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LegacyUser

ok i made another thread called Ask but can't find it. It's about this girl i see everyday in a place i eat. She always gives me a really big smile and a wave. She's eastern european. It looks like she really fancies me.

so i asked yee what i should do and you said to ask her if she wants to do something sometime.

so i did, i went up to her when she was on her own, (she works there) and said "hi nice to meet you, i',m xxx, i was just wondering if you weren't seeing anyone, if you you'd maybe like to go for a drink with me sometime." she got really embarrassed and said "i have work" so i said well maybe some thursday sometime and she said "maybe maybe," smiling and looked really shy and walked off with a big smile on her face.

So i went in the other day and and she was there, i didn't see her but my friend said she saw him and looked a bit embarrassed! or something.

You think she's not interested?

Beetlebum

It's hard to say...Jesus I really don't like all the head wreck that comes when you fancy someone; trying to dechiper every movement, analysing their texts, worrying if they like you back....

Fair play to ya for asking her out though, that was a brave thing to do. If she didn't like you she probably would've just said 'sorry, I have a boyfriend' so chances are she does like you but is abit shy or nervous.

Victor

Is this it? http://boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2054991008

LegacyUser

You will have to go a bit further and ask her on a date with a specific day and time. She said 'maybe maybe' and not 'no'. Fair play to ya, go for it. Good Luck. You can call the first one "boardsie"

LegacyUser

Sorry but IMO the whole asking waitresses/ shop assistants etc out thing is completely sleazy and/or deluded.

And to be honest, it sounds like shes mortified, and not interested.

One other thing, usually normal well-adjusted adults can pretty easily tell wether or not someone is interested. If youre not sure, shes probably not interested IMO.

I hope this frank reply might save both of you further embarrassment.

Darragh29

wom wrote:

Sorry but IMO the whole asking waitresses/ shop assistants etc out thing is completely sleazy and/or deluded.

And to be honest, it sounds like shes mortified, and not interested.

One other thing, usually normal well-adjusted adults can pretty easily tell wether or not someone is interested. If youre not sure, shes probably not interested IMO.

I hope this frank reply might save both of you further embarrassment.

Jasus give the poor lad a break ffs! I might send you in as a scout next time the girl working at reception in the gym gives me the eye, she is soooooooooooooo hot!!!

Fanny Cradock

Yeah, asking someone out is just freaky and perverted. Imagine doing something like that ....

Well done OP. Seems as you've gone this far you may as well try and get some clarification.

Darragh29

Fair play to you OP, wish I had the balls to do what you did. Would love to be able to ask a girl out like that, not langers in a pub or club dribbling over the poor girl...

LegacyUser

your average cute Eastern European waitress has many many crushes and probably a borderline stalker or 2.

Im sticking with my guns on this one.

Im ALL FOR asking people out, people that you know something about, not some hot waitress who you fantasise about.

You could at least start with exchanging names and trying some conversation.

Asking her out from the off is not appropriate. Even if you have the best intentions, and I suspect you do, she will still find this freaky.

Blush_01

And you know this because you've tried it and been shot down?

To be honest, her reaction doesn't seem all that promising to me. But I wasn't there. Maybe a conversation first might be a better idea?

Just don't follow her and then ask her out. Stalking is NOT a good idea.

Caryatnid

Why can't you sit beside her in the canteen/talk to her sometime in work.
You asked her out without even ever talking to her, or knowing anything about her.
This can definitely come across as sleazy, especially in a work situation. I think if that happened to me in work, I'd think the guy was scary/desperate. The good thing about working with someone you fancy is that you have a safe enviroment to get to know them before you take the plunge and go out on dates and stuff together. Maybe you should actually talk to the girl, and then you will know how she feels about you instead of having to post on boards for advice.

Black Swan

Well, I will give you credit for boldness, but I do not think that your approach was the best. Chatting with her a few times to where you become familiar with each other over time would have been a better strategy, before asking her out. Not sure you can redeem the situation, but of course you can try, perhaps by trying to engage her in idle chat, then offer an apology when doing so for being a little too forward?

LegacyUser

OK weird thing happened. Was out the other night, and we were walking down from the pub and i bumped into her! she came up to me and said hi, and was still kinda nervous but i said remember i asked you the other day and she said "yes" and smiled and kinda winked at me. Went to the pub and she was in there, she kept coming up to me and smiling and stuff and we swapped names. i didn't want to push anything so i just kept saying her and smiling and she said see you soon when she was leaving. *shrugs*

Caryatnid

Uneredales wrote:

and we swapped names.

Congratulations. Ask her to marry you.

But seriously OP, surely you can see that it's definitely much better to at least know a work colleague's name before you ask them out. I'm totally shocked that you even bothered to post here for advice.

Uneredales wrote:

It looks like she really fancies me.

Come on. This was posted before you ever even spoke to her?
She didn't even know you. And you didn't even know her enough to read her this good.

Good luck getting to know this girl enough to suss her out properly. If you get to know her a little, ask her out, maybe with you and other colleagues. Try not to make things awkward for her in work.

Darragh29

Uneredales wrote:

OK weird thing happened. Was out the other night, and we were walking down from the pub and i bumped into her! she came up to me and said hi, and was still kinda nervous but i said remember i asked you the other day and she said "yes" and smiled and kinda winked at me. Went to the pub and she was in there, she kept coming up to me and smiling and stuff and we swapped names. i didn't want to push anything so i just kept saying her and smiling and she said see you soon when she was leaving. *shrugs*

Fair play to you, you're in like Flynn sir! Nice 1!