Lifestyle Question

LegacyUser

Hi,
I have a slight problem that I would like a another perspective on. The situation is, that I love being single and meeting different girls. I would ideally meet a different girl each week as I love to meet new & interesting women. It is no problem meeting women or anything like that.
My problem is that for whatever reason I find it hard to perform until I get to know a girl. Normally it takes two or three dates getting intimate before I can seal the deal. The issue with this is that invariably ends in a relationship. I am not great relationship matieral as I find it hard for my eye not to wander. Hence, I have been in many short term relationships (all ended by me).
In a sense I have a certain mentality that my body refuses to go along with. I am presently seeing a girl (and she is very nice) who I ended up going out with because of the reason explained above (a few dates, shag & then we are going out). The problem is that she is going away soon and I think there is a good chance I'll end up smooching some other girl. Basically, I want to stop breaking girls hearts.

Colm_OReilly

Are you sure you're breaking their hearts? Could it just be projection that you believe you're doing this?

Do you explain you don't want any sort of committed/serious relationship early on?

What sort of relationship do you want with this particular girl?

melekalikimaka

mneh as long as you dont get caught/slapped in the face, live it up

Trinity

I think what your talking about is more a 'friend with benefits' type of situation.

that suits a lot of people the trick here is to actually 'tell' the other person that that is exactly what it is.

what hurts people is dishonesty and expectation. if she doesnt expect anything from you she will not be disappointed.

breaking hearts is a pretty strong statement, disappoint or hurt maybe but it is only in lying that you will do this.

if you are honest and upfront about this with the girl (or others you meet) you will proabbly find that they are happy enough with the single life themselves and therefore this arrangement would suit them.

you wont break hearts if you are up-front and comunicate your needs and wants from the beginning. Theres nothing worse than being strung along for months only to be told well i never wanted a relationship.

LegacyUser

Breaking hearts ???

I don't think so.

And what do U think many of the gurls want ?

I think more of 'the meat injection' rather than your soul.

ircoha

You seem to be on one hell of an ego trip.

<would like a another perspective > to what : you being a sexual predator.

<seal the deal>: it seems to me that once the deal has been sealed you have no further interest and your mind is on the next conquest, the only problem is how to dump the current.

<I find it hard to perform until I get to know a girl.> The only knowing here seems to be how long will it take before she spreads the legs for u to perform.

<Basically, I want to stop breaking girls hearts> Bull, what you are seeking is something to absolve you from your behaviour

What goes round comes round, so you will be fine until...... and u will be lucky if she only cuts it off.