Give up Boards???

Dreamer 7

Hi all

Ive been posting here for a while and always like to put my two bobs worth in but now I have a problem.

My man is not v computer literate but is learning fast and we have just had broadband put into the house.

He is a v private person and I discuss alot of personal stuff here and he definetly would not be impressed with me airing our dirty laundry!

Also I have admitted things on here that he doesnt even know! And it will cause alot of hassle if he finds out!

So what do i do, delete all my posts and say goodbye to boards?? Or log on but delete the internet history constantly??

I dont know what his reaction would be for a fact but me on here is a bit of time for me only y'know and if i have to start watching what I say it wouldnt be as much fun y'know???:rolleyes:

KdjaCL

Lucky for you search is broken, be very hard for him to find any old posts of yours.


kdjac

GrumPy

Change your user name to "afatnerd" and always make sure to log out after each visit. He will never know!

(does he even know your username in the first place?)

Miss Fluff

Does he know your on Boards? Does he know your username? You can always change it. Post any PI's anonymously and delete your history when you log off. Wouldn't worry about it too much.

Dreamer 7

No he doesnt know boards exists, or that Im on here. When i log in here in work I dont have to sign in im logged in already. If I dont click remember me that will stop that happening wont it??

He is not an ogre or anything but i rather keep this time for just me!

Jim_No.6

Get Firefox;

Tools->Options->Privacy->Settings-> (Tick All) : "Clear Private Data when closing Firefox"


Couldn't be easier!

Gordon

It's a bit of a problem imo if you are hiding a place where you speak openly about things that you cannot speak with him about.

Aidan78

Deleting history is definitely the way to go. And if your BF knows your user name on boards, then change that also.

Giving up boards would certainly be a big no-no. I've only recently signed up in the past few weeks, but was checking it out for ages beforehand. It quickly becomes an addiction, and even now, I think talking about giving up would be a lot easier than the whole process of giving up and going cold turkey.

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Vegeta

Gordon wrote:

It's a bit of a problem imo if you are hiding a place where you speak openly about things that you cannot speak with him about.

Yeah i am with the gord'meister on this one. If ya cant talk to him about the stuff you post here, ya have to take a look at your relationship with the guy

Heinrich

You have the choice of being frank with him and continuing on Boards.ie or leaving because the dirt will come out in the wash one day or another.

Why do people need to be sneaky?

Miss Fluff

Gordon wrote:

It's a bit of a problem imo if you are hiding a place where you speak openly about things that you cannot speak with him about.

I don't think so. Everyone should keep something for themselves. Everyone has secrets don't they? What if she's unsure about something in her relationship but might not want to discuss it/make a big deal of it? Everyone is entitled to keep a little bit back for themselves imo.

Mrs_Doyle

I have a good relationship with my BF, but everyone goes through rough patches and its nice to have a place to ask for peoples opinions/advice on things. Sometimes its just nice to vent and maybe share your darker side with a world that can't judge you.
My BF is on Boards now, so if I have anything that I need advice on, etc, I will post unreg.
I don't think it means there is anything wrong with your relationship. Boards gives you the chance to take other peoples opinions into consideration, and often just seeing your own words on a page can help you to get things into perspective.

I know I posted something unregged a long time ago, me and my BF where having a bit of a rough patch, anyhow, the feedback I got helped me to snap back into reality and realise the possible consequences, had I have acted on my original thoughts.
We got things back on track soon afterward, and things are better then ever before.
I am seriously glad I posted now, as things could have turned out very differently if I hadn't.

Don't give up Boards, just post unregged.

Black Swan

I guess you can try to hide on boards if you like. Many of the suggestions by previous posters might work. If you elect to hide, I would caution you. My significant other is on boards, and they know me so well that if I tried to hide, it wouldn't last long before they discovered me. Of course, I am not worried about that, cause we have a playful relationship.;)

Slutmonkey57b

There's a difference between keeping part of yourself private and partitioning off part of your relationship though. Keeping secrets from your partner about what you're doing behind their back in the relationship is not the same thing at all.

Dreamer 7

Vegeta wrote:

Yeah i am with the gord'meister on this one. If ya cant talk to him about the stuff you post here, ya have to take a look at your relationship with the guy

I take the advice i get here and then talk it through with him if im stuck on something and I was also unfaithful a few months back which I have spoken about here too.

I just think he would feel that everybody knows about what happened now and we kept it just between us. I think he would feel betrayed that i tell people about stuff that hurt him so much.

I will post unreg no for any PIs and remain the same for the other forums, i cant go giving u guys up now can I??:D

Miss Fluff

Dreamer 7 wrote:

I i cant go giving u guys up now can I??:D

Miss Fluff looks at floor coquettishly ...... aww shucks

frobisher

Gordon wrote:

It's a bit of a problem imo if you are hiding a place where you speak openly about things that you cannot speak with him about.

I'll have to completely disagree with you this time. I am the world's beleiver in openess aand honesty but sometimes bouncing your thoughts/hopes/fears etc off someone can help you formulate them better than you otherwise may have done. Would you also beleive that any private converstations with doctors/counsellers/freinds should also be shared?

Slutmonkey57b

Again, there is a difference between getting someone's opinion before speaking to your partner, and hiding things from them. I don't think anybody would say "don't use PI", they're just saying "don't lie to your boyfriend".

Khannie

Register a new account. Abandon your current one. End of problem. (edit: rather; end of historical posts )

(under normal circumstances, the uber-mods don't like you doing this, but I'm sure reasonable exceptions can be made).

Catch_22

just setup different user accounts for each of you on the computer.
you each use your own account which will have your own browser history cookies etc.. so you dont have to be remembering to clear anything afterwards.

Dreamer 7

Thx for the advice guys, wont be giving it up, maybe just be careful!

LegacyUser

You're a woman. U should be able to think of
some devious way to get around it !

Dreamer 7

Never a truer word said lol

DublinWriter

Gordon wrote:

It's a bit of a problem imo if you are hiding a place where you speak openly about things that you cannot speak with him about.

I'd agree that that is the real problem, but only to a point. No-one tells their spouse *everything*, nor should they.

OP - get Firefox. Even wiping out history in Internet Explorer doesn't wipe all the cached pages (copies of the posts and forums you've visited) lurking around in temp areas.

easyontheeye

Dreamer 7 wrote:

Thx for the advice guys, wont be giving it up, maybe just be careful!

hey Dreamer, turn off the logging of passwords and usernames, this could get you caught out

go to tools->internet options -> content -> autocomplete

clear passwords
clear forms

untick forms usernames etc

blorg

Definately stop using IE. Insane. Use Opera or Firefox. In Opera it is as simple as Tools > Delete Private Data and you can set what you want to get rid of. You can also do per site settings.

easyontheeye

so many people know how to cover their tracks too well...lol what does say for us? :rolleyes:

Zapho

I didn't have time to read the other posts so if this has been suggest already, then sorry for wasting your time, but!

Does your B/F frequent Boards or does he even know about it. If so, does he know your nickname? If not I'd say you're home free!

Anyway I don't think you'd even need to erase your net history because that won't give away your username, it'll just list the boards you've visited. Does your b/f know enough to even look at your history? Would he need to?

If so just get a laptop or something, then you're guaranteed privacy! I'd never share a PC thats for sure!

blorg

Zapho wrote:

If so just get a laptop or something, then you're guaranteed privacy! I'd never share a PC thats for sure!

Donkey porn?

LegacyUser

Hi All,
wow. this is my first time on a board...ever!
I just got reading your messages... I have a long time query..
I know 'dreamer' is saying that she doesnt' want they boyf to read boards..
what about email and txts...
can i ask... do you guys read your boyf's emails/texts? if not would he mind if you did?
I read dodgy ones lately when i was snooping on my boyfs phone..nothing too harmful mind you , but not great either..
any thoughts?
thanks,
new girl

layke

Out of all hte tech suggestions Zapho's is the best.

Just don't tell him. I certainly don't tell the missus where I post.

Zapho

blorg wrote:

Donkey porn?

..........yes.

Nevyn

blorg, unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal