Would you break up with someone for having a small chest??

LegacyUser

Ok, this is serious. Please, if you're going to take the piss, just don't bother posting.

I'm reasonably good looking, early twenties, but have an amazingly small chest. I mean really small. I know 12 year olds who've more bust than I do (as I get reminded of a lot).

My question is would you break up with someone for that? I've kind of decided I'm never getting into bed with someone, until I have surgery or something, and I don't want that!

Don't just say stuff to make me feel better. Honestly, if you got in bed with a a girl, and she was really small, would that be the end of it??

Garret

ha, no, definitely not

any guy that would isnt worth your time tbh

Rb

Garret wrote:

ha, no, definitely not

any guy that would isnt worth your time tbh

Seconded.

gibo_ie

absolutley not!!!
It takes different strokes for different folks as the saying goes. Personally i prefere smaller chested ladies (i am an ass man!!) and as the saying goes "more than a mouthful is a waste!"
Seriously though if someone broke up with you for having a small chest then this is not the type of person you want to spend time with. Anyway how would they not know..

Good luck and be confident, it certianly is not all about the chest for all of us men...

Ruu_Old

Silly reason to breakup with someone in my opinion. If you really want to be with a person then you will haved look beyond the individuals body for something else inside so it doesn't really matter to me much.

Pepe LeFrits

Why would they get together with you in the first place if it was a problem?

passive

Two words;
1:Kiera
2:Knightly
http://www.smh.com.au/ffximage/2006/07/05/keira_narrowweb__300x492,0.jpg

Stunningly beautiful, quite flat chested (though i couldn't find better images to illustrate these, they often seem digitally enhanced or well presented in the pictures google images shows me), completely irrelevant.

Breasts are breasts. There have been dozens of threads about which men prefer and, though the search feature is a little disfunctional these days, any one of them will illustrate that while a lot of men like and enjoy large breasts, many also prefer small or very small ones and very very few would complain either way.

Seriously.. you have nothing to be concerned about. Nipples are the main feature .

ClockWorkOrange

In pure superficial terms yes breasts are really great, no one is gonna deny that, but there are a lot of guys out there who prefer a cute butt .. so dont worry about it, it must be great for running and stuff not having to haul a couple of big ones around... always a bright side

ClockWorkOrange

Kiera knightly looks anorexic in that picture...

takola

Pepe LeFrits wrote:

Why would they get together with you in the first place if it was a problem?

Seconded.

Why would a guy get together with you if he didn't like it? That really is no reason to break up with someone. Anyone that would really isn't worth your time imo.

Red Alert

i can't believe someone would do that. would never do it myself, been with both large and small and it doesn't make a blind bit of difference.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the replies! Im actually almost crying reading them.

And to the people who've been saying, how would he know? There's ways of faking it!!

I guess I just always thought if i was ever with someone they'd just be waiting for the next partner hoping they were better equipped!

Marksie

wouldnt bother me in the slightest.

And to break up with someone because of it... they arent worth your time

chamlis

Not that it makes a difference, but how small are we talking here? Flat?

IMO, the most important thing when it comes to boobies is perkiness. "The Package" as a whole is more important though, so small might suit you, we don't know. But this is all purely physical. there's a Hell of a lot more to people than that

But to answer your question: No. Definately not. As long as we were suited for each other.

The Guy's a moron.

DonkeyStyle \o/

needananswer! wrote:

Would you break up with someone for having a small chest??

It depends on what they kept in this small chest... childrens severed fingers? then yes, I'd break up.

But anyway, no boobs aren't an issue for me... I'm more of a face and ass man myself.
Personally I get a bit put off if I suspect boobs are fake, I'd rather they were just left alone, but then I guess boob-jobs are for the womans benefit more so than to impress men... confidence, feeling more feminine or whatever
Some women say they're amazed how men are so concerned with the size of their dinkles... yet obsess about their boobs.
Whatever size your boobs, I think most people find hangups a turn off... don't stress about it IMO.

Gordon

I nearly went out with a young woman with incredibly small breasts, they were practically not there. I didn't really have a problem with it, and I didn't break up with her because of that. To be honest I would have preferred slightly larger than she had but I wouldn't have wanted her to get any surgery to make them larger, I would have preferred them the way they were. She's probably the main reason I prefer smaller breasts now. (but Kiera Knightley helps!)

I don't think you should enhance your breasts/add padding. Why not just settle into your skin and maybe you'll find someone that is interested in the way you are as opposed to the way you think people want you to be.

fennis

Hi there,

You sound really cool...but it is not cool to doubt yourself. I adore small breasts and I really cannot fathom why guys would go for larger breasts at all. Whenever I see a girl with a small chest I am immediatly interested; I think that you should realise that not all guys are the same. Some really love it!

LegacyUser

I agree with everyone so far. There's absolutely no way any man worth having would be that shallow. I'd ask you not to pad them - it might give us nice guys who look for more than just "two big personalities" a chance! Its all about feeling comfortable with yourself. If you feel good about yourself guys will feel good about feeling how you feel good!!

If you are considering having surgery please check out all the risks first. From what I've seen and heard it could be dangerous for your health in the long term. Also - I don't know about other guys but I like breasts big or small, the only ones I don't like are fake ones.

trout

needananswer! wrote:

I know 12 year olds who've more bust than I do (as I get reminded of a lot).

seems to me that people who would make such comments either have small minds, or are not aware how hurtful these comments are

a dear friend of mine was in a similar situation, known as "2 backs" among other things ... she too considered surgery, albeit briefly

after some thinking, she decided it would be better to let people know that such comments were childish and not clever, and she just moved on

i would avoid people who make these comments, and seek the company of people who value the person behind the mammary glands

better yet, seek out friends with large chests, and hear them talk about back aches, ill fitting bra's and the lecherous stares from half-wits and schoolboys that plague them

to answer your specific question, if i was still a single trout, and got into bed with a girl, and she was really small (chested), i'd be thinking ... "w00t ... i'm in bed with a girl!!"

breasts are breasts, wonderful in their variety ... a woman is much more than her chest ... good luck!

LegacyUser

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

It depends on what they kept in this small chest... childrens severed fingers? then yes, I'd break up.

Thank you for making me laugh!!

DonkeyStyle \o/ wrote:

Whatever size your boobs, I think most people find hangups a turn off... don't stress about it IMO.

Thats true!

Someone up there asked how flat is flat? Lets just saw I make Kiera Knightly look large! And Im almost six foot, healthy enough build (not fat tho) so Im not in proportion or anything! But thats not the point. Im just wondering would you guys run if your gf was really small.


And to the person who said 'The guys a moron'; there is no guy in particular. I was just asking a question for future refernce.

ClockWorkOrange

trout wrote:

known as "2 backs" among other things ...

Is that a play off 2pac... lol

padser

To be honest if this is making you so as self concsious as it obviously is, and preventing you from going to bed with a guy, then maybe you should consider surgey.

While a big rack is not necessarily a pre requisite........no one can deny that it can be an important part of the package. Im not for a minute saying that I would break up with a girl over it, but some guys definitely would not go out with a flat girl, although few would come onto even a site like this and admit it.

Comments like

'And to break up with someone because of it... they arent worth your time'

are slightly irrelevent imo since you dont know what the girl in question is like, maybe she is not worth his time?

Anti

I prefere larger breasts, not to big DD is plenty, But i would not dump someone because of small breasts. I have some friends that dont like women with big breasts.

If you were in the uk you could get breast surgery for free. by saying you were depressed by it. Or if you really want, pay the 3-6 thousand to get it done.

Any guy that shallow isnt worth the skin off your sh1te.....

melekalikimaka

well when it comes down to it, yes some guys whom are boob men would. but sure they're few and far between, and i'm sure they'd notice before time to break up would arise

BigCityBanker

im into the small ones myself - give me a shout and il reassure you about them over coffee

Pigman II

I love a big pair of tits like a horse loves apples but I wouldn't see it a deal breaker. Looks are more important than jabs. Conversely if you had huges knockers and a face like a bag of spanners then I wouldn't be interested.*

(*Well that bit might be lie)

All I can say is don't hide what you don't have. Wonderbra? More like wonder where her tits went! Nothin worse than eagerly sticking your hand in the till only to come out shortchanged.

kaizersoze

Small tits is a lame excuse for breaking up. Why? Because any guy who had a genuine thing for big tits wouldn't get involved with a flat chested girl to start with.

trout wrote:

known as "2 backs" among other things

Brilliant.:D

Zapho

I definately wouldn't, so don't let who ever that dude was ruin your self esteem...esteam...este.....oh you get the message. Geez that would be the
lamest excuse I've ever heard. So anyway that dude definately wasn't worth
and you're better off without him!

Victor

I think a lot of guys tend to prefer women with smaller breasts as those women try to make up in other areas, especially personality.

Slutmonkey57b

I totally agree with PigmanII.
Don't go the wonderbra route all the time, if a guy IS a tit man, he'll feel totally short changed. You might pad it up when you've got an outfit that needs it when you're going out, but let a bloke know what he's getting.. that means know what else he's getting apart from breasts too.

The thing you need to learn about a breast man is that he isn't necessarily a case of "big tits or nothing", it's more that girls with ample cleavage have to do a lot less work to impress him. If you impress him, he'll be happy. Obviously, he'll miss the tit-**** but you can't have everything.

thebman

Slutmonkey57b wrote:

I totally agree with PigmanII.
Don't go the wonderbra route all the time, if a guy IS a tit man, he'll feel totally short changed. You might pad it up when you've got an outfit that needs it when you're going out, but let a bloke know what he's getting.. that means know what else he's getting apart from breasts too.

Agree with that. Don't bother trying to make them look bigger because some guys might just get annoyed by that kind of thing.

I don't like big breasts on a girl. Being small is better than being too big IMO.

What turns one guy one will turn another off. We don't all like the same thing (stupid media stereotype).

tbh

needananswer! wrote:

Ok, this is serious. Please, if you're going to take the piss, just don't bother posting.

I'm reasonably good looking, early twenties, but have an amazingly small chest. I mean really small. I know 12 year olds who've more bust than I do (as I get reminded of a lot).

My question is would you break up with someone for that? I've kind of decided I'm never getting into bed with someone, until I have surgery or something, and I don't want that!

Don't just say stuff to make me feel better. Honestly, if you got in bed with a a girl, and she was really small, would that be the end of it??

let me answer your question with a question. Would you break up with someone cause they have a hairy chest? Or a small penis? probably not if you liked them, right?

mountainyman

Only an asshole would break up with you because of that.
But it might stop some people from fancying you.
Pleanty of men a like small chests by the way.

Such is life.

MM

nialo

[quote=needananswer!]Don't just say stuff to make me feel better. Honestly, if you got in bed with a a girl, and she was really small, would that be the end of it??[/quote]

Size doesnt matter. If a bloke is worth your time he wont judge you based on how small u are. Confidence is the issue. If your confident with yourself you will have no problems.

doubtfir3

I wouldn't worry about it to be honest. You just look after yourself and make sure that you are happy and confident in you and your appearance.

If it doesn't matter to you then it shouldn't matter to others. Anyone who talks about it is only small-minded and can safely be ignored

neuro-praxis

You get to go braless - very sexy on a tiny-chested woman!

tbh

neuro-praxis wrote:

You get to go braless - very sexy on a tiny-chested woman!

quoted for truth.

Owen

If you're self conscious about it, all the talk in the world won't change that. Some men prefer flat chests, some men prefer something more substantial (That's probably the wrong word to use given the circumstances). I'm a boob man, always have been, always will be, but I'm also a leg and bum man too. I like the complete package. Funnily enough, my current girlfriend is a B cup and it seems not to be an issue, for the first time in my life I'm seeing past it, so I wouldn't be worried ... if a guy likes you, for you, your personality, your smile, then I would embrace it, and get to know each other a little better.

ferdi

needananswer! wrote:

Im just wondering would you guys run if your gf was really small.

no, no and no. it wouldnt even enter my mind, couldnt give a fook about breast size. if the bloke is with you it means he dosnt care, dont sweat it. be happy.

Dustaz

Id agree with everyone so far.

Breast size doesnt bother me at all. My last 3 gf's havent been Jordan and it didnt bother me in the slightest. For me (and 99% of blokes), its much more about the bigger picture than simply any one facet of a woman.

Having said all that, A friend of mine who is drop dead georgeous with an amazing personality and a career on the up (in other words, she had everything going for her) just wasnt happy with her breast size. By the sounds of things she was quite similar to you. After years of unhappiness with them, she got them increased to something very modest (a or a b cup i think) and claims to be much happier in herself. She didnt do it for men however, she did it for herself and her own peace of mind.

So dont even give how men look at it a second thought, it really doesnt matter.

jdivision

I too prefer face and ass. Last long term gf had a small chest, she really had problems with it but I loved them, really perky. I've also been with girls with fake breasts and it's not the same

MojoMaker

OP, I much prefer small breasts, along the lines of cute little apples I guess. I'm hardly alone in that either by the way. I don't actually like large breasts at all. Buck stops at medium for me. We're all different. Don't worry about it.

kittenkiller

Once a you've gotten close enough to a guy that you find yourself in bed with him I really doubt all that's on his mind is your chest.
If your seeing someone then your chest is not an issue, if it was, you wouldn't be going out!

On an up-note, at least you won't be worrying that he's only with you because of your boobs with can be an insecurity of some larger-breasted ladies.
You never know, some day some where a guy in a pub might actually look you in the eyes!
Most guys don't care whether they're looking for your boobs or at your boobs!

And if you get close enough to someone that you feel you want to take things further than before, there's nothing to say you have to take your bra off if you're not comfortable with it at the time!

Try not to stress and obsess about it, it's part of who you are and there'll be plenty of guys who'll love that!

phantom_lord

ha, no, definitely not

any guy that would isnt worth your time tbh

Kinda sums it up really. I wouldn't see it at as a reason for breaking up with someone at all. If you're gonna get surgery, get it if it makes you feel better, not because you're afraid of what some guy thinks.

LegacyUser

kittenkiller wrote:

Try not to stress and obsess about it, it's part of who you are and there'll be plenty of guys who'll love that!

Thats the whole thing answered in 1 sweet succinct sentence. Its what everyone else has been trying to say. Kittenkiller would you like a job writing my valentines card(s) next year?

randomname2005

I wouldnt worry about it, some of the hottest girls ive fancied have been quite flat chested, as others have said, if a guy is only worried about that he isnt worth it!
R

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies! Can't believe how many there has been!

And to the guy who asked if I'd leave a guy if they had a small penis? No, but to be honest, Im a lesbian, but I just wanted people's opinions, regardless of whether they're male or female. The girl I like has a large chest, guess I was worried bout lying next to her! Im sure she wouldn't care but I wouldn't feel too good.

LegacyUser

trout wrote:

breasts are breasts, wonderful in their variety ... a woman is much more than her chest ... good luck!

EXACTLY. That's part of the fun....variety. If all women looked the same there'd be no point in bedding more than one now would there?

I much prefer to go to bed with a women than just a pair of breasts!

BigCityBanker

meagain! wrote:

Thats the whole thing answered in 1 sweet succinct sentence. Its what everyone else has been trying to say. Kittenkiller would you like a job writing my valentines card(s) next year?

why him and not me :mad:

Nevyn

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Thaedydal

Zulu

Personally I more concerned with a nice ass, and big tits, frankly can be a bit of a turn off.

..but hey, thats just me.