Should i do anything about him?

angelbaby

I need a bit of advise on this please. You see there’s this lad iv liked for ages but the thing is I don’t know if he likes me as well or is just having a laugh or simply just being cheeky because for the past few months whenever we walk by each other when we’re out he always feels my butt and if we see each other in town he always says hello. One night out about a month or more ago he asked me my name as well. My friends say they always see him looking at me and that I should really do something about it and are always telling me “it’s so obvious he likes you” but I’m just not sure because I really cant imagine this lad liking me basically because I see him as being a bit out of my league, although my friends don‘t think so. And every time I see him I get all conflustered and even when I get the chance to go over and speak to him I just kind of panic and can‘t bring myself to go over to him. Usually I’m not like that at all with fellas but I like him so much.

I’d be really grateful for advise on this because I really like him and all this has been going on for about 5 months now and it‘s wrecking my head. Plus I’m not sure if I should do anything and risk the possibility of rejection. Basically because not only do I see him every weekend when I go out but I see him nearly everyday in town as he owns a shop there so it would be kind of uncomfortable seeing him if he rejects me. And even if he does like me I’m not really sure what I should do about it.

If anyone can help me out here I’d really appreciate it. Thanks!:)

free2fly

Just go over and start a conversation with him and take it from there. You'll never know if you don't at least try.

LundiMardi

angelbaby wrote:

or simply just being cheeky because for the past few months whenever we walk by each other when we’re out he always feels my butt

I see... and why exactly do you like him again? Sounds like a knob to be honest. I'd be carefull with him tbh, if he does this and he doesn't even really know you, then he probably thinks quite highly of himself and may only be into one thing. imo of course:)

seamus

He looks at you, therefore you're in.

Just go talk to him

LundiMardi

seamus wrote:

He looks at you, therefore you're in.

Just go talk to him

This is also true, trust me op, we're not hard to please....

Ruu_Old

Go over, say hello and introduce yourself. You won't know anything until you do that. Good luck.

Tobias Greeshman

LundiMardi wrote:

I see... and why exactly do you like him again? Sounds like a knob to be honest.

Maybe she likes having her arse felt. I thought most girls didn't, ah well I suppose different strokes for different folks, and all the rest.

OP if you like him that much, just go over to him and start up a random conversation with him. Just say hello, introduce yourself and talk about whatever pops into your head (eg. the music in the pub, where he works, etc...).

nobodythere

Wait a second, he was walking down the street feeling your arse, and THEN one night out he asked your name? I'll let that speak for itself!

angelbaby

grasshopa wrote:

Wait a second, he was walking down the street feeling your arse,

eh no he wasnt walking down the street feeling my arse...i just meant that sometimes in the club if i walk by him or vice versa that he gives my arse a sly quick feel. but hes been sayin hello to me before he started that. it is a bit cheeky of him so that's why im not sure what to think.

spinandscribble

do you not think if he's got enough confidence to do that he'd have enough to ask you out already? seems like a player to me

Trinity

I was a bit taken aback when you said he was feeling your ass before he asked your name? So he says hello does that give him a free for all.

I'm by no means a prude but if someone i didnt know did that to me i would make sure he never did it again.

However if you want to give him the benefit of the doubt, the only way you are going to find out what he is like is to speak to him.

Its possible he may just have been a little drunk or showing off to the lads but the next time he does it - stop and say something, if you dont want to tel lhim off about it use it as an opportunity to strike up a conversation, say something witty or flirty - cant think of anything off the top of my head but ya know what i mean - you touch it you buy it or something - dont forget to smile or you will come off as tarty LOL

can you tell how long its been since a stranger felt my ass :rolleyes:

angelbaby

well i have to say he never grabs my arse when hes sober its always when hes p*ssed. When hes sober he just smiles and says hi.

Caryatnid

Good grief.

Maybe he fancies you - but for the type of guy who feels girls' asses before he even knows their names............sounds like a bit of a player to me!!! IMO I reckon you could easily get him, but he's probably the type of guy who anyone could get. What's so great about him?

The feeling of his palm......?

Fanny Cradock

The story of how you guys met is one to tell the grand children - "Well, funny you should ask, little Johnnie, first he slapped the arse off me, then he stole my heart". He sounds horrid, but I guess you really don't mind that much... at all in fact, so go for it. Why not slap his arse back next time you meet him . Seems as he mostly communicates through the delicate and oft misconstrued method of the arse slap, he should understand your meaning perfectly.

P.S. I'm guessing he's an ass man

Trinity

Fanny Cradock wrote:

The story of how you guys met is one to tell the grand children - "Well, funny you should ask, little Johnnie, first he slapped the arse off me, then he stole my heart". He sounds horrid, but I guess you really don't mind that much... at all in fact, so go for it. Why not slap his arse back next time you meet him . Seems as he mostly communicates through the delicate and oft misconstrued method of the arse slap, he should understand your meaning perfectly.

P.S. I'm guessing he's an ass man

I think a better ending to the story is " little johnnie he slapped the arse off me so i grabbed him by the balls and told him if he ever touched me again a hairy hole would not be the only thing he had in common with my neutered dog" and we all lived happily ever after awhhhhhhhh..........

Fanny Cradock

You should write children's stories (or at least tell them)....

"And tomorrow, Johnnie, i'll tell you all about the magical tales of Charles Manson and his happy, happy, joy, joy family. Sleep well!"


Seriously, if the arse thing doesn't bother you, go for it, OP. He clearly likes you.

Trinity

Fanny Cradock wrote:

You should write children's stories (or at least tell them)....

"And tomorrow, Johnnie, i'll tell you all about the magical tales of Charles Manson and his happy, happy, joy, joy family. Sleep well!"


Seriously, if the arse thing doesn't bother you, go for it, OP. He clearly likes you.

Yeah sure it could be worse - he could be grabbing your cradock

Fanny Cradock

or your fanny

Trinity

Fanny Cradock wrote:

or your fanny

ROFL

melekalikimaka

seamus wrote:

He looks at you, therefore you're in.

Just go talk to him

i agree

LegacyUser

Trinity1 wrote:

next time he does it - stop and say something, if you dont want to tel lhim off about it use it as an opportunity to strike up a conversation, say something witty or flirty - cant think of anything off the top of my head but ya know what i mean - you touch it you buy it or something - dont forget to smile or you will come off as tarty LOL

thats a good idea!

LegacyUser

it sounds to me like he likes you. I agree with with what others have said that you should go over and start talking to him. He's already asked you your name!! if you asked him his when he did that then it means you already know eachother by first name basis, this makes it easier to speak to him.
The whole ass grabbing thing is quite cheeky, perhaps hes trying to get your attention?

Seriously OP just start a conversation with him and take it from there.. Good Luck.

_blank_

By my reading of it, it seems he feels your ass when you are in a pub or club, or out somewhere.

When you are in the same place as him, and he's doing the ass-feeling, do you see him with other girls, doing the same thing?

Does he kiss other girls on these nights?

Are they different girls each time?

If you like him, go for it. Don't ever think someone is 'out of your league', but beware, he seems to be a bit of a sleaze, maybe you are out of his league.

madhitchhiker

Originally Posted by seansouth
If you like him, go for it. Don't ever think someone is 'out of your league', but beware, he seems to be a bit of a sleaze, maybe you are out of his league.

right! be on guard though. you never know what plays on his mind...

Sangre

Mental Note: Feel girls up in public, they love it.

angelbaby

seansouth wrote:

When you are in the same place as him, and he's doing the ass-feeling, do you see him with other girls, doing the same thing?

Does he kiss other girls on these nights?

Are they different girls each time?

no, me or my friends never seen him doing that to other girls and he usually doesnt be with other girls either only the odd time but he doesnt feel my arse if hes with another girl.

angelbaby

Sangre wrote:

Mental Note: Feel girls up in public, they love it.

no we dont!!!!

Nevyn

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Sangre

angelbaby wrote:

no, me or my friends never seen him doing that to other girls and he usually doesnt be with other girls either only the odd time but he doesnt feel my arse if hes with another girl.

Who says chivalry is dead?

Heres my take. You find this guy good-looking and out of your league. This probably mean he *is* good-looking. Good-looking people are normally confident around women and others in general.
The fact that he feels you up indicates that he is a 'lad' and probably a player, who loves nothing better than a score.

Putting two and two together (a confident player), he probably would have approached you, looking to chat you up already if he was really interested (and not in a, ah sure she'll do grand way).