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Epicpriest

Ok, theres this girl who works in a place where i have lunch. She also works in a pub nearby to on the weekends. Now everytime i see her she waves at me and she seems quite shy, she's foreign i know, but never actually spoken to her, now when i go for lunch she comes past and gives me the biggest shyest smile ever and seems to fancy me. I just don't know how to approach her. Do you think that calling her over and just handing her my card with my mobile number circled is to "movie thing"? it's just bursting into conversation with her in the middle of a restaurant after so long is weird!

Dinxminx

lol Awwww.... I wouldn't do the whole business card thing; it comes across as too much of a You-Know-You-Want-Me kind of thing! Why don't you ask her for HER number? Tell her you'd like to take her out sometime or whatever. You don't have to "burst into conversation" - save that for the date. Just ask if you could have her number and take it from there.

Lust4Life

The "Handing her your card" thing would maybe give her the impression that you are too full of yourself.

Maybe drop your fork and ask her for another and while she gets it, tell her she has such a beautiful smile that you can't help coming to that restaurant every day. THEN ask her out for coffee or something. A bit of flattery goes a long way!

Tusky

I am in a similiar situation only she doesnt wave or smile at me...in fact, she runs away

but seriously, I am and I dont really know how to approach the situation either. I think im just gonna leave it be.

Epicpriest

Lust4Life wrote:

The "Handing her your card" thing would maybe give her the impression that you are too full of yourself.

Maybe drop your fork and ask her for another and while she gets it, tell her she has such a beautiful smile that you can't help coming to that restaurant every day. THEN ask her out for coffee or something. A bit of flattery goes a long way!

Wow, maybe i should tell her i'll give her half if i win the lotto! haha, what if she doesn't have great Engwish . Maybe i should just say when she comes up "you know i only come in here to see you don't you" and smile or something?

Epicpriest

Also, don't almost all these these Easter European women in ireland come over with their boyfriends and stuff? Or is that just myth?

SoupyNorman

great stuff......

delop

Epicpriest wrote:

Also, don't almost all these these Easter European women in ireland come over with their boyfriends and stuff? Or is that just myth?

A friend of mine would pick up his lunch in a spar near beaumount hospital every day, Same deal as the OP, So after a couple of weeks of Smiles and brief conversations he asked the polish girl to go for a drink, She was excited to go with him, but mentoned about going back to his place in an extended conversation, because her husband would be in her house, He thought YIKES!! and ran :-)

Epicpriest

Never seen any rings on this girl, she seems youngish, maybe 20?

damonjewel

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=52059804#post52059804

have you seen the above thread? weird coincidence here.

Best of luck

Epicpriest

damonjewel wrote:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=52059804#post52059804

have you seen the above thread? weird coincidence here.

Best of luck

Wow, well this is strange. It doesn't sound like the right location. The place i go to is right in the middle of town in a busy shopping centre place. And the girl i'm on about usually waves at me first and stuff

miamee

Epicpriest wrote:

Wow, well this is strange. It doesn't sound like the right location. The place i go to is right in the middle of town in a busy shopping centre place. And the girl i'm on about usually waves at me first and stuff

Someone is obviously bored & trying to wind you up, don't pay any attention. You should try asking her if she had a nice weekend on Monday when you see her or something like that. In a similar situation myself, guy working here always full of smiles etc but I would always say Hi & get no reply. Now he says Hello like its a new word so I thought maybe he had pretty bad English but have since found out his English is quite good! Maybe I'm misreading friendly for something else, lol!
Well I won't lose any sleep over it anyway

Good luck btw

6th

Epicpriest wrote:

Maybe i should just say when she comes up "you know i only come in here to see you don't you" and smile or something?

I'm a charming fcuker (:)) and trust me that is the way to go! say it in a smiley genuine way though, not like a sex offender.

Epicpriest

hahaha, i'm usually quite charming, when i'm out and stuff and with poeple i know i have no problem. but approaching someone working in a place i eat is kinda different! especially seeing that when i ask her it's gonna be like in front of the lads i work with

comer_97

6th really is a charming fupper! It's kinda scary. It's almost if he has some special powers.

On topic again....

you like her say hello, chit chat over the next few weeks and it will all fall into place!

Tobias Greeshman

If I were you OP I'd just go with "how was your weekend, etc..." line and play it from ear there. The ask her out for a few drinks, cinema, etc.

If you're the tiniest bit unsure about pulling off the line 6th suggested, then don't do it. It could really backfire in your face, and make you look a bit sleazy.

Tar.Aldarion

The card thin wouold be awful. SHe seems to like you, go say hi, ask her out somewhere?

You don't have to go with your friends everytime, go on your own.

Black Swan

Dump the card idea. Ask her out.

smk135

why the hell would you even think of giving her your card when you say yourslef that she's shy??!!

just either go up and ask her for her number when your mates/colleagues arent around or see what happens when you chit chat to her.

I think asking for her number is best because if i was in her situation (presuming you're not just being full of yourself and she does actually like you!!!) i'd be delighted to give you my number, whereas if it was a random dude i wouldnt. but it's different because you've been going there regularly and have got to "know" her from afar, so it's kind of flattering to ask her for her number.

pff i think i just made no sense but couldnt be bothered going back over it.

spinandscribble

if a guy gave me a card or his number i'd think he was a sleeze. ask her for his

Cianos

A way of getting around the problem of your workmates being there everytime you are there, you could pretend you mislaid something, go back an hour later or whatever, and specifically ask her about the phantom phone/wallet/keys. At least you have a way of initiating conversation then too

She may be uber shy if you ask her out in front of a table full of lads...she would immediately go on the defence.

GrumPy

6th wrote:

say it in a smiley genuine way though, not like a sex offender.

lol

chamlis

Man this is crazy. I've got the same thing going on with a girl where I go for lunch. It's gotten to the point where I walk in and she looks over her shoulder with those eyes that silently ask "the usual?". Then I get the biggest stupidest grin and have to go sit down like a tard, grinning in the corner.

Hi!