Socialising as a Gay Couple

Stephanos

Hi All!

It may be due to the fact that I live in a tree but I am not aware of anywhere in Dublin that faciliates socialising for gay couples. By 'socialising' I mean basic interaction, with other gay couples, through any form that might not necessarily be in a bar/nightclub.

You might be in a position to share your thoughts?

Hmm_Messiah

not sure I understand you. When doing the couple thing we happily and easily socialised with other gay couples straight couples, singles....bars, nightcubs, restaurants, wherever...... in Dublin and home

Zillah

I don't really get it either...

You want somewhere specifically gay-couple orientated? Whats wrong with any gay bar? Surely they'll have plenty of couples? Or would the presence of single men be a bad thing...?

Stark

Hmm_Messiah wrote:

not sure I understand you.

Zillah wrote:

I don't really get it either.

Am I the only one who thought the OP's question couldn't have been simpler? Fair enough if you don't have answers.

Zillah wrote:

Whats wrong with any gay bar? Surely they'll have plenty of couples? Or would the presence of single men be a bad thing...?

I've heard many people comment time and time again that people seem to disappear off the scene once they hook up. I haven't been on the scene myself much lately but maybe you guys can give names of specific bars where you have seen a good few gay couples?

Hmm_messiah wrote:

When doing the couple thing we happily and easily socialised with other gay couples straight couples, singles....bars, nightcubs, restaurants, wherever...... in Dublin and home

Again, you might have a few tips for OP. When you say you happily socialised with other couples, were they couples you knew before meeting your BF or after you met your BF? Any stories you'd like to share about how you bumped into other couples?

Hmm_Messiah

Again, you might have a few tips for OP. When you say you happily socialised with other couples, were they couples you knew before meeting your BF or after you met your BF? Any stories you'd like to share about how you bumped into other couples?

erm...these would be couples we each knew before each other, or met along the way, or friends known who then find partners, lose partners, change partner.....the usual dynamic of people's lives I'd of thought.

It has been my limited experience that gay men I know when they start a relationship are less social / less "scene". Partly I guess like any one just enjoying the newness of things, when they stay away I guess it demonstrates that the scene was something they did, too "meet a need" now met, or changed.

Again "personally" I have found gay couples (that aren't LT, as in yrs) often gave the suggestion of been less secure/less trusted that hetero ones. Whether thats a coincidence, or people remebering their own behaviour or buying into some myth I dunno.

aquigley

Stephanos wrote:

Hi All!

It may be due to the fact that I live in a tree but I am not aware of anywhere in Dublin that faciliates socialising for gay couples. By 'socialising' I mean basic interaction, with other gay couples, through any form that might not necessarily be in a bar/nightclub.

You might be in a position to share your thoughts?

Hi,
Unlike some of the other posters I do understand your question. However, I would first pose one in return. Where do straight couples go for 'socialising' with other straight couples? If you would say any pub, club, bar, restaurant in the land then I'd say the answer to your question is "any gay bar in Dublin" or restaurant or the "library bar in the Central hotel" (for something specific).

For night out I personally like to snag a table with friends/other couples etc. out front in the Dragon and drink some of their watered down cocktails before the place in the back fills up (you can relax and hear yourself). The Front Lounge isn't bad but it's too small and the nice seats out the front are always full! I've been in some of the other places and yike! (unless I can sit and relax for at least some of the evening then I'm not standing around in a group, I'm there to relax and have fun not pick up)

If however you feel there are venues specifically for straight couples then this won't answer your question.

I've lived in Sydney which has a broader and bigger scene and I never came across a venue for "couples", it was just regular places (as above) where groups (couples or couples with singles) would go for drinks or dancing (this varied).

Aaron.

Stephanos

Thanks for your responses.

I can appreciate the difficulty in understanding my question. I should have given more information to clarify it further. My question was more along the lines of, as a gay couple, where might it be possible to meet other gay couples and singles to socialise with. Our (mine and my partners) circumstances are that we lack gay friends (singles and couples). I don't doubt the fact that it is possible to meet people in clubs and nightclubs but I wondered if anyone knows of alternatives.

Boston

I know what you mean, the scene seems very geared towards geting laid...bla bla bla, and so fort. As for answering your question, I've no idea. I guess the thing you have to realise is that gay people are in every walk of life. How would you go about meeting new people regardless of sexuality.

solice

Dont the people in Johnny and Outhouse (think they are the names) organise social activities like bowling, hill walking and stuff. TO be honest im not sure but take a gawk at their websites

Stephanos

I'll take a look at the site.

Cheers!