Is there something wrong with me?

LegacyUser

I'm a nineteen-year-old girl, and up until recently I'd never kissed anybody.
When I eventually did, I didn't enjoy it that much. It wasn't bad, just okay.
I've been with the same guy a few times since, and while it's a little nicer, it's still not anything special. I really don't think it's his technique, or mine, it's just that I'm not really into it. I do like the physical contact, but when he touches or kisses me I just feel nothing. It's not that I don't like him/find him attractive - I do! But when I'm with him, I can't really relax.

I think there might be something wrong with me. I've never really felt the inclination to masturbate, even. Is this normal?

ferdi

just relax, play the field, you'll get into it.

dundalk cailin

so you've kissed the same guy, no other? then its probably just cos your not used to it..in no time you'll wonder what all the fuss was about..and at times causes more harm than good (in my experience, i always seem to end up kissing the wrong guy )

WhiteWashMan

cork-girl wrote:

I'm a nineteen-year-old girl, and up until recently I'd never kissed anybody.
When I eventually did, I didn't enjoy it that much. It wasn't bad, just okay.
I've been with the same guy a few times since, and while it's a little nicer, it's still not anything special. I really don't think it's his technique, or mine, it's just that I'm not really into it. I do like the physical contact, but when he touches or kisses me I just feel nothing. It's not that I don't like him/find him attractive - I do! But when I'm with him, I can't really relax.

I think there might be something wrong with me. I've never really felt the inclination to masturbate, even. Is this normal?

no. there is no rule to say you should feel a certain way in certain situations.
i think if you find a way to relax more, you may start to enjoy yourself.

it simply sounds like you are putting too much pressure on your self to feel something special, when there isnt anything special to feel.
dont worry about it.
youll feel good when you are good and ready. unti lthen, hey, just practise, or dont. whatever.

condra

I think different people tend to have different libidos. While some people are "highly sexed", others dont have such supercharged sex drives.

I doubt there is anything wrong with you physically or mentally.

Perhaps over time and with experience youll discover what "does it for you".

You say youve never felt the ugre to masturbate.
Is this because youve never felt particulary aroused or because you feel that it is something seedy or wrong? If you dont have any ethical problems with masturbation, you could always give it a try. It may help you get in touch with your sexual side physically and psychologically.

Either way, if youre happy without having a wild sex life, isnt that the most important thing?

missingtime

Ahh dont mind that. The first kiss is always awkward. No one wants to move or change position - gets better with practice.

cournioni

Happens to me alot of the time. Usually with girls that I'm feel awkward with tbh. It's not a problem, just try to relax more with him.