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Brothers & Sisters

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  • 12-03-2007 1:55pm
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    rikerdonegal
    Registered Users Posts: 182 ✭✭


    When I decided last September (on my 36th birthday) to go and find my Birth Mother I never really thought of who else I might find.

    So, much to my delight, I now find myself with four brothers and three sisters.

    I've met my Birth Mother a few times since Christmas and we have gotten along extremely well. She's exactly the type of person I warm to. She's a lot like me, basically. Which bring me to my brother and sisters.

    We met once some weeks back and it was a wonderful week-end and everybody was wonderful and welcoming and generally excited and on the sort of high that has been mentioned here in this forum. Some are a lot like me, some are less like me. Which is kinda what I expected.

    Since the week-end, I'd had varying degrees of contact with them. Mostly because they are seven distinct personalities and some are more inclined to be in contact than others, I think. I mean, some of my friends like daily contact and some don't get in touch much from one end of the week to the other.

    We are all meeting up again in a few weeks. By the time of the second meeting, I've grown very very close to a couple of them.

    Has anyone here experienced similar with regard to large famillies?

    I'd like to get to know them all equally, of course, but that's hardly likely. I live a distance away from them and (I gather) nobody gets on with everybody equally within any large family. I was an only child, so I have no frame of rererence for any of this.

    I should also point out that it's giving me no stress or worry, either. The fact that I and my Birth Mother get on wonderfully, and the fact that I'm already very close to two of my siblings, is simply wonderful. When I imagined the best case scenario, this is pretty much how I hoped it might play out. So, I'm not worried, just curious about how these things might play out in the months/years ahead.

    When we meet up again, I'm going to be inclined to spend time with the ones I'm already close to. Does that, I wonder, just increase the 'divide' between myself and the others? Or does it matter?

    Has anyone gone through this?


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