Problems at new job

Baby4

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humanji

It depends on what level it gets to, but you best bet is to just ignore her. If she says anything to you in front of others, maybe ask them if she's like that to anyone else. This will basically draw attention to the fact that she's being rude without sounding like you're whinging.

If things are getting in the way of your job, then you could either confront her and try and find out what her problem is, or try speaking to a manager or HR. The only problem with the second option is that it may turn people against you, as they always seem to stick up for the people they know well.

Miss Fluff

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I've found a good way to cope with people like that you encounter through life is to kill them with kindness. She will soon tire of behaving like that if it doesn't get a reaction from you and it will make her look stupid.

Another option is to take her aside and ask her what her problem is. She'll soon back down.

dodgyme

This is a tough one. Best thing for you to do is to find out why she doesnt like you. Basically what her problem is. At least if you know you can decide how to proceed.

dumbyearbook

dodgyme wrote:

Best thing for you to do is to find out why she doesnt like you.

Possibly the worst advice ive seen in a while!

You actually think the OP should ask this B****

"so why dont you like me?" that'll def not help at all you serious there dodgyme!!?

Baby4 forget her by all means 'be kind' an professional but remember that you cant/may not get on with everyone in an office 100% all the time not many do! its work after all not your social life, at least thats how i look at it

BostonB

Ignore them unless you need to deal with them. Then just be cool and professional.

dumbyearbook

BostonB wrote:

Ignore them unless you need to deal with them. Then just be cool and professional.

is there an echo in here:D

Black Swan

1. Have a one-on-one meeting with her in an attempt to resolve problems
2. If this meeting doesn't work, then see if you can have an off-the-record meeting between her, you, and your supervisor (or human resources).
3. If this meeting doesn't work, file an official complaint with your supervisor.

summerwine

Chances are that she isn't actually liked and the reason why you think she is liked is that no one will dare stand in her way!!

Like all work places there is an alpha male and nowadays there is def an alpha female. You could be a threat to her status?

Acting submisive is a good way of doing it but be prepared to cop alot of sh_t at first!!

Sorry if I'm any more helpfull than that!

Best of luck!!

ArphaRima

Tact. Make her look the fool in front of the others. A few witty retorts and pointed jokes should deflect the worst she has to offer. Do not help her in the slightest way in any of her endeavours, and obstruct her plans and ideas on the project. Basically make sure she knows you hate her, without anybody else being able to see it. She'll back off when she sees you'll be hassle to tackle. Unless of course this girl is higher ranking.
Most importantly. Stop trying to gain her respect. Gain everybody else's instead.

The_Conductor

It sounds like she likes to be the "nice girl" who gets on with everyone, and may see you as somehow impinging on her territory. Territory can be a very unobvious thing- it can be the attention that someone pays to you, commenting on your clothes sense or makeup- where previously they may have made similar comments to the other girl- who now feels threatened in some way by you. Its not an unusual thing to happen, especially when people start work in a new company/area. She most probably is sweet as pie to everyone else- and may not even be aware of how nasty she is being to you.

Rather than starting a cold-war with her, a war in which there can be no winners as you have to work together for a few years, you could instead try being friendly with her for example complimenting her makeup, comparing where you go shopping, asking her advice/help with little things that are new to you- all little things that will thaw the ice between you, and perhaps change you from a potential competitor into a friend in her eyes.

Shane

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Kinetic^

Hey Baby4, that's great to hear. I understand it's hard to be in the situation and complain but a boss/owner does not want conflict in the workplace and will always look to resolve it.

Hope it improves.

Dreamer 7

Plain and simple she is jealous of you and feels threatened by you for some reason. Chin in the air OP you are better than these childish games