ha ha, in your face you dirty paedo's:D
i knew i was right

MrNuked

will be funny if you go out, and then meet her while she's in school uniform or something.
A lot of people are going to think a lot less of you if you go with her. but then a lot of people will be jealous too.
You might end up feeling like an old man. The juices flow a bit more quickly at 17. And you'll be hanging around with gangs of schoolkids.
Might have a bad effect on your job. some people will judge you for it and if that happens in your job it's not good.
I say do it because then I can laugh at you when you post in 3 weeks saying how childish your gf is!
Chris Evans and Billie Piper.

50Cent

Guys can i just say one thing. I just turned 19 yrs old recently. I wouldnt even go out with a 17 yr old or have anything to do with a 17yr old girl. A 25 yr old man going out with a 17 yr old is ****en disgusting. Cant you see that? Its ridiculous!!!

May I ask why a 25 yr old man can not settle for a woman around the same age instead of going for a girl who is in her final yr of school or just finished...its ****en sick or even if she was in college...its ****en sick. How ugly do you have to be to start looking for 17 yr old girls?

tman

yeah, at 19 i'm sure you're too mature for 17 year olds, all your previous posts have backed this theory up...

50Cent

yeah, at 19 i'm sure you're too mature for 17 year olds, all your previous posts have backed this theory up...

No. Its just i dont have to look for 17 yr olds to get some nooky...unlike some

bug

I would say go for it. It would be alot of fun IMO younger girls get on well with older blokes. My mate who's 26 is going out with a girl seven years his junior, out of all of us they get on the best, they have alot of fun. Go for it.

Lump

I lady friend I have is 18 well maybe 19 now but is going out with a guy 10 years older than her, she seems to be getting on fine..... however there was that one night when she was swayed to the 20 year old Irish man....... I NEVER TOUCHED HER GUV'NER




John

ferdi

ask her if her father/older brother owns a fire-arm, then make your choice.

MrNuked

Make absolutely certain she really is 17. If she likes you she might have upped her age a year.

50cents: Loudmothed judgemental 19 year-olds are rather annoying. Bloody kids!

50Cent

50cents: Loudmothed judgemental 19 year-olds are rather annoying. Bloody kids!

No seriously, its really sick.

Sangre

No seriously its not.

But I wouldn't bother tbh, too much hassle and copmlications. Plus she might feel suffocated when she starts college or whatever because you've already done all that.

50Cent

THE GIRL IS 17 ****en years old! Jesus Christ...

a 25 yr old man with a 17 yr old = ****ED UP.

Sangre

Jealous?

tman

lmao:D

50Cent

Yes very...:rolleyes:

Sangre

Thought so.

Tellox

50cent, the amount of ****e in your recent posts is getting quite tiring!

nuvolari

at 17, she's probably as mature as a 25 year old.

bazooka

remember when you were 17, and all the girls your age used to go out with 25yr olds...its swings and roundabouts mate...now is your time!!!

although, you should never screw the crew...

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AngelofFire

i know how he feels. im 17 most of the girls my age havnt got time for fellas unless they are aged 19 or over. they only girls i really have a chance with are 15, 16 yr olds. or unless i pull girls in a nite club.-my mate is 19 and he got off with a 26yr old before. ive had my fair share of 19 and 20 yr old girls in them cirumstances. its not hard to emphatise with guys who are attracted to younger girls.

50Cent

50cent, the amount of ****e in your recent posts is getting quite tiring!

No. First of all, what ive typed in this forum is not ****e. Its my opinion.

Secondly, if your referring to the crap i have written in the feedback/suggestions forum about the championship manager board...thats not crap either. Boards doesnt need one.

Thirdly, [check your pm's 50 cent-Gordon]

Lafortezza

Originally posted by 50Cent

Secondly, if your referring to the crap i have written...
...thats not crap either.

2 second attention span...
are you a goldfish?

Originally posted by 50Cent

Thirdly, go **** yourself.

angry little fella aren't you?


On topic: Don't do it, she may be cute and intelligent and mature and everything and you 2 may get on like a house on fire but you work with her and it could make things in work difficult and the gossip is sure to fly around, work and relationships rarely work out ok in the long run, that said though you never do know...

you'll have to weigh up the risks and decide for yourself, gl

DapperGent

Don't listen to Lafortezza his latest is two years older than him and he's forever trying to crack on to chicks he works with.

The filthy little blighter.

On topic: Whenever us lads were 17-18 it was awful difficult to be getting girls around your own age because they were always mooning after 25 year assholes with cars and money.

Now you are a 25 year old asshole. The sun is shining and theres hay to be made.

Back off topic: [no personal insults please - Gordon]