Pregnancy Question

LegacyUser

Hey everyone,

Just a quick question that I'm sure with all the users in here someone will be able to answer. Myself & my boyfriend are trying for a baby! I'm 22 and he is 25, thing is, I came off the pill about 6 months ago and we have been trying since, with no joy. I know that it take time etc... but I'm just wondering on average how long for two people our age??
How long do most people give until they fertility tests done, I'm probably totally jumping the gun on that I know.
It's just, every month when I get my period it's such a disapointment for both of us. I suppose you just hear so many stories about girls getting pregnant after unprotected sex and misuse of the pill etc... I just always thought that when I wanted to have kids it would happen straight away.
I'm tormenting myself even more because when my b/f was in college he got his then g/f pregnant but she decided to have an abortion, a decision which he was not entirely happy with but she was adament so he supported her...anyway moral of story, it's obviously not him who has the problem (if there is one), it's me.
If anyone has been in a similar situation or has advise I'd really appreciate it.
Thanks...

Victor

Babyblues wrote:

anyway moral of story, it's obviously not him who has the problem (if there is one), it's me.

You are having periods - this would be a good indicator that you don't have a (profound) problem.

Getting pregnant isn't necessarily easy, its just it has lots of implications if you are.

I think bang away at it (;)) for another few months, if you aren't happy still, talk to your GP.

Anyway, if you are planning to get pregnant, there are suggestions that you take extra folic acid, etc. so maybe stopping by your GP sooner might be an idea.

deisemum

From what I know of other people's experiences GP's seem to prefer you to wait for approx 1 year ttc before they get involved apart from check up before you start ttc. I don't know what it's like because I got pregnant straight off on both occasions so I wouldn't be the best to understand exactly what it's like, I can only imagine.

I agree with victor, if you haven't had a general check up then it might be no harm, plus you'll get plenty of advice. Folic acid is very important. 6 months trying is not very long even though it can feel like it when you're going through it.

RoundyMooney

As another poster said, start on the folic acid now. It will not improve your chances of pregnancy, but it will be good for the baby. As above, my wife fell pregnant a week after skipping the pill so I can't really identify, (it was planned but the rapidity took us by surprise.)

You ask "how long". How long is a piece of string? If your cycle is in order then no doubt you will have a fair idea of when the time is right! I won't insult you by asking if you're sure etc., but I will say that it is the biggest thing you will ever do, and being a parent is an experience that words cannot convey. It is a highly responsible and emotional experience and your life will never be the same again. I'm told that unless you have been trying for 12 months or so, a GP will not be overly concerned. Keep trying

SexeeAussie

Hang in there and enjoy the 'act' of trying to make babies...lol

My pregnancies have happened ummm very suprisingly so I am not an expert in 'trying' to conceive....

Definitely do the folic acid, no smoking/drinking thing though. It all helps

Rach

scuba sally

Here is a good website where you can track your bodily changes month by month and see when you are most fertile etc. You must try for at least a year before seeing a doctor. Also it takes a few months for your body to get back to "normal" after coming off the pill
Good Luck.
www.babyzone.com

spurious

You can quite accurately predict your fertile days by either observing changes in mucus yourself, or using an ovulation predictor that works by examining your saliva. Both together is best. You should get to know your own cycle as not everyone fits into the 'norm'.

Neither of you has to have a 'problem', and you shouldn't look at it like that - sometimes it just does not happen.

Good luck.

gonker

Just to echo what all the other posters have said Folic Acid is so important. Docs wont look at you till you are trying a year and just enjoy the trying:D dont get too het up about it as stress can be a hinderance to getting pregnant.....and good luck

Endurance Man

Ok, i thought i would just throw this out there .
My mom is a reflexologist and runs a fertitlity treatment for women/men trying to fall pregnant. So far she is having great succes with this, perhaps look into it? There are many reflexologist around the country, not sure if all of them are familiar with fertility side of reflexology but its worth a try.
As i say, my mom has had success. One couple had been trying for 2 years with no luck, they came for reflexology and fell pregant within a week .

MrsA

Hey OP I am in the same boat as you except this is just our second month trying. There are 2 great sites I use to get info and to chat. www.rollercoaster.ie is one of them and the other is www.magicmum.com go to the trying to conceive board on both or either of those and the girls are a mine of information.
I thought it would just happen as well but apparently up to a year is totally normal.
See you over there
Mrs A.

Khannie

This may seem obvious, but try timing your sex for when you think you're ovulating (there are plenty of ovulation calendars out there). 6 months after being on the pill is not uncommon (in theory you should be fertile as soon as you come off the pill, but the reality is not the case for a lot of people who have been taking it for some time).

As others said, I'd go and see your GP, and make sure you're on Folic acid (boots do a "mum to be" range of vitamins).

LegacyUser

Hi again..
Thank's for all the reply's, I feel a bit better knowing that the doc won't do anything until after a year or so... I suppose we'll just have to make the most of trying ha ha
I'm going to get Folic Acid today, thanks's for the advice!!
Good luck to you aswell MrsA... great site's you recommended!!
Anyway, finger's crossed I'll be back here soon with good new's.
Cheers again

embee

Hi babyblues,

As someones already said, I would go and visit sites like

http://www.rollercoaster.ie
http://www.eumom.com
http://www.magicmum.com

I'm 34 weeks pregnant today, and I have found these sites to be a great source of information on all things related to conception and pregnancy.

Good luck! I have an aunt who is 27 and, after a well over a year of trying, found out she was pregnant just two weeks before she was due to see a specialist! She's due in May next year - she accredits her getting pregnant to losing weight, actually. Its estimated that, if you are overweight, even a 5% reduction in your weight can dramatically increase your chances of conception. Thats what her doctor advised her. So.. she got slim, and now is delighted she's going to be big and round!

LegacyUser

Hey embee..hope all is going well for you...Great news for you aunt, she must be over the moon!!
i don't think losing weight would be a great idea for me, I'm a size ten now so it would probably have the opposite effect for me if I were to lose weight!! Those site's are really helpful though so thank's a million.
I alway's tried to keep my weight down, and now I'm trying so hard as you say yourself to get big & round..ha ha..

Thank's again
XXX

LegacyUser

@ Babyblues

My wife and I are both 27 and have been trying for a baby for the last 14 months and things were getting quite depressing for us. I read this thread a while back and followed one of the links that people gave to the www.magicmum.com site and I found a very interesting thread called the "Sperm meets Egg Plan" (http://www.magicmum.com/phpBB/viewtopic.php?t=7512) and we decided to follow it and use Robitussin too (read the thread and you'll understand what Robitussin does).

On Sunday, my wife tested positive and we are over the moon. We definitely put it down to the "plan" and would recommend anyone trying for a baby to give it a go, you never know!!!!

A chuffed Dad-to-be...