She loves me, she loves me not.

LegacyUser

Just a quickie .....

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now, living with her alot of the time. One thing is starting to get to me, I don't know if she love's me or not or if its just a relationship of convienience for her.

In all of the 5 years she's never actually told me she loves me, ever !!

Does anyone find this strange ?

justsomebloke

does she act like she loves you, cause sometimes some people find it hard to express themselves.
However if you think there is a problem chances are there is a problem and your best bet maybe to talk to her about your reservations

Merrick

^^ Yeah some people just have trouble saying it, if you've been with her for 5 years, you should be able to talk to her about it

The Corinthian

FFS - Ask Her Rather Than A Bunch Of Complete Strangers On The Internet Who Don't Know Either One Of You!!!

Merrick

Isn't that what this forum is for ie getting objective opinions on this sort of thing?

py2006

Guest poster wrote:

Just a quickie .....

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now, living with her alot of the time. One thing is starting to get to me, I don't know if she love's me or not or if its just a relationship of convienience for her.

In all of the 5 years she's never actually told me she loves me, ever !!

Does anyone find this strange ?

Wow! Thats a strange one alright! Some girls are very trigger happy with that phrase at an early stage in a relationship!

I know alot of us guys find it hard to say those 3 little words! Perhaps she is like that too? Perhaps she does love you but finds it hard to say it?

I know for myself I find it hard to even say it towards a family member even though obviously I do.

The Corinthian

Merrick wrote:

Isn't that what this forum is for ie getting objective opinions on this sort of thing?

What do you think that was chuckles?

Merrick

The Corinthian wrote:

What do you think that was chuckles?

Hmm, I'm getting the point.

Chrissie

She's never said it. To me that's strange, but maybe some girls find it hard to say???

But:- Does she never show you she loves you? Cos if not, then I doubt if she does, & you need to think about what you want.

py2006

The Corinthian wrote:

FFS - Ask Her Rather Than A Bunch Of Complete Strangers On The Internet Who Don't Know Either One Of You!!!

Hey buddy, I think he is on here seeking advice first! Before doing anything rash. Which is the point of this forum, is it not?

I would assume he will eventually confront her!

Your comment was unnecessary!

Beruthiel

py2006
please leave the moderating to the moderators.

TC may have been blunt, but he is quite correct in what he is saying - the OP is with the girl 5 years and he's on here asking whither she loves him or not - none of us know either of them and cannot answer his question.
the OP needs to ask his g/f this question, how hard can that be!? seriously

The Corinthian

py2006 wrote:

Hey buddy, I think he is on here seeking advice first! Before doing anything rash. Which is the point of this forum, is it not?

And he got advice. As for doing something rash, seriously - what do you expect him to do? Strap her to a dentist’s chair and enact the torture scene from the Marathon Man, until she tells him the truth?

I would assume he will eventually confront her!

Why do you assume that? He hasn’t in the last five years and people will often continue in these matters as they have begun.

Your comment was unnecessary!

Unnecessary how? If he feels he cannot or should not broach the subject with her then he’ll respond with why this is the case, otherwise there’s no reason for him to simply ask her, if truly wants an answer.

And, given that this is a matter that both bothers him and has dragged on for five years, it would indicate that a blunt response was anything but unnecessary.

py2006

Beruthiel wrote:

py2006
please leave the moderating to the moderators.

TC may have been blunt, but he is quite correct in what he is saying - the OP is with the girl 5 years and he's on here asking whither she loves him or not - none of us know either of them and cannot answer his question.
the OP needs to ask his g/f this question, how hard can that be!? seriously

Ahhh, just coped on he was a mod! :rolleyes:

I was not trying to mod myself here, I was merely dissagreeing!

Eminem

Guest poster wrote:

Just a quickie .....

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now, living with her alot of the time. One thing is starting to get to me, I don't know if she love's me or not or if its just a relationship of convienience for her.

In all of the 5 years she's never actually told me she loves me, ever !!

Does anyone find this strange ?

Ok you been together for five years , Dose she act like that she loves you?
If so mabye she just might find it hard to say the words i love you. Some people are like that .

The Corinthian

py2006 wrote:

Ahhh, just coped on he was a mod! :rolleyes:

I was not trying to mod myself here, I was merely dissagreeing!

I'm not a mod on this particular forum and, genetics aside, am no different to you here.

py2006

Guest poster wrote:

Just a quickie .....

I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years now, living with her alot of the time. One thing is starting to get to me, I don't know if she love's me or not or if its just a relationship of convienience for her.

In all of the 5 years she's never actually told me she loves me, ever !!

Does anyone find this strange ?

Back to topic:

Have you told your gf that you love her? I mean, it is kinda worrying if you tell your significant other that you love them and they don't respond justly!

little miss

Have you told her you love her?

And also, how does she sign cards to you? Does she say 'love' or 'best wishes'?

I'd definately ask her - 5 years is a crazy amount of time to be together without uttering those words? Has she never even said it when drunk?!