How to broach the subject?

LegacyUser

Might sound shallow and nasty but this is a genuine concern. My friend has recently changed her image for the better and she looks great. Her confidence is through the roof.
Therein is the problem. She is literally so confident she has become arrogant and obnoxious. All she talks about is how good she looks, how many people fancy her and how your stuff looks better on her etc.
Its got to the stage where she says, "are you sure you want to wear that" and "are you sure you want to come out with me" . The truth is that she does get plenty of attention. I don't care about that, but I would like us to talk about stuff other than how hot she is
Now, before people start claiming I'm jealous, I'm not. But its hard being around someone who is constantly telling you that they're funnier, sexier, better looking than you all the time.
How do you broach it with her without sounding like a a jealous cow? There's a really nice person underneath all the nasty comments. I miss my friend.

Chinafoot

I'd sit her down and explain the situation and how you feel. She might not appreciate it at the time but she'll thank you for it in the long run.

Vanity can make even the best-looking person very ugly.

Sony

ugh!!!! she might be a lovely girl underneath it all but her new found attitude sounds horrible...maybe try to subtly tell her to shut up with being so full of herself everytime she starts it!

PrettyInPunk

i know EXACTLY how u feel!

vibrant

She needs a crash course in manners! Gift her "Talk to the Hand" by Lynne Truss.

Beruthiel

lally33 wrote:

But its hard being around someone who is constantly telling you that they're funnier, sexier, better looking than you all the time.

if she truly believed that in her head, she wouldn't need to constantly keep telling you.

Zulu

Next time just tell her it's really nice that she keep talking about herself but just a little boring, would she fancy talking about something else.

Feel free to send me her number though

Miss Fluff

Sounds like she needs constant reassurance that she is SEXY/GORGEOUS/FUNNY. Sounds like her self-esteem was in pretty rag order and a bit of confidence is going a long way.

Maybe she mightn't actually believe it herself though. You often find with people who were really fat and slimmed down still have a very large, lonely, insecure person lurking inside when you scratch under the surface.

I'd try and be indulgent with her to some extent. If she's mentioning it constantly and says how gorgeous she is, just say jokingly "yes, to answer your question for the 10th time this week, you are indeed gorgeous" or just change the subject when she brings it up.

Unfortunately a serious sit-down might be easily misconstrued so I'd be inclined to play along with it for now.

miamee

I agree with the above, this girl sounds like she is trying to convince herself as well as everyone else around her, trying to boost her own confidence by constantly reassuring hersel fthat she is gorgeous & attractive etc. It might calm down after a while when she gets used to her 'new self' maybe give her a bit of time, or else have a bit of a heart to heart (without telling her she sounds like a cocky cow )