Gazing

LegacyUser

I was watching Television with my Boyfriend of 6 months last nite and out of the corner of my eye I saw him Gazing at me for a few minutes. I pretended I was engrossed in the film but began to feel a bit paranoid why he was doing this. Is it a bit odd or should I be paranoid?

Jumpy

Puzzled wrote:

I was watching Television with my Boyfriend of 6 months last nite and out of the corner of my eye I saw him Gazing at me for a few minutes. I pretended I was engrossed in the film but began to feel a bit paranoid why he was doing this. Is it a bit odd or should I be paranoid?

Its not odd. He is seriously into you. I would be flattered.

Firewalkwithme

Have you considered the possibility that he might just think that you are beautiful and he simply enjoys being able to look at you? You really do come across as being a bit paranoid I'm afraid.

challengemaster

Agreed with above, seem's like he just really likes you. try not to be so paranoid

Crea

How sweet is that? He was probably just thinking lovely things about you and got lost in his thoughts.
It isn't weird at all.

humanji

A) He thinks your gorgeous and can't take his eyes off you
You have something he can't stop staring at (large mole, small head, no nose)
C) You had something crawling on you and he was waiting to see your reaction when it scuttles across your face.

Just assume it's A and be feel chuffed about yourself.

dr.bollocko

Maybe he was worried about something but didn't know how to sensitively broach the subject. By staring at you, maybe he was hoping to invoke the standard "What's wrong?" response. Either that or he LOOOOVES you.
Wah!

Ruu_Old

How do you consider it odd? He likes you and thinks you're wonderful. Enjoy it and count yourself lucky.

imeatingchips

maybe you had a snot hanging out of your nose

Marksie

Puzzled wrote:

I was watching Television with my Boyfriend of 6 months last nite and out of the corner of my eye I saw him Gazing at me for a few minutes. I pretended I was engrossed in the film but began to feel a bit paranoid why he was doing this. Is it a bit odd or should I be paranoid?

We don't half gaze enough at each other in the West.
There are ceratain practices which encourage gazing both at each other and at ourselves even specific meditations.
I think its wonderfuol that he did this. Next time turn and look back, just enjoy how each other look and the beautiful human being you are looking at.
If you like, ask him to gaze first into your right eye for a few minutes, and you do same, then into the left and do saem, then really look at each other.
You will really be amazed at what happens

Miguel_Sanchez

[begin generic PI response]
He's cheating on you. Dump him
[/end generic PI response]

There's nothing to worry about. He thinks you're pretty (or cute or hot or whatever the kids say nowadays).

tbh

• He was trying to fgure out how to word it
• He was comparing you to his other girlfriend
• He was trying to remember your name
• He was checking to see if you could smell it
• He was wondering how did he get so lucky
• He thought you said something
• He was trying to freak you out
• You're just bragging

point is, we can only speculate, op, if it really freaked you out, just ask him.

Nehpets

He was thinking about cooking you!

And since I don't want to get banned I guess I should add something else.... spagetthi

Red Hand

You picked the word "gazing", OP, which alot more aesthetic and romantic than "if I can't have you, then noone will-stare".:)

Looks like you got an admirer there! Cherish it, return the gaze if you wish, laugh!

LegacyUser

'Maybe the film was boring and it was either look at U
or look at the wall.'

I_and_I

If you are on holiday in some exotic setting and you walk past a plant that is unfamiliar to you, but you find it to be the most brilliant and beautiful thing you have ever seen will you not stop and stare in awe?

Caliden

I hope my gf doesnt think this when i stare at her..

damn you op! now I'm paranoid!

Capt'n Midnight

Maybe he didn't like what was on telly and found you more interesting than it. Maybe he was thinking of something and had a thousand yard stare.

Slutmonkey57b

He was...

STARING AT YOUR KNOCKERS.

Nevyn

Slutmonkey57b, unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
Have a nice day.
Thaedydal

Slutmonkey57b

Eh?

1) The OP's question was "why is he staring at me?" - what is "off topic" about the idea that a heterosexual bloke might be staring at her chest?
2) The OP thinks being stared at is weird. Blokes stare at women all day long. I'm merely pointing it out. How is that "unhelpful"? More or less unhelpful than the snot posting?

Or am I getting the banhammer for posting the word "knockers"?

Talliesin

Puzzled wrote:

I was watching Television with my Boyfriend of 6 months last nite and out of the corner of my eye I saw him Gazing at me for a few minutes.

Psst. I think he might fancy you!

Black Swan

Me thinks he's gazing at his love object. Whew! That's grand! But how can you just sit there and not embrace him?

LegacyUser

'Thank's everyone for your reply's. Maybe im just being silly about it and should be flattered.I feel like a teenager, Im actually 28.

Im now getting worried that he might say that he may Love me. I dont really feel the "love" thing yet so if he does I dont want to hurt him and say nothing.

There was a song on radio this morning when we were in bed and the word love was in it everywhere. I had to get out of bed in case he said it to me. When we're in the pub and a song comes on he sings the Love bit to me eg. we were clubbing and the song by natasha bettingfield "I love you, I love you, I love you...." was on and he kept singing it to me, I didnt know where to look.

Oh and im only out of a long relationship as is he.'

Linoge

Puzzled wrote:

Im now getting worried that he might say that he may Love me. I dont really feel the "love" thing yet .'

Wow, after 6 months? Why are you still with him?

Blush_01

'Cos she's scared he's an axe murderer and was just sizing her neck up for the blade last night?

OP: You're 28 - would you relax? Have a chat with the guy. Jeez!

Carrigart Exile

Men need to ocassionally fire gaze, he might have been lost in his own world but his face was turned towards you

Marksie

Puzzled wrote:

'Thank's everyone for your reply's. Maybe im just being silly about it and should be flattered.I feel like a teenager, Im actually 28.

Im now getting worried that he might say that he may Love me. I dont really feel the "love" thing yet so if he does I dont want to hurt him and say nothing.

There was a song on radio this morning when we were in bed and the word love was in it everywhere. I had to get out of bed in case he said it to me. When we're in the pub and a song comes on he sings the Love bit to me eg. we were clubbing and the song by natasha bettingfield "I love you, I love you, I love you...." was on and he kept singing it to me, I didnt know where to look.

Oh and im only out of a long relationship as is he.'

Actually, the gazing query was a symptom... this is more like the real issue. Why feel scared if someone admits they love you, or that you are frightened that they will expect it in return.
It appears then that you are wary of opening up, possibly because of the long term relationship.. but you haev been with him 6 months. It may be something worth exploring in and of yourself, this may be an intimacy issue (not sexual intimacy but emotional intimacy). It may not be a major issue now, but think about dealing with it before it does.

daiixi

Puzzled wrote:

'Thank's everyone for your reply's. Maybe im just being silly about it and should be flattered.I feel like a teenager, Im actually 28.

Im now getting worried that he might say that he may Love me. I dont really feel the "love" thing yet so if he does I dont want to hurt him and say nothing.

There was a song on radio this morning when we were in bed and the word love was in it everywhere. I had to get out of bed in case he said it to me. When we're in the pub and a song comes on he sings the Love bit to me eg. we were clubbing and the song by natasha bettingfield "I love you, I love you, I love you...." was on and he kept singing it to me, I didnt know where to look.

Oh and im only out of a long relationship as is he.'

:eek: After six months?! If I found out my boyfriend didn't love me after six months I'd be outta there!! It does sound like he's got it for you bad too. What happens if after a year you still don't love him? He's going to be devestated.

arbeitsscheuer

Concur with daiixi and marksuttonie. He's clearly besotted with you, while your attitude (and forgive me for I'm just going on the tone of your posts in this thread) towards him seems to be a lot more lukewarm.

Simply put, you've got to have a chat with him about where you both think this relationship's going. Now it's only my opinion (and take this with a pinch of salt, cos at 22 I'm relatively inexperienced) but if you're pretty unsure about whether or not you love your other half after 6 months, well... I wouldn't call that a sound bedrock for a lasting relationship, put it that way.

Good luck