How bad did i mess up?

arseagon

Ok going to go regged here, never thought i'd be posting on PI and probably done about a million times before but nontheless:

Was going out with a lovely barmaid from my local until sunday. Then I got horribly drunk and basically slobbered over another girl at the bar while she was working behind it (It went nowhere, just hugging). I'm not even going to try to blame anyone but myself for this and i'm disgusted at my own actions cos I don't even fancy the girl I was slobbering over. Now the B/M won't even talk to me long enough to let me try to explain that yes I was totally pissed and didn't mean to hurt her.

The thing is, she has her own problems which I don't really want to go into and dumps me on a regular basis which i usually don't have a problem with cos I know she'll call the next day telling me she didn't mean what she said. Problem is i'm crazy about her (I must be to put up with sleepless nights, etc) Should I just let it go or what?

LegacyUser

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zippy28 wrote:

Ok going to go regged here, never thought i'd be posting on PI and probably done about a million times before but nontheless:

Was going out with a lovely barmaid from my local until sunday. Then I got horribly drunk and basically slobbered over another girl at the bar while she was working behind it (It went nowhere, just hugging). I'm not even going to try to blame anyone but myself for this and i'm disgusted at my own actions cos I don't even fancy the girl I was slobbering over. Now the B/M won't even talk to me long enough to let me try to explain that yes I was totally pissed and didn't mean to hurt her.

The thing is, she has her own problems which I don't really want to go into and dumps me on a regular basis which i usually don't have a problem with cos I know she'll call the next day telling me she didn't mean what she said. Problem is i'm crazy about her (I must be to put up with sleepless nights, etc) Should I just let it go or what?

You'll probably get loads of people on here telling you that she deserves better than you, and that you are an asshole, etc bla bla.. which doesn't help your situation, but in reality what you need to do is not let yourself get so drunk and into situations like that again, and prove to the girl how much she means to you. Beg her to give you a second chance, and if she does then consider yourself the luckiest man alive and completely avoid getting into situations where you could possibly cheat on her. If it means giving up drink, and/or not going out with your mates, whatever, then if she's worth that much to you she will do it. Hope this advice helps.'

flynnser19

just txt her how you feel and ask her can you ring her or meet her to tell her in depth how you feel!!
as for what you did i wouldnt talk to you either drunk or not you shouldn't have done that!!!sorry but not alot of sympathy on that bit tbh!!
fi xx

arseagon

Like I said, I'm not expecting any sympathy at all, I know I was wrong. And I've done the whole texting thing cos i'm useless on the phone so I reckon that is that. I just wish it wasn't. Not to make light of things but I wish right now I had Pigheads time machine from AH.

spanner

you sound very sorry and txted her saying so. So really their is little more you can do, if she will not talk to you, just cool it off with her be polite with her but dont try to talk to her. The girl sounds like she is a bit hot headed if so she might just need a bit of time to cool down to see if she still likes you.

also i wouldnt advise trying to talk to her in a bar or drunk never seems to work

Ruu_Old

Aye, I would just give her a bit of time. Let her know that you wish to talk and straighten things out but when she is ready, don't push it. Best of luck sorting it out, sounds to me that you are sorry and are willing to admit to making a very silly mistake.

Rabies

zippy28 wrote:

Was going out with a lovely barmaid from my local until sunday. Then I got horribly drunk and basically slobbered over another girl at the bar while she was working behind it (It went nowhere, just hugging). I'm not even going to try to blame anyone but myself for this and i'm disgusted at my own actions cos I don't even fancy the girl I was slobbering over.

She gets jealous very easy. If it was a just a hug, then it doesn't matter. If you had other drunken intentions, then she has a right to be pissed.

I often have my arms around some female friends of mine, and they do the same to me. Means nothing..... I'm just huggable

zippy28 wrote:

The thing is, she has her own problems which I don't really want to go into and dumps me on a regular basis which i usually don't have a problem with cos I know she'll call the next day telling me she didn't mean what she said. Problem is i'm crazy about her (I must be to put up with sleepless nights, etc) Should I just let it go or what?

So, she dumps you on a regular basis and rings to say sorry the next day. Some day she might not call back.
You said she has some of her own problems. It seems as if she isn't ready for a relationship in my opinion.

I would get out of there, but thats me.

justsomebloke

zippy28 wrote:

The thing is, she has her own problems which I don't really want to go into

are any of her problems trust problems, cause if so you may have just completly fecked things up, ok I don't know exactly how you are where acting as someone else said if it was just hugs then maybe she is over reacting however if it was anything more then you are probably very well screwed. cause no offence but if you acted liked that in front of her just think what she now thinks how you must acted when she is not around.

arseagon

Hey guys, just an update. I just left it be for a while and she started talking to me again. So we talked it out eventually and jsb you were bang on the money. Total trust problems. Even though I did very little wrong (I've managed to piece together the night in question since then*), in her eyes it was a lot more. So I've decided to leave it so and we've decided to just be friends which is a better outcome than naver speaking again IMO. Cheers for all your help.

*just in case people, I don't make a habit of getting that drunk.

~nop~

Glad to hear it, sure youre probably better off too, and im sure youll watch the drink in the future too

Dors1976

Rabies wrote:

So, she dumps you on a regular basis and rings to say sorry the next day. Some day she might not call back.
You said she has some of her own problems. It seems as if she isn't ready for a relationship in my opinion.

I would get out of there, but thats me.

I agree.

Black Swan

zippy28 wrote:

*just in case people, I don't make a habit of getting that drunk.

Good advice, as well as a lesson for the future (having experienced this situation).