Do u discuss ur current women wit ur most recent ex?

The_B_Man

as the title says.

my ex is talkin to me about how she wants to know names. she knows couple of the girls. i told her i didnt wanna know if she was wit any1 at all but she insists she wants to know bout mine? any experience wit this? me gut is sayin no. any takers?

shoutman

this is a definate no it can only lead to bad things in my opinion

RuggieBear

Not a snowballs chance in hell, i'd talk about my girlfriend with an ex.

cheekyass

I would hate to think that my most recent ex was talking about me to his current g/f. I obviously cannot speak for anyone else...but i would HATE it. But i guess it depends on your relationship with your ex, if your the best of friends thats slightly different.

For me its a definite no-no though

what?do youve any plans with getting back with the girl?if not!just chat to her!

The_B_Man

no plans, tho i did a while back. not sure where we are now but if we did it wouldn't be for a while. i tihnk she's tryin to guilt trip me into tellin now and shes gettin pissed off at me. dunno wat to tell her. me heads wrecked! i've told her repeatedly that i dont wanna tel her but shes the type of girl that if u tell her she cant have something then she'll want it all the more.

main priority is stayin friends wit her, but its possible she doesnt like certain ppl who i may or may not have been wit and i'm worried she'll think less of me for bein wit them! (if in fact i WAS wit them )

athena 2000

The_B_Man wrote:

me gut is sayin no. any takers?

Listen to your gut. Your gut is correct. No.
If you succumb to the nagging pressure, you'll be kicking yourself around the room later, and you will deserve it. But then, if you want to really stop her from bothering you, tell her you want to go through her purse, her Email and her call history/text messages every day for the next year in exchange.
Fair is fair! :v:

Dizzyblabla

uuhhmm... I dunno, if it was an ok breakup, and you guys are obviously still talking on good terms, then I don't see the problem.
I know if I was talking to any ex, well, I wouldn't be looking for gory details, but I would be interested to know what she was like etc...
I met an ex of mine recently with his new g/f, and she had the same name as me!! she seemed nice, and I told him. It's not that big a deal, unless she's a raving lunatic!

UberNewb

Dizzyblabla wrote:

uuhhmm... I dunno, if it was an ok breakup, and you guys are obviously still talking on good terms, then I don't see the problem.
I know if I was talking to any ex, well, I wouldn't be looking for gory details, but I would be interested to know what she was like etc...
I met an ex of mine recently with his new g/f, and she had the same name as me!! she seemed nice, and I told him. It's not that big a deal, unless she's a raving lunatic!

Exactly, she maybe your ex but she's now your friend. Would you tell your friends? I can't see what the problem is either?

Chopper

The_B_Man wrote:

i tihnk she's tryin to guilt trip me into tellin now and shes gettin pissed off at me. dunno wat to tell her. me heads wrecked! i've told her repeatedly that i dont wanna tel her but shes the type of girl that if u tell her she cant have something then she'll want it all the more.

That does not sound like she is taking a healthy interest in your life but rather she is making demands.. But she is no longer your girlfriend, she doesn't get to make demands. A true friend would not put you under such pressure.

Ask yourself these questions
- Why does she want the information ?
- What will she do with the information ?

Is she still trying to control you; will she tell other prople or use the information as emotional blackmail at some point in the future ?

Information is power; keep it to yourself !

Sleepy

If it's an ex you wanna get back with, why aren't you together?

If it's an ex you just want to keep as a friend, I can't see the problem. Most of my exe's are amongst my best friends and would usually know at least the basic details of my current love-life at any given time...

Shinners21

:eek: Jesus if I thought for one second that my b/f was talking to an ex about me I would go mental!! How horrible would that be? As far as I can see there can be no NICE reason as to why she would want to know anything about me... God just thinking about it makes me mad!!! :mad:

Sleepy

Are you not curious about your friend's boyfriends? your male friend's girlfriends?

Where's the difference?

An ex is an ex for a reason. You can still be good friends with them though...

hullaballoo

I just woke up from a night of nightmares about my ex telling me the names of all of the lads she's been with since we broke up, and finishing it off by saying that her current boyfriend's name. I can safely say that it's not a good idea to go discussing these things, but it's tempting to ask nonetheless.

I suppose I got a bit of a pyrrhic victory out of it when she said the new boyfriend was called Tiddius.

Nalz

Sleepy wrote:

Are you not curious about your friend's boyfriends? your male friend's girlfriends?

Where's the difference?

An ex is an ex for a reason. You can still be good friends with them though...

Spot on - an ex is an ex for a reason, ifs a good one or a bad one still an ex. I think you should talk to her more about WHY she wants to know as apposed to tellin her WHAT she wants to know. Have it out with her, or ignore it. Your call.

Then it will be alot clearer what to do.

The_B_Man

Ok thanks. Just needed an outside opinion. gonna just go with me gut and jsut try avoid tellin her.

kegan5

Thanks for posting this on boards...much appreciated!

I'm just curious...i live in a different country now... Ur making a mountain out of a mole hill if u ask me!

Hugh Hefner

One could argue that you're doing the same.

The_B_Man

right well this has run its course. sorry for postin it up. i tihnk this can be binned. for the record, she got it outta me eventually. sorry again! anyway, bye!

ps funnily enough, it turns out the reason she hates one of them is coz she told her in a nightclub a while back that she will have me one way or another! i feel so used! lol