Rejection

EFC-4eva

Over the last 2 months at school I've got to know the girl really well. Nicest person to talk to and ever so interesting. I've fallen for her big time, at a disco there tonight I told her how I felt, didn't go down so well. Then I seen her with another lad. Just ruins your whole night ye know.

dundalk cailin

aw sorry to hear that, rejection is never nice, are ya still mates tho? what age are ya?

EFC-4eva

I'm 15, she's 14, yeah we are still mates..but knowing this world we live in it aint enough.

yermandan

EFC-4eva wrote:

I'm 15, she's 14, yeah we are still mates..but knowing this world we live in it aint enough.

Rejection is never easy mate.The only thing that I could tell ya is that you WILL get over her but it will take time.These are the things you have to go through because they do make you stronger and the next time you face an experience like this you will be able to handle it better because you will be able to call on your previous experience to help you out.

On a much more positive note, its only a matter of time before you meet someone who likes you as much as you like them.

Chin up;)


Dan;)

EFC-4eva

Forgot to mention I live in blessington sorry, all the girls go for the sham sandwiches.

yermandan

EFC-4eva wrote:

Forgot to mention I live in blessington sorry, all the girls go for the sham sandwiches.

Thats cleared everything up then!!:eek:

EFC-4eva

Never mind that, it just makes it hard to find nice girls. She's in my school..

yermandan

What is a sham sandwich bro???

dundalk cailin

yea i aint from blessington, so not aware of that phrase??

chump

it's a nice phrase tho

if you told her you supported everton it may have been your problem ha ha just kidding it could be worse.

seriously though your only 15 and im afraid rejection comes part and parcel of growing up. i know only too well.

move on and show her what shes missing.

remeber every no is one step closer to a yes

Exon

Treat them mean to keep them kean(sp?)

In my experience so far never tell a girl you love her/really like her untill you're well established as partners, especially a teenaged girl. By the way I think everyone in the whole world has been trough this. You don't love her, you have romanticized her in your head.

condra

Firstly- presuming youre still mad about this girl, its not the end of the world, and you may have a chance with her some time in the future.

More importantly tho dude- 3 things.

Firstly the fact that you had the guts to tell her means you have balls of steel.

The fact that you could come and discuss it on a forum means youre mature and in touch with your emotions.

Also, the fact that youre glad of her friendship and didnt turn against her when she "rejected" you means youre more of a man then most men my age.

I guarentee youll meet lots more crackin girls in the next few months and years. It wont be long before youre able to have a pint in the pub and check out the abundance of great girls Ireland has to offer.

You have a good attitude and it will serve you well. When you do strike gold, whoever she is, shes gonna wanna keep you.

Red Alert

yes you actually handles this very well indeed. take care.

dundalk cailin

fair play to you, at 15 having the balls to tell her how u feel, and guys a lot older than u, cant pluck up the courage when they're in the same situation as you

ferdi

dundalk cailin wrote:

fair play to you, at 15 having the balls to tell her how u feel, and guys a lot older than u, cant pluck up the courage when they're in the same situation as you

ah you see now when i was 15, i had the bottle to ask a girl out etc no bother, but nowadays i seem to have lost the plot in this regard altogether....

dundalk cailin

maybe the childhood innocence is gone?

ferdi

i think its more i've lost the unstopable drive for some action brought on by puberty.

however, i think i jus recentlyt hit PubertyII, if that makes any sense :rolleyes:

dundalk cailin

i just checked your age theire to see what age puberty II hits at, your only 20, i thought u were older

its all so new and shiny at 15, huh? what happened to the good old days...

ferdi

i think puberty hits every 5 years or so...

yeah girls were very new and shiney at 15:D , come to think of it, they're just as new and shiney today 5 years on...oh how depressing:(

dundalk cailin

so im due a puberty hit next year?? :eek:

well guys are not so new and shiny as they were 4 years ago unfortunately

ferdi

obviously meeting the wrong guys, some of us are still blindingly shiny;)

dundalk cailin

is that so? i must be missing out you'll have to direct me to some shinier (happier??) people

StonedParadoX

womoma wrote:

Firstly- presuming youre still mad about this girl, its not the end of the world, and you may have a chance with her some time in the future.

More importantly tho dude- 3 things.

Firstly the fact that you had the guts to tell her means you have balls of steel.

The fact that you could come and discuss it on a forum means youre mature and in touch with your emotions.

Also, the fact that youre glad of her friendship and didnt turn against her when she "rejected" you means youre more of a man then most men my age.

I guarentee youll meet lots more crackin girls in the next few months and years. It wont be long before youre able to have a pint in the pub and check out the abundance of great girls Ireland has to offer.

You have a good attitude and it will serve you well. When you do strike gold, whoever she is, shes gonna wanna keep you.

thats very inspiring man

if i wasnt such an anti social prick i'd be hella motivated

top marks man good well put together post

sideFX

EFC-4eva wrote:

I'm 15, she's 14, yeah we are still mates..but knowing this world we live in it aint enough.

Sorry to here that bro, happened me more than I care to remember. I know it's not easy but try put it down to experience. The bad news is it will prob happen again! If you're ugly like me it will, lol! The good news is you seem lile a nice genuine bloke so I'd say she'll be kicking herself sooner or later.
Be good and happy hunting!

sideFX

womoma wrote:

Firstly- presuming youre still mad about this girl, its not the end of the world, and you may have a chance with her some time in the future.

More importantly tho dude- 3 things.

Firstly the fact that you had the guts to tell her means you have balls of steel.

The fact that you could come and discuss it on a forum means youre mature and in touch with your emotions.

Also, the fact that youre glad of her friendship and didnt turn against her when she "rejected" you means youre more of a man then most men my age.

I guarentee youll meet lots more crackin girls in the next few months and years. It wont be long before youre able to have a pint in the pub and check out the abundance of great girls Ireland has to offer.

You have a good attitude and it will serve you well. When you do strike gold, whoever she is, shes gonna wanna keep you.

Well put. Listen the man, he speaks the truth!

Bluetonic

EFC-4eva, look at the plus side Everton won at the weekend, things are looking up already!

been there myself before man and it doesnt get any easier
theres always confusion, indecision and wrong decision.......
but you have to keep on trying

In my experience so far never tell a girl you love her/really like her untill you're well established as partners, especially a teenaged girl. By the way I think everyone in the whole world has been trough this. You don't love her, you have romanticized her in your head.[/QUOTE]

you hit the nail on the face there man!!

EFC-4eva

yeah i know all ye's are saying is true, i'll get there its just hard to watch her falling for someone else.

EFC-4eva

EFC-4eva wrote:

yeah i know all ye's are saying is true, i'll get there its just hard to watch her falling for someone else.

not to worry i know how you feel. if i had 1 euro everytime i was rejected i could retire and live in a villa in the costa del sol.

if i were you id move on and get your game going with other girls. it may show the former what shes missing.

when your single and see every one around you is getting together it feels as if your stranded on a desert island. the truth is your not alone.

sideFX

sideFX wrote:

If you're ugly like me it will, lol! D

i found out to my cost that looks are not everything.

they help but they are not the whole package, else id be worn out from all the sex, lol!!!!