Too young?

LegacyUser

Going Unregistered for this.

Heres the thing, I went out yesterday, and met this really nice girl, she's 15 and lives near me.

The problem is, im 18 coming up to 19 in december...

I like her, but i dunno about the whole age gap.

Your views?

Thanks in advance.

cance

erm, 15 < 16, i would thread very carefully here m8, you are in the dodgy age gap.

if both of u were adults, i.e. over 18 then age gaps arent hugely important, but when the term statutory rape can be used its just best to back off and let this one go.

Fanny Cradock

i'd say yes - especially in light of recent events.

fuzzywiggle

I would definitely say no.

dos30

nevermind that,get in there, 2-3 yrs is nothing. I met my gf when I was just gone 18 and she was 15 nearly 16 though, and we're going out nearly 5yrs now

Shinners21

I was 15 when I started going out with my first serious bf... He was 18 at the time. He turned 19 the following Otober and I was 16 in the November! We went out for almost 6 years so I wouldnt say the gap matters. Depends on what kind of person she is and you are etc...

Just remember she wont be heading out to pubs / clubs with you so that could effect you in the long run!!!

TerrorFirmer

Thread carefully, take things slowly. Thats the only advice I can offer in a situation like this, however, whilst I wouldn't say write it off immediately on age, just...be very careful about how you play it.

Fanny Cradock

two words: statutory rape

the age thing may not be a problem, but the legality of "stuff" that may happen is.

Shinners21

Did you ever think that he mightn't be getting with her just to have sex??? He said he likes her / she is a really nice girl etc...... :rolleyes:

masterK

Ask her out on the day she turns 16. In light of recent events and the current publicitiy surrounding statutory rape you would want to be very careful at the moment, all it would take is for one of her family members not to like you to report you to the guards.

Fanny Cradock

afaik, the age of consent is 17 and not 16


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maybe you are right shinners - stranger things have happened. but then again maybe you're not. either way it's a possibility that cannot be ignored. i was just making the guy aware of the legality of doing anything.

hullaballoo

Bear in mind that under the new laws that Mr McDowell has introduced, you can't even kiss her too passionately without the possibility (theoretically) of facing rape charges. It's ridiculous, but it's the law at the moment.

Realistically (as in, morally), there is isn't really a huge problem with you going out with her. You just need to be very very careful and take things very very slowly. I mean, I've been in similar situations before and if you give it time, it will probably work out. Maybe even just wait until she hits 16.

Sorry about the mixed advice, but it's hard to know what to say!

Edit: The legal age for consent for any sex act at this time is 17. That could refer to nearly anything imaginable.

LegacyUser

Sorry, I forgot to say that i live in the UK, where the age of consent is 16.

I'm thinking of taking it slowly until she's 16, and even then, im not going to just want to have sex with her.. I'm not that kind of guy.

I've not actually called her yet after she gave me her number, i've got to have some time to think about it.

From talking to her for a good 6 hours yesterday, she seems pretty mature.

I dont mind age gaps, but I do mind that she's under 16... so maybe i should just take it really slowly until she's 16 then go from there..

Still a bit miffed on what to do :S

Blub2k4

If her parents are cool with you then I'd use that as a gauge.

Statutory rape charges would "often" be brought by a parent not happy that their child is not being lead astray.

Tobias Greeshman

[Edit]Just seen post about being in UK, well in that case just wait till she turns 16, and it should be ok. Could still have a problem with her family though, but at least you won't be breaking any laws by sleeping with her.

Magic Pips

dude, go for it! you sound like you are willing to wait. a young relationship like that can benefit from a wait for sex too, give you both time to grow with no pressure. Just be respectful of her young age (she's only growing up) and respectful of the law and you'll be ok

Slutmonkey57b

Eh..........

She's not "too young".
She's "Illegal".

The only answer is leave it alone. You're 18, meet someone who you can legally touch and who can do other things, like vote, or drink.

ravenhead

this is a tricky one alright, I mean she is only 15! That's kind of still a little girl, My B/F little sister is 15 & that exactly as I see her, A little girl. I know it's only 13 years but 3 years for a girl is a long time, her whole body will change in that period of time. I'm sorry i just think she's that bit too young.

LadyJ

I went out with a 19 year old when I was 15 and it was grand. However,I was quite a mature 15 year old and he was a bit of an immature 19 year old.

It really depends on the person tbh.

Also,in my situation,the biggest problem was that,as much as I loved this guy,after two years I wanted something new. He would have been happy to stay together but I was too young for all that and wanted to experience new things.

So beware that this might cause you problems down the line.

Aard

Get to know her before having sex. Otherwise I don't think there is a problem with an 18yo and a 15yo going out.

dazftw

Yea I think it would be ok ! Aslong as like shes knows what shes doing (not sexual) just in normal terms for going out with someone !

Oh I think you should beware yes they are likely to stray when they get older... As ladyJ said she wanted to experience new things... Im 17 going on 18 and had my first serious gf who was 15 going 16 ! It last for 6 months and in that time we always told each it was going to last for years !

only nearly a month ago she broke up with me and is with another guy (A better looking older guy) I was really screwed up... still am I cried last night sure !

Just to let you know it may not happen though and I wish you luck !

madness

Go for it if you like her and she likes you......it was not all that long ago in ireland that 15 year old girls from poor families were married off to 50year old farmers by priests, to be honest in this day and age there is not many 15year olds that are still virgins.

Tak3n

Go for it... i would avoid telling people though, questions may be asked. And i wouldn't go to 2nd base at least until shes reached 16.

isolde

i think she's too young for you. if it was my little sister, i wouldn't be very happy about it.

you know her a day. walk away before you get in any deeper.

i'm 23, and can't imagine even going out with a 20 year old. at this point in your life, 15 is just too young.