Jaded

LegacyUser

I'm a 26 year old male and like the title says, I am very jaded with life and have been for most of my life. I know that life is what you make of it, and I try and look on the bright side of things but much of the time, life seems just like drudgery. I know it is depression cause I went to my GP about it and a therapist who did a number of of things to try and help me. They were very good and I felt good right after (optimistic and that) with them telling me to join clubs and socialise (along with taking antidepressants), but even then I felt very empty. Talking doesn't really help me.

I do join things and make an effort, and I do chat to people (I'm not unfriendly), but I have no friends. Since childhood, I've been on my own most of the time, except for school and college, where I really didn't socialise at all (I didn't like how I looked or spoke). I haven't kissed a girl either (which is the least of my worries, I know).

It distresses me greatly that I can't be like other people and be at least a little free, loose and a bit more human. I do chat to people I know at work and the one or two societies I'm in, but it seems very forced, and often I just have very little to say.

Most of the time, there is nothing going on in my head, so little that interests me at all. I feel very stagnant and spend extra time in work so as to get through each day. My family are very good, and though I don't visit often as I'm far away, I know they love me and would hate to see anything bad happen to me.

I just don't know what I'm living for.

togster

Jaded_by_life wrote:

I'm a 26 year old male and like the title says, I am very jaded with life and have been for most of my life. I know that life is what you make of it, and I try and look on the bright side of things but much of the time, life seems just like drudgery. I know it is depression cause I went to my GP about it and a therapist who did a number of of things to try and help me. They were very good and I felt good right after (optimistic and that) with them telling me to join clubs and socialise (along with taking antidepressants), but even then I felt very empty. Talking doesn't really help me.

I do join things and make an effort, and I do chat to people (I'm not unfriendly), but I have no friends. Since childhood, I've been on my own most of the time, except for school and college, where I really didn't socialise at all (I didn't like how I looked or spoke). I haven't kissed a girl either (which is the least of my worries, I know).

It distresses me greatly that I can't be like other people and be at least a little free, loose and a bit more human. I do chat to people I know at work and the one or two societies I'm in, but it seems very forced, and often I just have very little to say.

Most of the time, there is nothing going on in my head, so little that interests me at all. I feel very stagnant and spend extra time in work so as to get through each day. My family are very good, and though I don't visit often as I'm far away, I know they love me and would hate to see anything bad happen to me.

I just don't know what I'm living for.

i know where you are coming from. Many people feel like you do. I think that if things are as bad as you say you should do something drastic like go travelling, change job etc. Start new somewhere else and try to find what really interests you. It is passion that makes life interesting. I know this advice sounds hollow but it works. I know. If you dont want to feel like this anymore get up and do something about it. I dont mean to sound harsh but i needed a push like this too. I have never been happier but it takes brave drastic steps.

LegacyUser

'you are a social animal.

don't underplay your relationships with people. they are very important.

if you haven't seen your family in while you should arrange a visit. or at least make a phonecall. they care about you. take comfort in that.

confide in a friend. people in your social network are inclined to help you. that's human nature. if you share a goal with someone you have an instant connection. ask someone to lunch and offer up some personal detail about yourself. if your conversations are always superficial so too will be your relationships.

you say that kissing a girl is the least of you're worries. not true, a bit of romance will put a spring in your step. things that seemed boring before will have a renewed sense of purpose. give yourself a chance. if you think it will never happen then it never will. even the prospect of having a shot with a girl will take you're mind off the mundane stuff. maybe you find it hard to let you're guard down with a girl, but dont forget, girls are sensitive creatures, they will often try their best to cheer you up.

depression is transitory, don't dwell on it.

happiness too is transitory, enjoy it while it lasts.

maybe you need a fresh start, new job, travel, new hobby.

people that didn't know you before will give you every chance to make a good impression.'

loismustdie

research some other countries and go start afresh in which one you think would suit you more. find intersets you are actually interested in and not just for the sake of it

limklad

Jaded_by_life wrote:

I'm a 26 year old male and like the title says, I am very jaded with life and have been for most of my life. I know that life is what you make of it, and I try and look on the bright side of things but much of the time, life seems just like drudgery. I know it is depression cause I went to my GP about it and a therapist who did a number of of things to try and help me. They were very good and I felt good right after (optimistic and that) with them telling me to join clubs and socialise (along with taking antidepressants), but even then I felt very empty. Talking doesn't really help me.

I do join things and make an effort, and I do chat to people (I'm not unfriendly), but I have no friends. Since childhood, I've been on my own most of the time, except for school and college, where I really didn't socialise at all (I didn't like how I looked or spoke). I haven't kissed a girl either (which is the least of my worries, I know).
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I had similar experience but not quite the same. I had not a supportive family. The Words "COP YOURSELF ON" was their idea of support which obviously did not help.
Luckily for me I had extended family I could confide in. My life improved, you have your family you like so enjoy their company. I sure they like to see you, since you are in good terms with them.
I never had the constant need to have others around me all of the time, like some old friends talking on the phone night and day. It is beyond me why they talk as much as they do.

Jaded_by_life wrote:

It distresses me greatly that I can't be like other people and be at least a little free, loose and a bit more human. I do chat to people I know at work and the one or two societies I'm in, but it seems very forced, and often I just have very little to say.

Most of the time, there is nothing going on in my head, so little that interests me at all. I feel very stagnant and spend extra time in work so as to get through each day. My family are very good, and though I don't visit often as I'm far away, I know they love me and would hate to see anything bad happen to me.

I just don't know what I'm living for.

I felt like you too, bored at time. But life threw me a few surprises. Keep you patience and keep looking, you never know what will come around the next corner.
I do have friends but not close like most and It does not bother me anymore as I accept me for who I am.
You are different, and been different is good. I would hate for us all if we all conform to the same attitudes / views and behavior. while it may be instresting at first. it will become very boring very fast.
Some of the best people I know are quite people, no b*llsh*t. But once we get together we talk to the point and still have a laugh.
By the way, if you meet that girl you like, ask her out.

Red Hand

Get out and move away from your job, and your life for awhile.