painful sex

LegacyUser

ok, I know this sounds like a medical question, but We've tried many doctors, and I'm just posting here to get other peoples opinions.

My G/f finds penetrative sex very uncomfortable and often extremely painful. She had smear tests and they've all come back negative. It's been painful with other partners too, so I don't think its me. We've tried different positions, and lubrication, but it still hurts a lot. I don't think she's allergic to latex, but we're going to try non latex condoms soon.

One doctor said she might have vaginaismus, but she's not so sure. We can actually have intercourse, its just can be very painful for her...

I don't really know what else it could be to be honest...

I love this girl to bits, and I don't want to hurt her having sex...

Does anyone have any advice or suggestion?

Thanks

Blub2k4

What type of pain? Vaginismus would normally make it hard to penetrate. I'd say get her along to a gynecologist and see can they do anything.

BeardyGit

Man, that's tough for both of you I'm sure. Has she actually made an appointment to go see a specialist? I know you're just looking for opinions/thoughts but speculation is unlikely to help in any way.

In terms of knowing what to try and how to measure progress, you'll not be able to match the experience of a trained therapist who can guide both you and your partner through to the end. If she's not made the appointment, the first step will be to get her on the phone to someone who really knows how to help.

Best of luck,

Gil

LegacyUser

Well she has been to see plenty of doctors in the past.

Vaginaismus was suggested, but as she regularly uses tampons, and we can have full penetrative sex (tho can be quite painful for her), we kind of ruled that out...

I suppose going to another specialist would be a good idea.

I just thought someone here might have gone thru the same thing..

Thanks for the replies so far!

Nevyn

Vaginaismus is a mental reaction as well as a phyical one and just because she can use tampons that does not discount it.
You and your gf are not medical practioners so you can't rule it out.
Sounds like if your girlfriends gps can't be any more helpful she should ask the gp for a referal to a ob/gyn.

scojones

ASexQuestion wrote:

Well she has been to see plenty of doctors in the past.

Vaginaismus was suggested, but as she regularly uses tampons, and we can have full penetrative sex (tho can be quite painful for her), we kind of ruled that out...

I suppose going to another specialist would be a good idea.

I just thought someone here might have gone thru the same thing..

Thanks for the replies so far!

I went through the same thing with my ex, she was too embarassed to go get it sorted out though, which kinda sucked. I suspected it was Vaginaismus, but it was the very same as what you describe. Not sure what it was, and haven't had that trouble with anyone since. Best of luck getting it sorted mate.

SxE Punk

Since this is a medical issue, I'm just gonna recommend NetMD.

does she feel the same sort of pain using tampons ? if so she may have Vestibulodynia.

madhitchhiker

ASexQuestion wrote:

I love this girl to bits, and I don't want to hurt her having sex...

Does anyone have any advice or suggestion?

This could be deep pelvic pains....

Pain coming from deep in the pelvis, rather than the entrance of the vagina, can have a number of different causes. Common reasons for the discomfort include pelvic inflammatory disease (PID, often caused by chlamydia infection) and endometriosis (where tissue similar to the womb lining starts growing outside the womb). Both of these are linked to ill health and fertility problems, so it's good to seek medical attention if you have this symptom.