Marriage and virginity question

CyberGhost

Hi!

As you probably understood from the name of the topic I'm interested in your opinions about marrying a non virgin girl, what do you think about it? does it matter to you? does it bother you that the girl you are about to marry is not a virgin? of course you shouldn't expect women over 30 to be virgins but.... be honest not 30 but it's hard to find a non virgin girl over 18!

I'm not saying that I'm against marrying non virgins, actually I don't care, but couple of days ago I was at this party where they started talking about this and many people actually cared! which surprized me! I'm just interested in what you guys think about it

Karoma

indifferent.

may i ask: why is she a virgin?

Auburn

Over 18? That's a bit optimistic.

I don't understand why some men have this obsession. I think it was more common years ago. They want someone who's sweetness and light, brimming with innocence and then expect her to be dynamite in bed. Sorry, but the two don't go together.

Karoma

Originally posted by Auburn
Over 18? That's a bit optimistic.

I don't understand why some men have this obsession. I think it was more common years ago. They want someone who's sweetness and light, brimming with innocence and then expect her to be dynamite in bed. Sorry, but the two don't go together.

i'd agree that initially sex will probably be really crap - especially if you care / love her - you won't enjoy hurting her...

Auburn

Originally posted by Karoma
you won't enjoy hurting her...

Why are my sarcasm detectors going off?

Chinafoot

also indifferent.

as for it being difficult to find a virgin over 18, i dont see that as a necessarily bad thing. i mean its over the legal age and theres not too many men or women these days that are of the belief that sex is only meant for people in love and then in turn should only be carried out in marriage.

i've been in love and wanted to sleep with him. didnt mean i was going to marry him.

however i think if people strongly believe in it then fair play to them.

oh and just a question....are u a virgin?

Chinafoot

oh and did anyone else notice that while some men do have this obsession many of them arent virgins?? whats that all about? why should they get their leg over and then refuse to marry a girl unless she's a virgin? doesnt make much sense really.:rolleyes:

Karoma

no sarcasm.

(since he's not replying any time soon) I'll answer for him-no. he is not a virgin. (....c'mon!)

use the edit function


virgins are few and far between .:. 'exotic'. double standards as you'd expect... :rolleyes:

CyberGhost

who is not?

Karoma

Originally posted by CyberGhost
who is not?

....?...

Auburn

You.

CyberGhost

yea I'm not!

but i'm a man! it's ok with me!

Chinafoot

Originally posted by CyberGhost
yea I'm not!

but i'm a man! it's ok with me!

WTF??

Auburn

Originally posted by peachypants
WTF??

You may notice that you asked him a question about eightposts up?

Karoma

*vvoooooOOOOOOOOOOooooooooooom* the point just missed me!

double standards it seems has proven true...

CyberGhost

Originally posted by Auburn
You may notice that you asked him a question about eightposts up?

heheh

Karoma

roiiiight...slipped further into the quicksand that is PI thread :rolleyes:
goodnight.

The_Bullman

I don't think being a virgin when getting married is all that important in Ireland. However, in other countries, for example America (especially the so called bible belt) it seems to be more important. Of course they seem to get married at a much younger age-presumably because they were gagging for it.

Chinafoot

why thank you auburn i was aware of that. my WTF was related to the "i'm a man!" part of his response.

secret_squirrel

I couldnt imagine marrying anyone I hadnt had sex with, I mean its an important part of a normal healthy relationship.

IMHO you'd have to be a control freak or a religious nutcase to insist the girl you marry is a virgin. In this day and age??? I dont think so.

I'd hope that the poor woman I end up marrying had taught me a thing or two before the wedding!

Lainey

Originally posted by secret_squirrel
I couldnt imagine marrying anyone I hadnt had sex with, I mean its an important part of a normal healthy relationship.

have to agree with this... could never marry someone intendig to spend the rest of my life with them and not know what we were like together.. no way.. :dunno:

FireFly

I'm from the American bible belt area...virginity is not really the big issue its how often does one sleep around and the reason why most people get married around here at a young age is because they got pregnant.

Besides alot of guys I know probably wouldn't marry a virgin but are fascinated with trying to score one

Me on the other hand I wouldn't want a virgin guy...I want someone with experience with me

silverside

ah c'mere - this should be in AH

how many virgins do you find around these days at a marriageable age? No disrespect to anyone who is.

Most people have played the field for a while, nothing wrong with that at all.

DrummerBoy

This kinda reminds me of an expression that a girl I used to work with told me. Her mom had told her "X, remember this. You gotta sleep with the whore and marry the virgin"
I fell about laughing when i heard this. Just thought it was class!!

Red Alert

It wouldn't really bother me at all whether she was or not. If she's not then the sex is probably going to be a bit better... practice makes perfect.

The Corinthian

I always got the impression that men who want to marry virgins, did so because they did not want to be compared with any other man on account that they would probably come up wanting, as it were.

And, TBH, most women bring enough emotional baggage to a relationship without adding their deflowering to it.

Syke

i only ever sleep with virgins. every girl so far for me usually in first year college so if ya go to freshers balls in autumn you get a good pick. lotsa people say they like the chase and stuff and i think a challenge is a turnon. ya gotta lower your standards sometimes.

Sleepy

Why would anyone keep their virginity until their weddings nowadays? Surely we're past the repressive Catholic nonsense that plagued our country for so long?

I couldn't marry someone I hadn't been in a relationship with for a long time and during that length of time I would expect to be having a sexual relationship with that person.

Beruthiel

this is not a personal issue
moved to AH
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villain_97

I think it's unlikely a person in todays Ireland is gona wait until marriage to have sex.I agree with much of what has been said above.In terms of children,I think I would hate to have children outside of marriage so I take precaution while having sex.

Civilian_Target

Hear hear. Marriage is the time when you stop buying condoms.

pork99

She had damn well better be a virgin or I will want my money back

CuLT

Originally posted by Civilian_Target
Hear hear. Marriage is the time when you stop buying condoms.

Or start; who the hell wants 20 kids sucking up their income?

FireFly

Here's a question for the guys...I've heard that sex is better for the guys mostly without condoms is that true?

CyberGhost

yes!

without comdoms you feel more!

AdMMM

Originally posted by FireFly
Here's a question for the guys...I've heard that sex is better for the guys mostly without condoms is that true?

Even those ultra-thin ones can't compare...

Slutmonkey57b

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CyberGhost

wow! now i know why you called yourself slut, you are a slut

Saviour_Angel

Originally posted by Karoma


may i ask: why is she a virgin?

Because she hasn't had sex yet !

ixoy

I'm completely befuddled as to why any man would expect his fianceé to be a virgin unless he too was in the same boat. I suppose it's viable to want to marry a virgin, however, if you're looking to performi blood sacrifice to Satan. In that case I thiink it's acceptable.

MojoMaker

Cos it's a troll.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by ixoy
I'm completely befuddled as to why any man would expect his fianceé to be a virgin unless he too was in the same boat. I suppose it's viable to want to marry a virgin, however, if you're looking to performi blood sacrifice to Satan. In that case I thiink it's acceptable.

Yup. It's a little prehistoric, and utterly unreasonable, for my tastes.

Kersh

I dont really mind either, just once she is not a bike. Or has gone around a circle of friends. I would not say there are many 18+ virgins out there...that are any fun...

catsup

im thinkin that the men who want to marry virgins are doing so because they cant take criticism. having no prior carnal knowledge means the woman has nothing to compare the marital bed to.

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by catsup
im thinkin that the men who want to marry virgins are doing so because they cant take criticism. having no prior carnal knowledge means the woman has nothing to compare the marital bed to.

I think he also has some kind of jealousy/controlling issues.

I mean, what's so bad about a woman whose had sex before? I can't think of anything wrong with it...

CyberGhost

yea man! the started of this thread is a complete troll!

Get lost!

Antisocialiser

Youd have to be shaggin her before you got married so she wouldnt be a virgin. I wouldnt want to spend 3 (at least) pre-marital years without the ride

ven0m

All I know is if I marry someone, I ain't got the patience to teach them alllll the filth I know, so they better be a pro ... LOL.... so much filth so little time.... ain't it always like that?????


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JustHalf

This is one weird thread.

I'd like to get married. If I do, I don't really mind if my wife isn't a virgin.

I'd like to have remained a virgin myself until I get married. I also think it's perfectly understandable that people have hang-ups about being compared to other people with regards to their sexual performance. Sex is something that most people have hang-ups about.

The only good reason I can think of for wanting to marry a virgin is that, if I do, I can wear my "Worst lover my wife has ever had" t-shirt without it being embarassingly accurate.

I fear any woman I might marry would stab me for that kind of thing, but such sacrifices must be made for the sake of the joke.