Home alone while you go to Tescos yes or no?

Tigress

I have a 9 1/2 year old son that wants now to stay at home while I do the weekly shopping. Do you think it is approbiate to leave a boy home alone while Mum does the weekly shopping?

Just want your opinions?

Noelie

No Not that young, anything could happen.
when you are shopping what does he do? does he just follow you around the shop, if so why not give him a list of things you need and let him get some of them, might make the shopping trips a little easier

Nevyn

No, 13 maybe but not at that age.

Not only a list of things but let him see if he can read food labels for salt and sugar content and place or orgin and take the time to talk to him about food and what you might plann as a famly to eat for the week.

My nearly 9 year old get a huge kick out of being allowed to help prepare dinner peeling and cuting up an stiring, why not try this with your's and get him to pick out something he would like to cook.

kmick

Id say its ok as long as you lay down some rules.

1) Dont answer door.
2) Dont let people in.
3) No Messing
4) Within 20 seconds of his mobile at all times.
5) No playing with fire/beer/fags/girls/drugs

Then ring half way through the Tesco visit to see how he is getting on. Let him know in no uncertain terms that if he pisses you off once he will be shopping with you until he is 16. If he breaks the rules then you stick firm unitl he is 12 then maybe another chance.

Once catch him out by coming home early to see what he is up to. If he is a boy like me at that age he is likely to be at some mischief.

dame

All kids are different but I think a 9 1/2 year old should be well able to look after himself for the hour or so it takes to do the shopping. I'm presuming you're not talking about doing it at a 24 hour Tesco and leaving him there for hours in the middle of the night though! Like last post said, give him some rules about not opening the door and not cooking anything until you get home. Chances are he'll still be sitting in the same spot as when you left, playing a game or watching telly. Not much harm can come to him in the space of an hour if he's in any way responsible and abides by the rules.

hshortt

12 and up would be ok in my family. Depends on your relationship with your son I guess. If he can handle it then previous posts are good.

Cheers

DublinWriter

Isn't it illegal in this country to leave any child under the age of 10 home alone?

Gurgle

Tigress wrote:

I have a 9 1/2 year old son that wants now to stay at home while I do the weekly shopping. Do you think it is approbiate to leave a boy home alone while Mum does the weekly shopping?

Just want your opinions?

He's 9 1/2, should be fine, though it really depends on where you live and how responsible he is.

KTRIC

DublinWriter wrote:

Isn't it illegal in this country to leave any child under the age of 10 home alone?

I thought it was 12

9 1/2 is still too young to be home alone. What if something serious happens in the house (like a fire or gas leak) and he doesn't know what to do. Kids can panic in situations like this.

Crea

No. Too young i'd say. Children that age don't have the maturity to deal with a crisis if one happens when you're away.

Beruthiel

I think it all depends on the child. You can pretty much tell at that age if they can be trusted to a certain degree.
Mine was smart enough and never really did anything totally stupid, so could be trusted.
She was very happy to just sit on the sofa and watch a movie with a treat. I would ring her every 10 mins to check up on her.
She stuck to the rules and never once broke them.
They were:
Never, ever answer the door.
Don't touch anything you shouldn't while I'm not there.
If there was ever a problem, call me.
She knew if a rule was broken she would be no longer allowed to stay home alone.
I can't remember at this stage when we started this, think it was around 10.

Kildrought

Originally Posted by DublinWriter
Isn't it illegal in this country to leave any child under the age of 10 home alone?

I thought it was 12

There is no legal minimum age at which you can leave a child alone, however should anything happen to a young child parents can and have been prosecuted for neglect.

Children under 16 however cannot have the care of another minor.

He's not going to come to any harm for going shopping and if you are not comfortable with him being at home alone, why do it?

iguana

Thaedydal wrote:

No, 13 maybe but not at that age.

Gosh the world has changed. I started babysitting other peoples children at 12. And it was night babysitting 8pm-1am was usual. By 13 I was doing it Friday and Saturday nights for several different families.

dame

iguana wrote:

Gosh the world has changed. I started babysitting other peoples children at 12. And it was night babysitting 8pm-1am was usual. By 13 I was doing it Friday and Saturday nights for several different families.

I agree, people can be over-protective nowadays. At 10 I was left minding three younger siblings for an hour or two at a time during the day. We had our few rules and nothing bad ever happened.

Nevyn

Everyone will make thier choices based on who they wre brought up what they think is best practice and what thier children are like.

Beelzebub

Maybe you could make shopping fun for him so that he'd want to go and help you?

http://www.gardenandhearth.com/Family-Activities/grocery_shopping.htm

Just a suggestion.

dame

No offence but a 9 1/2 year old boy is probably past the stage where he can be jollied along by helping with the shopping list or going to McD's first and whatever else that website is suggesting.

Tak3n

9 year olds arn't stupid...
He should be fine by himself.

Nevyn

dame wrote:

No offence but a 9 1/2 year old boy is probably past the stage where he can be jollied along by helping with the shopping list or going to McD's first and whatever else that website is suggesting.

You would be surpised what bribes and setting challenges can achieve.

Avns1s

Under no circumstance would I leave him at home. He's at that curious age!

Billiejo

Why not ask Social Services. They should be able to give the legal opinion.

Kildrought

No offence but a 9 1/2 year old boy is probably past the stage where he can be jollied along by helping with the shopping list

I'd disagree - I do voluntary work with children of this age, provided you use a bit of imagination almost anything can be made into a game that they will enjoy.

cmurph

just a question.....
my home was broken into a few weeks back on a saturday morning at 11.30am......if ur 9 and a half yr old was home alone when the burglars came and axed in the back door how would he cope??


way to young i say

kelle

Kildrought wrote:

Children under 16 however cannot have the care of another minor.

From the age of 9, my parents had me babysitting three younger brothers - from 10pm-12 once a week. They figured it was okay because up until then we had a 16-year-old babysitter who used to just sit on her arse while I put my brothers to bed and checked on them every few minutes. I was obviously a more responsible person.
OP, only you know how independent and responsible your son is to be left on his own. If you're happy, then maybe do a trial run - but if you're not don't.

RainyDay

Kildrought wrote:

Children under 16 however cannot have the care of another minor.

While I wouldn't disagree with this, I'm wondering about your source for this ruling?

IMHO, common sense would say that you'd be crazy to leave a 9-year-old alone - Is there any neighbours/friends he could stay with for an hour?

catspring

As has been said it depends on the child, and how mature he is. I was left at home for an hour or two from the age of 8 and never had any problems. If I were you I'd try it out for maybe just a half an hour to test the water and then take it from there.

Zynks

Depends on the child. Even between my two children one is very sensible and the other one is a threat to himself. I suspect those characteristics will continue, so there is likely be a different approach to each by the time they are 9.

greenkittie

cmurph wrote:

just a question.....
my home was broken into a few weeks back on a saturday morning at 11.30am......if ur 9 and a half yr old was home alone when the burglars came and axed in the back door how would he cope??


way to young i say

To be fair, if burglars axed my back door and I was home alone I wouldn't be able to cope at 20! So i don't think thats much of a valid point.

Nevyn

A grown up can cope with the trama of that better then a child would .

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Tigress wrote:

I have a 9 1/2 year old son that wants now to stay at home while I do the weekly shopping. Do you think it is approbiate to leave a boy home alone while Mum does the weekly shopping?

Just want your opinions?

i think if you did you would be brought up on charges, and rightly so as well.

greenkittie

Thaedydal wrote:

A grown up can cope with the trama of that better then a child would .

I don't think so, children get over things easyer imo.