Need advice

LegacyUser

Have started seeing this guy I really like, nothing too physical yet, just kissing and cuddling and stuff. He's told me that he really likes a woman to take the lead in bed but I've always been one to follow a guys lead and get more confident from there. Any tips or advice? It's begining to stress me out and I'm really worrying about making a mess of it.

Nevyn

There are two ways you can look at it
you can either make the first move physically as things move forward
or you can tell him what you would like to do or what you would like him to do.

Ruu_Old

Relax and take as much time as you want OP. Don't be afraid to tell him what you would like also.

Jumpy

bedshy wrote:

Have started seeing this guy I really like, nothing too physical yet, just kissing and cuddling and stuff. He's told me that he really likes a woman to take the lead in bed but I've always been one to follow a guys lead and get more confident from there. Any tips or advice? It's begining to stress me out and I'm really worrying about making a mess of it.

Ha! you are a girl! they beauty there is that you CANT make a mess of it. He only prefers to have a women lead because he is as nervous as you by the sound of it.

LegacyUser

in the exact position myself, we've only been together a month or two but we've had a fair bit of sex in that time. He likes female leadership too cept, I'm not near as experienced in that field as he is, ergo I get nervous that I'm gonna do everything wrong.

Best thing I've found is, to start let him lead whilest still playing an active role, then as your confidence grows you can become a bit more in control and so on. Once you're really comfortable with eachother you can even laugh off something awkward that may happen.

Hope that helps. Don't worry bout it though, you'll be fine!

Black Swan

Yes, humour is important and a great reliever of anxiety when trying something new.

LadyJ

Men like sex. There's nothing you can do wrong.

Just relax and gain some confidence from the fact that he wants you and he'll probably be pleased with whatever you do.

Why don't you blindfold him. This will be exciting for him and make him,physically,that little bit more sensitive.

Also,it might make you feel a little less nervous or self-conscious and allow you to get into the swing of things more quickly.

greenteaicedtea

Jumpy wrote:

Ha! you are a girl! they beauty there is that you CANT make a mess of it. He only prefers to have a women lead because he is as nervous as you by the sound of it.

well even if he knows what to do, it's nice for a man to know what a woman likes in bed, he's not a mind reader.

LegacyUser

thanks for all the advice & well wishes!