Fallin for younger person

HJ Simpson

Hey,

I met my current girlfriend through work she was 18 almost 19 I was 24 at the time thats 5 years ago still together. If she is working fulltime she is probably a bit more mature than the average 17 year old
Words to the wise.
1) Going out with her and her mates will mean a night with a bunch of teenagers.
2)Working relationships are difficult if you deal with each other all the time.
3)Make sure she is actually interested before you dive in so to speak!!

DapperGent

Originally posted by DapperGent
Back off topic: [no personal insults please - Gordon]

Even if it's 50Cent?

Mercury_Tilt

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LoneGunM@n

I'm a bit divided on this one!!

1 side of me says [the horny devil side, if any1 was wondering], throw caution to the wind and take a chance, but then I keep thinkin' its a bit risky because of the probable problems that might arise from this:

- If she shoots you down, your going to get a nice name for yourself [& i doubt it'll be craddle snatcher]

- She's still only a kid & although the females of the species mature quicker than us blokes, I doubt it's 7 years quicker & this may end up p1ssing you off no end

- 17 year olds usually have 17 year old friends & you will really stick out

But hey, she may be a mature well adjusted person, so as they say, the decision is yours!!

Gordon

On topic guys - no insults also, end of story.

Kell

I say go for it. Having friends of any description that are a good bit younger is always a lotta fun. Sexually, in the words of my mate Typie, "you get someone who will willingly do things for you that paid professionals might not". Oh, and who cares what her family or friends think or anyone else for that matter. If she is having fun and you are, alls well.

K-

Typedef

Sexually, in the words of my mate Typie, "you get someone who will willingly do things for you that paid professionals might not"

At least that's what all the chicks say about my mate Michael B.

He's bald you know.

spoofer

My wife and I have an 8 year difference (I'm older).
We have been married some time and apart from the usual arguments we are still very much in love.
Interests.. similar
Friends.. big difference, but no problem.
Age difference is never an issue.

Do what your heart tells you. Go for it, It could be the best decision of your life. But if you don't try you will regret it.

TacT

Your probably just lusting after her and imho the thought of it is probably going to be more enjoying than the act itself due to the circumstances. From a personal point of view I'd say DO NOT go for it, find someone around your own age, the gap between you at present is a bit much (for me) anyway, just couldn't go out with someone that age due to the difference in lifestyle, friends etc etc.

I personally find it a bit cowardly of a bloke when I see a 25+ yr old bloke with a girl in and around the 17+ age bracket. Why can't you find someone your age or are you too scared because your own maturity levels aren't up to the task?

To each their own, if you think your going to be able to make it work, go for it. Have a good long think about it before you dive in head first as you don't know how her parents/friends etc would react, let alone yours..

jammy_dodger

You'll regret it. For all the resons put forward on this board, Ive got nothing against people of different ages going out, Just from what ive seen it dos'nt work out. And 17yr old ladies can be very b!tchy when they're not on your side anymore.

jammy_dodger

Oh yeah and do you also work with her ???
cause if so, Thats another kettle of fish on top of the age issue,
Phew, you chase the most akward of ladies

50Cent

Ye its very sick and twisted. Dont do it.

MrNuked

tell her to call yyou "daddy", that way no one will think itg's odd when they see you with a girl in school uniform.

younger people tend to be very selfish, not as a aware of others, more wrapped up in themselves. there are big exceptions to that though.

Caesar_Bojangle

It happens all the time in *America




I'm basing this entirely on what i've seen of Dawson’s Creek

DerekD Goldfish

It happens all the time in America I'm basing this entirely on what i've seen of Dawson’s Creek

the actors playing 17 year olds in that are usaly 25 anyway

Originally posted by spoofer
My wife and I have an 8 year difference (I'm older).
We have been married some time and apart from the usual arguments we are still very much in love.
Interests.. similar
Friends.. big difference, but no problem.
Age difference is never an issue.

Do what your heart tells you. Go for it, It could be the best decision of your life. But if you don't try you will regret it.

One of the better posts I've read on this topic so far, and a post thats speaking from a more extensive experience.
I simply cannot understand , anyone that has a problem with two people wanting to be together in this case.
They can only try to make it work and if it doesn't it won't be from the want of trying.
She'll soon be 18 and could do worse like , be brainwashed by a Cult or something ( ...and I'm not referring to a regular poster on Boards )
An 8 year age gap is nothing, if both are happy.
mm

DriftingRain

HEHEHEHE Good Luck is all I can say. If she is mature enough outside work then things may go well for the two of you.

Kell

Originally posted by Typedef
At least that's what all the chicks say about my mate Michael B.

He's bald you know.

Whats this with the name and shame PAL?

K-

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Kell
Whats this with the name and shame PAL?

he only speaketh the truth kell baby

on topic

I've been with my bloke for 4 years now
he's 8 years younger than me
I can honestly say we are more well suited to each other than any of my previous relationships (no smart ass comments please)

however, 17 is a young age, in so far as, she will totally change as she moves into her twenties, so, you take a risk, but then, don't we all.
I advise caution, especially if she still has a daddy, luckily for you guns can’t be bought in shops here....

koneko

The problem with 17-year-olds is that they think they're grown ups. We all thought that when we were that age. We thought we knew what we wanted and who we were.

And how wrong we were. Going out with someone that young you risk a much greater chance she'll up and leave you when she's a bit older. She might realise she wanted other things out of live, to travel, or live somewhere else, or date someone else (or lots of someone elses).

That doesn't mean it can't work though. It'll just take more work. Maybe wait till she's a little bit older and wiser.

catspring

i think that if you like her enough just give it a shot, i mean at the worst you will break up, but sure there is that risk with every new relationship.
i am 18 and my boyfriend is 29 5though i was 17 when we started going out). we have been together for 8months and i would not want to be with anyone else.
at the start i thought it would be difficult because of the age difference, but it is not. for instance i thought i might miss out on doing things that many people my age do, travelling and stuff like that, but i am in france without him now and will remain here fo another4 weeks.
all i can say is if you really like her and you dont do anything about it, you might regret it later

Jak

Anyone might leave you. That's no reason not to have fun.

If she's really really cute just go for it. At 25 my "cut off point" is 18, but really that is nothing that a really cute 17 year old couldn't get around.

At 17 I and most of my friends went for - girls. Irrespective of age, and although we were young, we had a pretty good idea of ourselves. Lots of us ended up with late 20's and early 30's women on various nights - were they abusing us and being sick?

No. Well maybe one of them, through mental scarring, but generally no.

17 year olds should get a lot more credit than they do in my opinion. There is a reason for the legal age of consent.


Anyhows, the only other thing I'd say is be careful of her friends. I've gone out with 18 and 19 year olds when I was 23/24 and even then it was the fact that their friends were utter ****ing halfwits and they (to their credit) would not ditch them that made me end things.

thegills

17 is not that young; remember;

- Once the roof is thatched it's time to move in

or

- If there's grass on the pitch it's time to play ball

Morpheus

my girlfriend was 18 when i started with her almost 2 years ago, i was 25, were still together, in love and best mates.

Ive no problem going out with someone younger than me, i wouldnt be able to handle a 25 or 26 yo woman, too much emotional baggage on THAT train, tryin to marry my ass and get all committed and stuff, wheres the fun in that!?? Im happy with 1 girl, were happy with each other, weve a LOT planned to do before we go down that road or even consider an aisle!!!! :eek:

Relax, chat with her, ask her out, go for it.

Women are far more mature than men at any age and i dont care what anyone says, im now almost 27 and my GF is 20, we have tons in common and mix among all our friends no problem, ive never had it suggested nor has she, that we were wrong for each other, indeed most of her mates wither think or thought i was only 22 or thereabouts

Its ALL good and well worth it if she likes you too. Whatever you do, DONT act or be possessive and be VERY patient with her mates if they ARE giving you trouble, she is young and needs her space and probably wont have you moaning about her friends.
:rolleyes:

If you want more advice, drop me a line!! ww)

Trojan

Damn the begrudgers and moralists - life is for living.

Al.

Shiminay

OK, I'm not reading everyone elses stuff, but as someone who's been through exactly as you're talking about, I'll say don't do it. As many people know I (25) used to go out with a certain moderator of this very board (18) and while I'm not going to get into specifics of why we broke up here, our age gap had a negative impact that I've only come to realise in retrospect (dunno if you agree with that Fio, but that's the way I see some of it).

So, I'd say feel free to have a bit of fun, but don't get into a more permanent kind of relationship without giving the matter some very serious thought.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

why do you take care not to mention her name, and then mention it 6 words later?

tman

Originally posted by thegills
17 is not that young; remember;

- Once the roof is thatched it's time to move in

or

- If there's grass on the pitch it's time to play ball

smiles

Personally I'd say that if both the people involved have a good idea of what is involved then it can work out, but both people need to be aware and understanding of the limitations and boundaries that can be involved then it can work out quite well, but only if both people are willing to work at it.

Originally posted by Kharn
OK, I'm not reading everyone elses stuff, but as someone who's been through exactly as you're talking about, I'll say don't do it. As many people know I (25) used to go out with a certain moderator of this very board (18) and while I'm not going to get into specifics of why we broke up here, our age gap had a negative impact that I've only come to realise in retrospect (dunno if you agree with that Fio, but that's the way I see some of it).

:shrug: you have your own insights and thoughts on the matter. I prefer not to discuss my personal life here.

<< Fio >>

Mercury_Tilt

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patch

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
are you not the homesick one though?

LOL.Now THATS an eye for detail Typie...........gwan, ask her what height she is.....:D

Mercury_Tilt

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MrNuked

I think Smiles and Kharn still love each other. You can tell.

You see this is why you shouldn't discuss your personal life on this board. Because of the voyeuristic attraction to people like me.

I'll feel like a twat for posting this whenI sober up.

yes 20.10 is starting early. so what.

I'm working night sin a stupid job and my girlfriend is several thousand miles away and will be for another two months.

That's not that off-topic actually because she's 19 and I'm 23. She's more grown-up than me in a lot of ways.
Actually i met her when she was 15 and I liked her then even, but obviously had to wait a long time before doing anything about it. (Doing anything about it other than being really nice to her that is). Four years. Now I have to wait again. She's moving in with me in September though.

That's why i've been so interested in this thread.

Mercury_Tilt

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Shiminay

heeheehee - you said it mate: twat

Typedef

Hmm....

contrary to former pontification on the subject (by my good self), I recently had a fling (and perhaps more), with a (rather attractive) lady who is oh... about 30/31.
I'm 23 and while it would be great to see her more, we live in different counties, so that part would be difficult at the outset...
where was I....

Oh yeah the age thing wouldn't stop me. But, then again, I'm not a self righteous girl, who thinks it's ok to go out with people much older then me, by virtue of the fact.... "I'm a girl"
Logic, obviously is not a strong suit for some.

Anyway at least I'm not under the impression she was with me, because she found me mature, (maybe she did) but, I'm thinking it was mostly good sex for her.

*sigh*
We'll see how this one pans out.

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Typedef
I'm thinking it was mostly good sex for her

or desperation.....

sorry, couldn't resist!

Typedef

sorry, couldn't resist!

That's what she said

*sigh*...

Kell

Originally posted by Typedef

That's what she said

*sigh*... [/B]

Narcissus speaks

Back to what Al said ages ago. Lifes for living and the bloke who originally posted shouldn't be put off by some folk saying "been there. Dont go down that road". You never know, it might just work out.

K-

catspring

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
are you not the homesick one though?

yep, thats me. but im useless when it comes to being away from home. i went to the gaeltacht during summer in secondary school, and had to go home after 8 days.

what has that got to do with this thread though?

b3t4

IF You Like her AND Don't care about age "issue"
Go out with her
IF You Like her AND Care about age issue
//this thread suggests you do care about it
Don't go out with her
IF You Like her AND Care about what other people think
Don't go out with her

That is all.
A.

Victor

I'd say go for it, but for the work connection (or wait til she turns 18).

hurleymike54

seriously thinking now of askin her out.....
people in work hinting that we would make a good couple.....

am i reading too much into that.....
i certainly havent said anything.......17 and 25.....hmm not sure
but f£$£ it, whats the worse that can happen.....
nothing ventured nothing gained...i think.....

but the best way to ask here....theres the next thing....

sceptre

Originally posted by MrNuked

Actually i met her when she was 15 and I liked her then even, but obviously had to wait a long time before doing anything about it.

I met my current GF when she was 13. She was nearly 14 though if it makes any difference. I thought she had cute eyes and a nice bottom for someone who hadn't done her junior cert yet.

I was 15 (that day, actually). Stop getting excited, perverts

AL][EN

Id agree with mostly whats been said on this thread already
i would wait until she's 18 and if you really are crazy about her then go for it 8 years isnt that much of a difference, better to have loved and lost than never loved at all isnt that what they say?

really tho its better to say "I'd tried it it was great for a time and it didnt work out" than to say "damn i wish i had tried it on with that wee lass all those years ago"

Believe me from personal experience here there's nothing worse than "what if"

razorfeather

Originally posted by Sangre
You do realise that since you are over 18 it is stautory rape until she is 18.
Im mostly referring to xx.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but its ok for two 17 year olds to make whoopie, but when one of them turns 18 its a no-no.

oopsies

Havelock

There is a 5 year (4 and a half to be exact) between me and my girlfriend. Its not a big deal, I get stick from my friends and family but I don't care. I am in love, she is in love we are very happy. Maturity is dependant on the person not the age, at 16 I was more mature than most 30 year old men or women.

If it is more than just sex and lust it will be worth risking asking her out, if it is only sex well I can't comment because if you can't say anything nice...

Hopefully its because you really like her, and I hope she likes you too. The worst that can happen is that she says no. Age is irrelavent in love and happyness.

My little sister brought home her 21 year old b/f when she was 17, I thought I would be more pissed off and suspious than I was, they now are engaged and one of the happyist couples I know. They have been living together for almost a year.

How would everyon see it, if it where a 25 year woman after her 17 year old male co-worker. Equal rights exist, as of yet equal bias is unlegisated.

nuvolari

the age of consent is 17, and i think its only satutory rape if one of you is over 5 years older than the other. ie. a 17 year old and a 22 year old is ok, but older than 22 isn't. i might be wrong but i think thats the gist of it

Victor

No, the only age rule about having sex with someone is whether they are 17 or not, no sliding scale. Anyone over 17 can have sex with anyone else they agree to, who is also over 17 and agrees. The only differences that age makes is you will get a longer sentence for having sex with someone under 15 than someone under 17.

Mossy Monk

i'm having a look at the http://www.ageofconsent.com website that was posted on the 1st page

some of what is there has shocked me, literally

in Spain the age of consent is 13 :eek:

for Holland it says this: sex between an adult and a young person between the ages of 12 and 16 is permitted by law, as long as the young person consents :eek: :eek: