Ten year age gap

LegacyUser

Okay, simple question.
She's 18, I'm 28.
Yea or Nay?

(And I know it's legal, that's not really my concern)

BoozyBabe

Well,
I was 21, he was 30.
It lasted 5 years & the break up was nothing to do with the age gap, so, of course it's a Yea, if you want it to be.

Age is but a number..........

Donegal Lass

id say yea! it wouldnt bother me! only thing that would be a factor is what her parents would think. My sister is 19 and going out with a 34 yr old! parents were NOT happy at the start but they eventually got over it! It really depends on whether you like her enough to endure that!?:)

smk135

i've been going out with older people my whole life, it really doesnt matter and whoever isnt happy about it will always get over it. they have to anyway its none of their business. but be prepared to get a lot of stick from your mates/family!!

layke

I hope when i'm older i'll have such an age gap in my relationship. (But the cool kind).

Seriously, I know an 18 year old would do my head in. But she might be one of those mentaly 'mature wimmin' folk I read about.

I'd say give it a shot, what's the worst that can happen?

eimearnll

that would'nt bother me,i say go for it.how long are you with her?

Marksie

I was 21 she was 30 .. i would say yes, though we broke up after a few years we are still friends after 21 years. So as said before, age is but a number

Black Swan

Do you really fancy each other? If so, go for it!

Ickle Magoo

I think as you get older age matters less & less....

If you want to just go for it & see how things pan out. It seems a shame to right it off before even embarking on a relationship because other people may view the age gap as odd.

I dated a guy who was 32 when I was 19 when we met. It lasted a couple of years but in the end the differences in our stages of lives became a real problem...but that may not happen with you. Best of luck!

LegacyUser

been there, done that.

she'll more than likely wreck your head after a while though, unless she's very mature, or you're v immature.

have fun

Elphaba

I've been out with somone 13 years older than me and am now with someone 6 years younger. It really is just a number. I got to know both these guys before I knew what ge they were. The only people who ever had a problem with it were busy bodies. As long as your friends/family know you're happy what else matters?

SingingCherry

Definite Yea! I've known many people with bigger age gaps and so far they ahve worked out. Have fun!

LegacyUser

well i was 18 and he was 36 - lasted 5 years, but i think the depth of his emotional baggage weighed us down. we were compatable in alot of ways, but someone that much younger just doesnt have the life experience to cope.

then i think it might have worked if he wasnt such a hard case to begin with?
who knows.

certainly OP, give it a go and see what happens

Davidth88

Hi,

15 years ago I met someone 10 years younger than myself ( I was 29 , she was 19 ) we have now been married for 10 years and are very happy .... go for it !

Preset No.3

Davidth88 wrote:

Hi,

15 years ago I met someone 10 years younger than myself ( I was 29 , she was 19 ) we have now been married for 10 years and are very happy .... go for it !

Fair paly to you david. 11 year gap in mine and as much as I want to have to give it time, but i look forward to taking the trip down the aisle. Age is but a number. If you are compatible with this person then there is nothing stopping you except when she likes the oldies playing on the radio and you remember going out when they were hits!!

LegacyUser

The age gap isn't really an issue for me as I've been with people that much older than me before, it's more the fact that she's only 18.
I can't help think how I would feel if my 18 year old daughter brought home a guy who wasn't far off 30! And yes, if I was to be completely honest, the reaction of my own friends and family would have a certain impact on things like this, but not so much that I would let it rule my decision.

Anyway cheers for the replies and the fact that so many of you have been in the same situation with successful results is great to hear

Davidth88

Preset , you have hit the nail on the head !!! , she still doesn't believe me when I tell he that man landed on the moon !

Anyway , back to the point , go for it , you may find in 10 years time it gets a little more difficult with you beginning to slow down , but she may keep you young , thats what I found !

Ruu_Old

If you are happy then go for it, simple as that. Don't mind the begrudgers you may come across, have fun and look after each other.

padser

QuandaryBoy wrote:

The age gap isn't really an issue for me as I've been with people that much older than me before, it's more the fact that she's only 18.
I can't help think how I would feel if my 18 year old daughter brought home a guy who wasn't far off 30! And yes, if I was to be completely honest, the reaction of my own friends and family would have a certain impact on things like this, but not so much that I would let it rule my decision.

Anyway cheers for the replies and the fact that so many of you have been in the same situation with successful results is great to hear

On average women live roughly (i think) about 5 years longer then men. If you stayed with her you would most likely be condeming her to spend the last 15 years of her life alone. Im not suggesting you base a decision on this, however if it was me its something I would consider.

Smellyirishman

You're right, instead, commit her to a life without the person she loves. :rolleyes:

Geordie_Girl

padser wrote:

On average women live roughly (i think) about 5 years longer then men. If you stayed with her you would most likely be condeming her to spend the last 15 years of her life alone. Im not suggesting you base a decision on this, however if it was me its something I would consider.

That has to be the strangest reasoning for not getting into a relationship that I've ever heard.

I say go for it. Why not. There's 9 years between me and my other half (he's older). It's never been an issue.

Chucky the tree

QuandaryBoy wrote:

The age gap isn't really an issue for me as I've been with people that much older than me before, it's more the fact that she's only 18.
I can't help think how I would feel if my 18 year old daughter brought home a guy who wasn't far off 30! And yes, if I was to be completely honest, the reaction of my own friends and family would have a certain impact on things like this, but not so much that I would let it rule my decision.

Anyway cheers for the replies and the fact that so many of you have been in the same situation with successful results is great to hear

That would be the main problem for me.

If your serious about it go for it. But expect to be hated by the her family for a long time until they think your serious about it. Expect to get plenty of stick of your mates/ work collegues and family. I'd say it would be very awkward you bringing a 18 year old to a family do of yours, and vice-a-versa.

Also, what is she doing now? If shes going in to 6th year then its a big probelm. She will be spending alot of time studying, and her parents will hate you even more(if thats possible) because they will think your jeperdising her future.

If shes going into college thats another problem area. She will be in with a new group of friends all similiar age all going out drinking during the week. If you work full time chances are you wont get to go, or might feel awkward doing it. Then there is the summer holidays. Most college people go away for the whole summer for at once in their 4 years. Expect her to do the same.

If shes going into full time work it would be alot easier.

To be perfectly honest if i was in your position i would just bang her out of it for a view months until the novelty of her being 18 wears off then dump her. For me it would be too much hassle to get into a long term.

However if she was going into full time work i would give it alot more thought.

Goodluck.

440Hz

Its strange how people think about things.. my first reaction was HELL NO... and then I thought.. hang on... im 25 and fancy a guy is ten years older... guess there aint too much of a difference... HOWEVER for me... personally... if it ends in the word 'TEEN' then its too young for me. I wouldnt

Zhane

Im 19, my boyfriend is 30, thats 11 years difference. And i love him to bits. So yeah go for it.

Mrs_Doyle

I know I wouldn't have been mature enough at 18 for a relationship with a 28 year old, infact I am probabaly still not mature enough for a relationship with a 28 year old and I'm 24!
But that's just me.
I do know of girls who got with guys a bit older then them at 19 and 20 and their relationships worked out just fine.

Darragh29

Jesus no offence but no way man imo! At 28, you've just come out of your mid twenties, those years where you really start learning the way of the world, your career is now probably bedded in and working out for you, you're likely come through college, learned a good few of life's lessons (probably had your heart broken at least once!), you've probably been through the student poverty thing, your mates now are probably not the same mates you had 10 years ago.

She is just starting out on life on her own, probably still handing around with her friends from secondary school, she is likely still reliant to some degree on the support of her parents. When I think of this I think of Ross in Friends when he went out with one of his students (Elizabeth!). Best of luck to the two of you if you can do it but I certainly couldn't.

Cake Fiend

QuandaryBoy wrote:

Yea or Nay?

In the vast majority of cases, I'd say Nay.

But we don't know anything about either of you - that question can only be answered per individual case. I've known some very mature 18-year-olds and some very young-at-heart late 20-ers. I've also gone out with a few younger women who ended up being irritatingly immature (IMO the most irritating are the ones that like to believe they're very grown-up), leading me to promise myself 'no more teenagers'.

What do you want from this? Is it going to be a quick fling or are you looking for more? If it's the latter, I'd be surprised if it works out.

yoda01

The ideal age woman for a man is half his age plus 4

Women are usually more mature then men by about 7 years

Zulu

She is a bit young. You'll both (potnetially) be looking for different things out of the relationship. Also, as you'll know yourself, people do a lot of growing in their twenties.

That being said, so long as you know what you're getting into, go for it! Best of luck.

Rabies

My last girlfriend was 19 when we first started going out and I was 25. Last for 10 months. The age gap did seem a bit weird at first and some of my friends made one or two comments but that was it.
The relationship finished a while ago, we still meet up and are good friends.
Work was a priority in my life, socialising and being a student with the idea of travelling was in her's. Different paths. Someone a few years older for me the next time.

Lorax

Its a bit too much now OP in fairness..

DawnMc

Nay

piraka

Yea

grockle

i'm 35, he's 27, been together 3yr, now planning wedding.

no prob.