Help sex problem

BrianMVP

Hey, heres the deal Im 20 and never had sex PROPERLY, if ya get me. Ive no problems gettin women, but after my previous sexual encounters (pure and utter disasters) I find myself in a position that i now refrain myself from meetin new women because I afraid of a repeat. The first 2 times I had "sex", as we were at it I lost my erection and couldnt the job, felt like such a fcukin failure, needless to say ive never heard much back from either of the girls. The first was a girlfriend, the second was a holiday fling. And finally the third girl I had "sex" with the same thing nearly happened again I nearly flopped but I was determined for this not again.So in the end, I came.... but still it did nt feel right, I knew for a fact...that she was not satisfied. I basically masturbated inside her and I didnt find it too pleasurable at all.

Im beginning to think there is a problem with by penis. I dont know of its a problem with my foreskin or not. I doubt and hope it is not erectile difuntion at 19. Ya see I think my foreskin is too tight because when erect it doesnt retract by itself and needs to be helped along. And when it is fully pulled back it is quite painful and my erection seems to die down.
Any body else have similar problems like this, help needed, dnt no who to talk to???
Sorry for grimy details but need this sorted it holding me back on relationships im afraid t get into and it wreakin my head!

LegacyUser

'Go to a doctor mate, you\'d be surprised how easy most of these problems are to sort out. You think it\'ll be embarassing but doctors are so matter of fact about these things they put you at ease almost straight away. Seriously, it\'s probably very easily fixable.'

LegacyUser

'Related problem advice needed\r\n\r\nI dont think the having to pull the forskin back is that unusual i have to do it and it might hurt slightly the real problem i have there is getting it back over because of the way it coils inwards\r\n\r\nI dont have a problem getting an erection when **** (although it wont maintain for very long) or kissing/groping girls. but when we get down to the deed i go floopy even after loads of foreplay. if she does get me worked up by **** me i come so quickly within a few seconds and i wouldnt even be that hard. As you can guess this is terrible situation to be in. Once youve jumped the first hurdle you run slap bang into the second? My girlfriend has always come by this stage but she likes to feel me inside her. I might last about 10 seconds if i have a hard enough erection in the first place. HELP'

BrianMVP

That my exact problem aswel mate. Hope someone has some useful advice. Hope I dnt need a circumsision..... ohhh d tots:eek:

chamlis

Practice makes perfect. You CAN pull it back, but it's painful. Just keep at it.
Go to your Doc if you're really worried.
But understand that a circumcision is the last resort. Even if some kind of medical procedure is needed (which I seriously doubt), a little nick just to loosen things might be all that's required.

As regards loosing your erection, I've said this before, don't drink alcohol if you're going to be shagging! Even one beer can have an effect if you're nervous or anxious. If you drink spirits then forget about it.
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Talliesin

First, having to pull it back is completely normal.

Pain upon pulling it back may make a circumcission a good idea, but can very often be dealt with by training the skin by stretching it to that position whenever you masturbate. Doing so in a warm bath can help.

If you find you lose erection during sex go back to other ways of pleasing each other and it'll come back. Forget the silly concept of "foreplay" - its all sex and there's no rule that says once you've started on penetrative sex you can't go back to other things for a while.

upthere

mess around with her and don't get bjs, or anything like that before you have sex because this ruins the climax. wait until you feel hot enough to do it and if u need sneak off and have a look at some porn without her knowing, that worked for me lol.

ClockWorkOrange

Damn man, if you have to through all that to have sex... why not just get a circumcision..?

Luckily i had one as a baby and my guy works out of the box, no pulling **** back or pain or anything..

I used to feel odd that i had a circumcision but as i get older and hear the **** some guys go through I'm pretty happy about it!

matt-dublin

You don't need a circumcision, yourforskin strecthis with time, and as for your erictile disfunction it will pass with time and more sexual experience, sure wit me it was third time lucky before i got it right,

Generally with the foreskin when you're younger it will be tight, try pulling it back every day and using some form of moistureizer as well to make the skin softer and stretchier.

All in all all your problems will be solved with experience surgery isn't necessary. (PS when you get the foreskin working you will find the sexual experience more pleasureable and sentual.)