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  • 28-01-2006 10:23pm
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    puppyhead
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭


    Hi this is my situation.
    My son is 30 and is very abusive towards me and my wife.
    He shouts, always causing arguments, nevr paids money to us even though we provide him with evertyhing. we had to call the gardas are him a few times. we need him out of the house. we are elderly and weak. but wife does not want to get a barring order against him, as he would then have a crimnal record.
    has anyone else had this situation or has any advise.


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    AARRRGH
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    Have you asked him why is he so angry with you? Do you accept his response or dismiss it?


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    luckat
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    Maybe you should talk to a solicitor about this?

    Are you sure that a barring order constitutes a criminal record? I'm not saying it does or doesn't - I just don't know.


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    deisemum
    Registered Users Posts: 5,588 ✭✭✭deisemum


    This unfortunately is more common than a lot of people realise. Maybe it's worth contacting Age Concern as they have experience in helping people deal with this. Everything is treated in the strictest of confidence. They were recently discussing this on the radio. You should not have to live like this. Don't let this go on.


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    Khannie
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    A barring order does not constitute a criminal offence. Get in touch with your solicitor for some proper legal advice.

    Maybe drop into the guards too?


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    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    puppyhead wrote:
    but wife does not want to get a barring order against him, as he would then have a crimnal record..

    she would seem to care more then he does... perhaps he counts on that and probably senses her weakness in this.

    If my daughter behaved like that towards me she would be barred from the house until she copped herself on. She's knows me well enough anyway to know it would not be tolerated.
    Your son is old enough to know better.
    I know it sounds harsh and it's a terrible thing to have to do to your own child, but get the barring order.
    I'm guessing he's making your life miserable, how can having him barred from the house be any worse?
    I'm truly sorry it has come to this for you, but you don't deserve to be treated like this.
    Perhaps the barring order will snap him out of it.
    I wish you the best


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