Shyness and Sadness

LegacyUser

Ive got some issues atm with da Women as it were, I can talk to most girls in the group im in easy enough and I get on really well and talk to them a lot . But "and their is always a but" Im in 6th year atm and their is a perticular person i like(waits for groans). Anyway i only have a few classes a week with her so im nervous about it. I build my self up to talk to her and i cant quite find the moment I cant even think of anything to say, Lately i can fake Confidence with most people so its grand. I dont think im physically attractive really but im not a dog "there is nothing wrong with you " was how it was put once. What should i do , I dont have much to loose. Would any girl be freaked out if i sat next to her and just started chatting or would you smell guys intentions right off. Its getting my kind of depressed as i havnt had a girlfriend yet and its "normal" to have one , anyway thats all i have really . Thx a Million

CivilServant

Beffore i say this please note that i'm piseed off my head. ~Get over ur ****ing shyness, it's bull****e, it's not real, it's in your head. get over it. Acutallly forget it theres. Walk around like its not there. And especially get over this girl, get with some other girl. When the girl u like sees u with some other girl, she'll realise, what a catch u are and will notice u. It's all in ur best interestt. most of all do something!!! ARggghhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

Tellox

...try not to give advice again under the influence.
Shyness is indeed in your head, but it cant really be shaken out by simply telling it to do so. And theres the constant fear of "what if she tells my mates and they goul at me, what if she has a bf and he gives me a slap, what if..." ect ect.

Try get to know her, get her phone number ect, try joke about going out with her sometime and see how she follows it up.

Best of luck.

Beruthiel

CivilServant try not to post in PI while under the infulance
mmkky?

He does have a point though, time to tell yourself that you are the bees knees and the spiders ankles, kick that shyness in the ass and walk up to her like she'd be a fool not to want you*

*I am however, not responsible if this does not work

j0e9o

yeah u just need to take control of the situation distance ureself from the emotion, look at it from a 3rd person and everything should be a lot easier to take in also if u do feel ureself start to get nervious 3 deep breaths usually does the trick

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Emboss

Originally posted by thomasmckinless
yeah u just need to take control of the situation distance ureself from the emotion, look at it from a 3rd person and everything should be a lot easier to take in also if u do feel ureself start to get nervious 3 deep breaths usually does the trick

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sure you do a chance to make it 401 what more do you want ?

back on topic.....it doesn't seem to me like your a shy person at all...your just fearfull of been rejected by this girl in particular as you like her so much...

the thing is what have you to loose ? you don't have her now anyway so if she says no....nothing changes you still don't have her.....if she says yes.....well not only do you have her you'll get over this fear and not be afraid to ask someone else... teh win! etc

ganam

Try and find out what she's interested in and if there's anything you have in common (even slightly), you have your in.

LegacyUser

fair enough but would she know what i was about right away, i mean are girls freaked if u sit beside them and talk or what

Typedef

What should i do

Query a mutual female friend of your's and her's on the status of said friend, ensuring you put across your own amourous intent.

Women being what they are, this intermediary will blab, the fact that you fancy this girl. At this point, you can allow the knowledge of you fancying said other party sink into the target females head, without walking up to her and making a tit out of yourself.

You remain, aloof and thus desirable.

Or she totally blows you off.... no pun.