the rules of socialising.uhh

Raz

me wrote:

This is usually because you've already gotten the best seats in the house and the one directly infront of you are the next best.

atlas wrote:

and one row behind aren't?

No because then they could see you.

me wrote:

Putting your feet up on the seat infront only serves to block your own view and give you a sore ass anyway.

atlas wrote:

try it its actually more comfy! Especially with longer legs.

Have tried it and I don't like it and think it's inconsiderate and rude. Why should a person be left to feel awkward about picking that seat? If you didn't have your legs all over it they wouldn't.

Hanginthere

I think this only applies to guys, but after a concert you feel obliged to talk to people and because both partys have experienced the same thing you can talk about it , I recall a incident of a group of people hanging around after the Anthrax concert who we started a class conversation with, its like a testosteone O.D or somthing

elivsvonchiaing

Remember Mrs Doyle in Father ted: Will ya have a cup of tea father? Ah go on, go on, go on etc. This was based upon the typical Irish custom of refusing hospitality when offered (so you don't seem like a sponger), obliging the host to re-express the offer until it is accepted.

I actually remember encountering this when I was a kid. Just have to wonder are there people still like this Ireland?

ionapaul

Raz wrote:

I remember a particular situation in the UGC cinema (before it got it's swanky overhaul) and there was some little scumbag up the back who was throwing skittles or something small and hard like that. He hit myself and my gf a couple of times so I was going to get up and say something. My gf stopped me but a few minutes later a guy in front of me got up and went to them threatening that he'd get them kicked out. The throwing of skittles promptly stopped.

My younger brother and I were in the UCG last weekend and after a while I notice my brother looking around behind him. Then I got hit with a sweet or something! My brother leans over and says 'I think someone is throwing sweets at us'. This was bizarre as my brother is about 6'4", very broad (rows for Ireland) and no-one would mess with him - I'm not tall but still well built. The adrenelin started flowing and I was ready to go back and start threatening to bust heads, then my brother got hit again, turned around quick as a flash and said outloud 'lads, do that again and I'll have ye kicked out' (and got quite a few people saying 'it wasn't us, it wasn't us')...turns out it was two young lads in their early teens! Idiots then got so scared they left before the movie was over! It was very weird, I wouldn't have thought anybody would throw things at strangers in a cinema unless they expected a fight and expected to win.

Raz

The worst thing about it is that it ruins the whole atmosphere of the film you're watching. You're all cooked up on adrenelin and ready to bust heads, as you say, but it doesn't come to pass. And then you're left looking at the slow intimate part of the film and there you are raring for a fight. Your heart rate is up and you're breathing deep to slow it. You just can't relax back into the film for about another half an hour.
Completely ruins the whole film experience that you've paid too much to see anyway.

Raz

Raz wrote:

Have tried it and I don't like it and think it's inconsiderate and rude.

I want to reconsider my feelings on this. I think it's rude and inconsiderate if you take up the leg sprawled position before the film starts. If, 20 minutes into the film, you decide you wish to stretch your legs and ease yourself into a position you find more comfortable, then, if the seat before you is empty with a space of about two seats either side free, by all means take up the sprawling legs position.

elivsvonchiaing

Just identified another one - this applies to boards. I noticed there's one guy I have ended-up posting in a thread immediately after him. Twice (didn't really think about it the second time). Followed a thread and this guy is at then end. Felt if I post the guy will think I'm stalking him - just feels too much like when there's a guy in the pub with perfect bladder synch to you - just embarassing really

chewy

whether you talk, or make eye contact with a friend in communal showers

the ah go on go on one, that's one i have great diffcultiy with, if im in a pub and i offer someone a drink and they so no, i say ok and off i go to get me own....

elivsvonchiaing

Jesus Christ it just happened again. Only this time I post a reply to a thread - when I look at it there's Flukey just ahead of me. I am not stalking you Flukey it is just the synched-bladder phenomenon. PM to be sent...

Jamesobrady

Actually....i don't mind being hit with a sweet in the cinema....you turn around and its usually obvious who did it-one of the gang of 13yr old ****s up the back....who all know if it comes to it anyone grown up could tear them all apart.
My fear is someone getting a luckily stealthy shot and landing chewing gum into my popcorn without me knowing....i'd puke. I'd definately aim it at them though.
One time a guy in front of a similar crowd left his seat and went up and sat beside them.....they were making "baldy" comments and he got annoyed. Everyone had a quiet watch after that. I have to admit i admire the gesture.

One time in limerick though there were a group of about 3 guys drinkin cans and listening to walk mans loud through a quiet film shouting about what they'd do to the lead actress.....nobody said anything...then just as everyone's good patience was about to break they all left.

The worst hospitality thing is when you're not in the least bit hungry and someone doesn't accept your "no-im grand thanks, really!" and goes makes tea and takes out the biscuits and puts them on a plate and then tells you every 2 minutes..."go on have a biscuit". I mean you can fit in a cup of tea and be polite....but you feel ignorant refusing food thats on a plate!

In Limerick and Leixlip sharing taxi's is a must if you wanna get home!

Flukey

Look, there he is officer! I told you, everywhere I go, he is there. He calls himself elivsvonchiaing, but I bet that is not his real name. Go on, take him in for questioning. I can't go anywhere without him being there!! It's been happening for days! When you release him, make sure it's miles from here! This is supposed to be a World Wide Web, yet he is always there, staring at me and doing all sorts of strange and unsociable things. Get him out of here! Get him away from me, forever!!!

elivsvonchiaing

Flukey wrote:

Look, there he is officer! I told you, everywhere I go, he is there. He calls himself elivsvonchiaing, but I bet that is not his real name. Go on, take him in for questioning. I can't go anywhere without him being there!! It's been happening for days! When you release him, make sure it's miles from here! This is supposed to be a World Wide Web, yet he is always there, staring at me and doing all sorts of strange and unsociable things. Get him out of here! Get him away from me, forever!!!

I'm sorry officer this man is a patient of mine. I assure you he is harmless

chewy

elivsvonchiaing - what is that?

and your location is bayside/kilbarack? wheres that now?

Flukey

Hey! What did you let him out for? He is masquerading as a doctor now! Right, that's it, I am out of here! Time I was in bed anyhow! Officer, there is a full moon in a few nights, so make sure you double lock the door and put a guard on the cell!

elivsvonchiaing

chewy wrote:

elivsvonchiaing - what is that?

and your location is bayside/kilbarack? wheres that now?

It's what it is - a handle- Elivs for the location - the VC - just to be unusual -and know that I can register at least a variation of this anywhere.

Apologies for using a fictional location. Its actually Barrystown.

elivsvonchiaing

Flukey wrote:

Hey! What did you let him out for? He is masquerading as a doctor now! Right, that's it, I am out of here! Time I was in bed anyhow! Officer, there is a full moon in a few nights, so make sure you double lock the door and put a guard on the cell!

Hehe. That's right Flukey - nurse Ratchet here used to be my ex : and she's not even a proper nurse {gothic evil cackle} BTW you're not out of here but this dellusion suggests you are making progress. I wish I could preside over the group therapy session tomorrow but I'm off on holiday. I'm sure your recovery will be impeded by my absence - but I need to get a tan and drink cheap beers too

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end psychiatric rant

Whotf could have thought a PM could degenerate to this? :rolleyes:

I did offer olive branch in my last PM but Flukey- I've no idea what your problem is :eek:

harmless: wtf was I thinking? :eek:

pretty-in-pink

i dont mind helping but i do mind when peopel get narky with you and are ignorant, or expect you to get all their shopping for them AND wrap it while they sit in the shop like a meanie. the store is so fifferent though, cause customers are not allowed there.

nice people are grand but rude people...............

Naos

when your at the traffic lights and someone pulls up beside. You cant look in the direction of the other driver, otherwise you will perceived as a weirdo or you want a race - ANDO

hehhee that was f**king hilarious. Im in a hungover but not hurting mode. so stuff is really making me laugh here. Smoke me a kipper - very amusing bus story too heh.

The spacing thing is about the persons relationship with you. If they are a stranger you will want space as opposed to them being ur mate or whatever. Sounds obvious but in psychcology readin that i delved into for a min, they have 'acceptable' spaces between people. like 1 ft for family, 3 ft for strangers type thing. Anything closer would initiate a kind of tension...

impr0v

Any architects reading this thread take note that from now on all buildings should be designed with an individual soundproof toilet for each occupant of the building, an individual lift and corridors should be one way so that people do not meet while in transit, but walk looking at each other's back.

Any restaurant owners reading this thread take note that you should erect a small screen midtable so that no part of the diners mouth or plate, or any of the distance in between those two places, is visible to the person on the other side of table.

Civil engineers take note that pavements should be wide enough to avoid any possible intersection of pedestrian desire lines. Either make them one way, or cover the country in pavements.

Bus designers, no more double seats in buses, soundproof, one person booths, large enough to accommodate individuals of 6' 5" in height comfortably. A new mechanism must be designed to regulate and order people at the bus stop so that they cannot interact, Ideally some kind of slot machine type arrange which people load themselves into, facing the back of the person in front, which then dispenses its load into the afore mentioned soundproof booths when the bus comes. Bus windows to be opaque to avoid occupants staring at people at the stop.

Car designers, no more side windows please, too many people staring at red lights.

Cinema designers, individual screens, with overhead anit-sugarcoated-missile mesh just in case.

Rather than implementing all the above it might just be easier for everyone to shrinkwrap themselves in black plastic before leaving the house.

combs

It's no wonder there's such a thing as social isolation. Such hang-ups and petty peeves.

Do you know that your reluctance to engage in simple mannerly pleasantries is what makes others uncomfortable? Talk about the weather or other meaningless ****e is just a means to make people around you feel comfortable. Maybe if we can all relax a bit and be more pleasant we'll no longer have to get drunk in order to interact.

pickarooney

When you're saying goodbye to someone you've known for about 6 months to a year and you have to go through the motions of pretending you're going to meet up in three months in Finland or that they'll be back from Japan 'in no time' and your kids will all spend Christmas together...

Pyr0

And also,does anyone else hate it when your in town (dublin) particualry on Henry.st the people who you know ( idont mean your mates) are going to sell YOU a scratch card.im one of those people ho have to stop and hear what they have to say it really is anoying but i cant help myself.

And i've also noticed those same people wear the style of clothes you do.