How to come being alone

KingKenny7

Need a bit if advice, over the past year I'm feeling so lonely. All my mates are in long term relationships so i dont go out that often. when I do go out I get "your such a nice guy, and very good looking, cant believe your single" this is all from my mates girlfriends. Lately they are putting money down on houses and I;m stuck at home, saving on my own....

Its wrecking my head, coz my weekends consist of watching ball in an old mans pub, not a life for a 26 year old. No matter what I do, I;m stuck and I look around the bar and see the old men there and I cant help but feel thats whats to come of me. Granted I've a good career and earn very good money but I'd give it up to be happy.

any ideas???

limklad

KingKenny7 wrote:

Need a bit if advice, over the past year I'm feeling so lonely. All my mates are in long term relationships so i dont go out that often. when I do go out I get "your such a nice guy, and very good looking, cant believe your single" this is all from my mates girlfriends. Lately they are putting money down on houses and I;m stuck at home, saving on my own....

Its wrecking my head, coz my weekends consist of watching ball in an old mans pub, not a life for a 26 year old. No matter what I do, I;m stuck and I look around the bar and see the old men there and I cant help but feel thats whats to come of me. Granted I've a good career and earn very good money but I'd give it up to be happy.

any ideas???

Why are you sitting in a pub looking around, contemplating your life? There is a mighty big world out there. Go out and search, do things , find out what going on in your area or further a field, you are still young.

humanji

I agree with the above. Get out there and get your life moving. You're going to die at some point, so you may as well make yourself useful and have some fun in the mean time!

Ruu_Old

A change of scenery might be the solution alright, time to try something new I reckon.

KingKenny7

That my point, how can I g into town and met new people? I'll be a weirdo in the corner.

daiixi

And there's beers this Saturday night -> Sys, Events.

Sure there'll be plenty of blokes there but there'll be a few girlies too (oh noes, girls on the internets!) and best of all there'll be a lot of new people for you to meet and see that there's still lots out there.

Advice: buy me a drink!

KingKenny7

wish I had the balls for that......

Ruu_Old

There will be loads of new people at the beers in the same position not just site veterans, give it a go. What about going abroad for a little while?

KingKenny7

mis understood your mail. Thought you said go into town and ask to buy randomers a drink.

I dont know anyone from here, only post the odd time on the prop section.

KingKenny7

Ruu wrote:

There will be loads of new people at the beers in the same position not just site veterans, give it a go. What about going abroad for a little while?

Where is the venue?

The Walsho

KingKenny7 wrote:

wish I had the balls for that......

Then grow some, not to be harsh mate but you do seem to have a lot going for you, but you won't have the life you want without making the effort and putting yourself out there. All the best

Sony

I been there before, Its not a nice place - but you really do need to get out and do something about it;)

I changed jobs and that was MY solution because I saw that this was exactly the change I needed-it brought interesting enough work,more friends,more variety and more opportunities to socialise after work with new people.

Im certainly not saying you should do this but my point is that its YOU that needs to Identify and make the change - people are going to suggest joining clubs or the gym but personally I never thought that to be the best advice to someone our age(im 24)...I reckon you should consider going to something like a boards night out(ive only heard of them) or something similar through the internet...its all i can think of to be honest cause Im not sure what other way you can get out and meet new people if youve none to go out with in the first place;)

Ruu_Old

KingKenny7 wrote:

Where is the venue?

Messrs Maguire at 8PM it looks like, here is the thread discussing it.

LegacyUser

Listen here, boss : BE HAPPY !!!

A woman can make your life 3 times more miserable
than what it already is.

Look at all the posts here on this board every day.
Most of them are couples 'in trouble' of one
kind or another.

And, when U find a woman and get married,
that thing out there called 'society' cons U into
staying together maybe for the next 40 years !!!
I mean - that's a prison sentence for any man.
And, can U imagine : bashin that same gash - year
in, year out for the next 40 years.

Then, they put U into a wooden box and down into
another hole !!!

Oh Dear !!!!!!!!!!!!

Exar Khun

Snap out of it dude, you need to put yourself out there.

KingKenny7

Sony wrote:

I been there before, Its not a nice place - but you really do need to get out and do something about it;)

I changed jobs and that was MY solution because I saw that this was exactly the change I needed-it brought interesting enough work,more friends,more variety and more opportunities to socialise after work with new people.

Im certainly not saying you should do this but my point is that its YOU that needs to Identify and make the change - people are going to suggest joining clubs or the gym but personally I never thought that to be the best advice to someone our age(im 24)...I reckon you should consider going to something like a boards night out(ive only heard of them) or something similar through the internet...its all i can think of to be honest cause Im not sure what other way you can get out and meet new people if youve none to go out with in the first place;)

I cant change jobs, coz I change all the time. I'm a consultant so different thing each few months. Not enough time to get settled....

I;m going to pop into to messers on sat, sit back and watch take it all in. New territory for me......

The Walsho

Fair play, hope it goes well for ya.

Cianos

OP,
Can you not ask some of your mates to come out with you at least one or two nights? You should join some classes or clubs and meet new people that way. It will open up a new circle of friends for you. Do something that has always interested you and you will meet like-minded people. Either way you need to get out of your dull routine.

Black Swan

Ruu wrote:

Messrs Maguire at 8PM it looks like, here is the thread discussing it.

KingKenny7: Go for it!

Beruthiel

KingKenny7 wrote:

I;m going to pop into to messers on sat, sit back and watch take it all in. New territory for me......

It's new for all of us the first time we go to a boards piss up. My first one was back in 2002 and I was brickin' it - Have been to 90% of all piss ups since. Have always had a great time.
There's one on April 7th too, show up and I'll buy you a drink.

For the one on Sat, go to the system menu (top right of your screen) Events Forum, and ask for someone to introduce you to everyone. Don't sit in a corner and watch, cos the more you sit there, the more difficult it is to go that extra yard.

missmatty

Another suggestion, the Friends section of Gumtree. I have met some new people through that since xmas and it's great. I was bricking it as well the first time i went to meet someone but i felt really pleased that i went out there and had the courage to meet new people to expand my circle. Like you, alot of my mates are in relationships and just don't want to go out much or are not into the same things as me. It has really worked for me so maybe you should give it a go!

jrey1981

To the OP, what skills do you have?

Why not stop feeling sorry for yourself and think about volunteering? That way you'll take your mind of your misery, do some good, and perhaps even meet a few young women as well...

LegacyUser

'Hey, just wondering how u got on sat? Im 21 and in similiar position need to get out there. Put so much effort into study thinkin everythin else will work out later. Friends are engaged and starting mortgages 2! Big reality check!
Let me no...'