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manof20 wrote:

You seem to have a condition called Incel (Involuntarily celibate). I'm not taking the piss it actually exists. It's worth knowing that there are people like this out there. It pisses me off that some people assume that everyone has had a bf/gf when not everyone has. Indeed, the only thing certain in life is death.

Not if your Jesus

Maccattack

Dax Wax wrote:

not great advice for the girl, since 14 she's prob been wondering is there something wrong with her when obviously theres not and your askin her to relax? If ya want my number pm me Im lonely now!!!(joke). just do what the rest says but when you think its right. being a virgin isnt a problem either. it will be great when it happens

That is perfect advice. She has nothing to panic about. She is only 20. Just because she doesnt have a boyfriend NOW doesnt mean she NEVER will.

The best thing she can do is relax about it. Her husband will be glad she never had loads of boyfriends or one night stands when she was younger.

Victor

Civilian_Target wrote:

no-ones looking for a quick shag

Confounded!

the_syco

Victor wrote:

Confounded!

Hush, let them think that...:D

Draupnir

Someone needs to organise a boards beers thats actually a boards speed dating night. Seriously, the number of potential matches is fantastic.

OP, I wouldnt worry about your age, you'll definitely meet someone, probably soon. Just stop making it an issue and it will happen. Relax, go out with friends and if you see some you like and would like to see again, dont be afraid to pursue the issue.

If you ask a guy out he will 9 times out of ten accept.

styer

OP, don't worry about it at all, just get out there, join some societies and get involved, even if you don't meet anyone, at least it will start to build your confidence, they say you find a relationship when you are least looking for it, it's true cause your not pushing it, your more relaxed and that can come across well, I was older when I had my first proper girlfriend.. give it time you are still very young, it will come.....

The Troll

I didnt meet my 1st serious g/f until i was 22. Just give it time. Everyone gets down about it when they're not with someone, but usually, it all comes together.

I'm happier than ever now 20 months down the line.

Note: Girls do go for assholes, for some reason it's more attractive to them. Girls and guys for that matter get extremely attached to a partner that is less interested or that treats them like crap. Thats a fact. Of course there r e lots of loving relationships out there, but there are also countless examples of what i mentioned.

styer

your right, girls seem to go for the bad boy that will treat them like crap, eventually they will go for the nice guy, they see him in a decent job living a respectable life, treating people as they deserve to be treated etc.... but by then usually all the nice guys usually aren't interested....

Laguna

styer wrote:

your right, girls seem to go for the bad boy that will treat them like crap, eventually they will go for the nice guy, they see him in a decent job living a respectable life, treating people as they deserve to be treated etc.... but by then usually all the nice guys usually aren't interested....

Indeed, I'd regard myself as an easy going guy and wouldn't be interested in a girl coming on to me who'd had her fun and done the rounds with all the 'bad boys', like I'm 2nd best; I'd rather stay single.

Dax Wax

styer wrote:

your right, girls seem to go for the bad boy that will treat them like crap, eventually they will go for the nice guy, they see him in a decent job living a respectable life, treating people as they deserve to be treated etc.... but by then usually all the nice guys usually aren't interested....

spot on. btwn 17 - 25 bad boys seem great option, and without trying to sound sexist girls seem to grow out of it and look beyond it. I think they can argue though that most guys between 17 - 23 still act 12 anyway so Im gettin that out of the way before that arguement starts.

I wouldnt worry to much, it will happen in time. Like another said my sisters are alot older than me and didnt meet their fellas till 26/27 so you have loads of time. No need to rush stuff like that. It can be lonely but it really is a matter of gettin to know as many people as you can and getting out there. someone will catch your eye

Neo#

Im a 22 year old guy and i have never had a gf or serious relationship. I try not to worry about it. You do get feelings like you have to hurry up. Like time is running out. Things have been looking up for me recently though with girls showing interest. I think everyone develops in their own time with this stuff. Im finding out now though that you have to get out there and start making it happen rather than hopeing it will happen to you. I like the sound of that boards speed dating. How cool would that be? Maybe you should give internet dating a go. At least everybody is in the same situation then?

LegacyUser

ya i agree with the last post, Im 21 F and have never had a serious b-friend, just a few dates TBH It's great fun being single and I know I wont be able to do it forever. At least I can say I didn't miss out on all the fun that college can be and this is because ive never had to consider someone else. Ive been able to head abroad for the last 3 summers and enjoy them completely without missing anyone. So don't stress your not the only one out there who is still single and never gone out with someone... enjoy it while your still young!!! I know by going out and enjoying being single I will one day meet the guy that makes me completely happy, until then I wont stress.

styer

you fing with relationships when it rains it really pours

ferdi

yeah but i'm sitting on a twenty year drought over here!

Maccattack

20 years???

20 years and no - you know???

styer

Laguna wrote:

Indeed, I'd regard myself as an easy going guy and wouldn't be interested in a girl coming on to me who'd had her fun and done the rounds with all the 'bad boys', like I'm 2nd best; I'd rather stay single.

It's amazing, some girls get treated like crap by there boyfriends, then when they finally grow out of it or get a grip with themselves they go looking for a nice guy, someone she can settle down with, she has had her fun, lived her live etc, so the nice guy is 2nd best...

Siogfinsceal

I was the same until 2 years ago honey i know exactly how you feel (in fact I feel better after reading it!). I was never into being with anyone in school and in colege I lived quite a distance away and didnt socialise. I had a fling of a few weeks with an @sshole at 21 and at 23 met a guy and we went out for a bit but he was never really a boyfriend. Then last year I started going out with a friend id had for a while. we have been together a year now so it just goes to show these things do happen. im glad it took til now to find him and that I didnt just go off with the first guy who liked me for the sake of having a boyf (you wul dbe surprised how many girls do that). Being single makes you a strong and independant peron and these are great qualities to have and they will play a big part when you do get together with someone. Just take your time and relax - the right person will find you!!).

also look aon the brightside - at least you didnt end up going out with someone when you were younger and ending up pregnant young or catching an std or discovering you didnt real love him something like that!! ;-)