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Foreign Girlfriend Driving me up the wall.

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  • #52
    Gandhi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 976 ✭✭✭Gandhi


    Conflicted,

    Your girlfriend is homesick as hell. She doesn't want to admit to herself that she is homesick, so she is pinning all the feelings of loneliness and depression on you. She does not want to make friends, join clubs etc., as that will make her move to Ireland feel more permanent. She would rather sit in the corner wishing she was back home with her own friends and family.

    At some point during her trip back home, don't be surprised if she wants you to move over with her, or at least be very reluctant to come back.

    That is my gut reaction to this. I could be completely wrong.


  • #53
    nitrogen
    Closed Accounts Posts: 698 ✭✭✭nitrogen


    OP: I haven't read every reply, just yours. I have one question and one comment.

    Is your GF Asian? Just some of her characteristics remind me of girls I knew. It might be time to spend some time in her country, and get to know her culture...

    "sleeping 14 hours a day". That will make anyone depressed, a kick up the arse by oneself or from someone is what's needed there!


  • #54
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No, my girlfriend isn't Asian. She's American.

    Things have been a little better the past few days... then again, I have been working out of the house 12 hours a day for the past few days... we've spent no more than about 4 hours together.

    She's been a lot nicer lately, but still I can see the undertones of homesickness coming out in her. She's going home in another week. I'm still thinking about ending it. Is there any difference between breaking up with someone when things aren't as dire as they used to be? Surely if you're having a good day (or few days) with someone, it must seem out of the blue if they break up with you. A few good days doesn't make up for a few bad months, surely. But things aren't as bad lately, so I'll think carefully about it.

    I appreciate everyone's comments in this thread. I realize I'm too young to be going through such grief at age 21. So things between us will have to get better, or else it'll be time to move on.

    Any other comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    -Slightlylessconflicted


  • #55
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    No, my girlfriend isn't Asian. She's American.

    Things have been a little better the past few days... then again, I have been working out of the house 12 hours a day for the past few days... we've spent no more than about 4 hours together.

    She's been a lot nicer lately, but still I can see the undertones of homesickness coming out in her. She's going home in another week. I'm still thinking about ending it. Is there any difference between breaking up with someone when things aren't as dire as they used to be? Surely if you're having a good day (or few days) with someone, it must seem out of the blue if they break up with you. A few good days doesn't make up for a few bad months, surely. But things aren't as bad lately, so I'll think carefully about it.

    I appreciate everyone's comments in this thread. I realize I'm too young to be going through such grief at age 21. So things between us will have to get better, or else it'll be time to move on.

    Any other comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

    -Slightlylessconflicted


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