How often do you see them?

LegacyUser

Hey guys, just wondering what are peoples general opinions of how much is a normal amount to see your bf/gf?

Basically im with my girlfriend for 3 years and see her every day of the week, either after work or college, i think this is too much, we need to spend more time apart, absence makes the heart grow founder etc... but i know she doesnt feel the same and she just wants to spend every day together.

How often do you see your bf/gf?

padser

In college with her so see her every day of week (mon to fri) and then she goes home weekend (sat n sun) and i dont see her. I guess it depends on the couple. Some people can see a lot of each other, others would go mad and need much more space.

My bf and I need our own space away from each other - I think every day would be too much, if it was for a lot of the day. I see him maybe 3-4 days a week and spend forever on the phone.
If you need your own space, tell her that. She should understand...

Seraphina

depends, i saw him almost every day over christmas, but less now that im back in college. it really depends on the situation, my bf lives very near me, so he'll often call down maybe just for 2/3 hours in the evening to watch a movie or something, so we might see eachother 4/5 times a week, but its often not for that long, and i have plenty of other things going on in my life. if it was all day every day i'd probably go a bit mad and never get anything done!

CathyMoran

I see him every day (but also would go out with my friends for the night without him) - then again, we are getting married in just over 4 months time and are trying to buy a particular house at the moment.

dudara

We live together, but due to work, I would only see him for a max of 2-3 hours in the evening. Weekends are different though.

melekalikimaka

most days for a few hours...

Zombrex

howoften wrote:

How often do you see your bf/gf?

Why are you seeing here everyday? I mean are you going out of your way to see her or do you just have nothing else on?

Seeing each other everyday when you aren't living with each other seems a bit strange. i'm surprised you haven't killed each other by now.

BoozyBabe

I see my bf for a while nearly every Fri, Sat & Sun. Then normally for a couple of hours 1 night during the week.

I'd actually be quite happy to see him more than that, but I'm also happy to see him just that amount if that's what he's happy with.

I suppose it makes time WITH him all the more special

irlrobins

Haven't seen my gf in almost a year, she's travelling around the world at the mo. But when she was in Ireland, we'd see each other a couple of nights during mon to fri and usually all weekend.

Ickle Magoo

Saw each other every day, moved in together after 3months, married 4yrs later

Kinetic^

howoften wrote:

How often do you see your gf?

Everyday as we live together, been with her best part of years now but only living with her 5 months.

Ag marbh

As much as possible during the week and need one night to get mangled with the lads and then the rest of the weekend.

acri

I live in Lucan and go to BCFE and my fianceé lives in Athlone and goes to college in Cavan, so I only get to see her on weekends. And now that I'm working it's going to be even less. It was grand at first because, yknow, absense makes the heart grow fonder. But now it really gets me down. So I don't think seeing your better half every day is such a bad thing. Not if you love 'em anyway.

LegacyUser

Wicknight wrote:

Why are you seeing here everyday? I mean are you going out of your way to see her or do you just have nothing else on?

well sometimes i am yea... like id get home after work/college, maybe spend an hour or so at home and then spend the rest of the night with her, and to be honest it often annoys me cos i do a lot of work on stuff outside of college and work and she sees these things as just something thats taking me away from her.

to me its like i prefer to only see her 3/4 days a week and spend quality time together rather than see her every night and do nothing which is what we do now.

LegacyUser

where's the once a month or longer option? :rolleyes:

styer

I'm the same, often go straight to her's after work, if I delay i get the third degree, even if I have to stay late at work, she'd be on the phone asking what time I'll be in and if I'm late, I'd get the cold shoulder.... as you put it anything that does not involve her, she thinks that I'd rather do something that spend time with her

Racheal Green

In my previous relationship(a year)we used to see each other every day then we decided we were spending so much time together that he asked me to move in with him, then i went back to college and work in Galway and broke up. New guy is in college with me, but we both need our space so we meet 3 days midweek and then do something special at the weekend like cinema,dvd etc..so going by experience 3 days is best. Enough time to talk about whats happening during the week and enough time to make the heart grow fonder and not be sufficated by each others company..

irlirishkev

howoften wrote:

well sometimes i am yea... like id get home after work/college, maybe spend an hour or so at home and then spend the rest of the night with her, and to be honest it often annoys me cos i do a lot of work on stuff outside of college and work and she sees these things as just something thats taking me away from her.

to me its like i prefer to only see her 3/4 days a week and spend quality time together rather than see her every night and do nothing which is what we do now.

Do you think maybe you should discuss this with her?

I can appreciate what you're saying though.. I see my gf maybe 2 days a week, usually the weekend. I very much like my own time and space, as does she. But we don't live very close to eachother either, so that's another factor..

K.

Talliesin

I don't think there's a maximum on how often you see your partner. There is however a minimum on how often you do other things.

Ag marbh

Every man needs to go out and get recked(or whatever his preferred entertainment is) with the lads once or twice a week. A good balance is needed

Dave!

Lately it's been about 3 times a week, and only for an hour or two during a break in college. Every fortnight or so I'll go to her house or vice versa, and we'll watch a film, etc.

I went to school with her as well, so last year I'd see her every day and then on the weekends.

I actually prefer the way it's going now. I need my space or I get a little tense, and last year I'd always be really quiet and drained and depressed when I was with her too much.

But yesterday we met up in college after having not seen each other in a few days, and I was happy and chatty and funny and stuff, and we both enjoyed it more!

So, about 3 times a week, and that's sufficient for the moment

Ag marbh

DaveMcG wrote:

I actually prefer the way it's going now. I need my space or I get a little tense, and last year I'd always be really quiet and drained and depressed when I was with her too much.

Haha I know the exact feeling

Azureus

Talliesin wrote:

I don't think there's a maximum on how often you see your partner. There is however a minimum on how often you do other things.

that pretty much sums it up!
i see my bf bout 2/3 days a week, if i could id like to see him a bit more , but im happy with how things are now too-absence makes the heart grow fonder and it means we value eachothers company even more when we are together!

ctrl-alt-delete

Talliesin wrote:

I don't think there's a maximum on how often you see your partner. There is however a minimum on how often you do other things.

as was said above that sums it up, perfect reply OP need look no further