Dating a girl with herpes?

LepperJoe

I dated a girl for three years and we broke up. We're still friends and think we might end up back together at some point. Truthfully, I still love everything about her. Well, almost everything...

I just found out yesterday (she told me) that she got infected with the HSV in her mouth. I don't know if it's HSV-1 or HSV-2 because I didn't think to ask.

Now, I know that if I really love her that this shouldn't matter, but I'm finding that I'm still bothered by it.

We've had lots of big relationship obsticles to this point, so why not throw some herpes into the mix. I swear to god everything that can strain a relationship has happened in this one...

Mentally, it just seems strange that every so often I wouldn't be able to have physical contact with her, and on top of that, even when there are no visible symptons I'd know I can still contract the virus.

How have you guys dealt with this situation?

LadyJ

All this from a lepper!

Lazare

Forgive my ignorance, but are you talking about coldsores?

Rhyme

Aren't cold sores herpes simplex?

If this were PI i'd reccomend you talk it out with her.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Pretty much everyone I know has "herpes" of the mouth. If you've ever had a coldsore then you have it too.

Lazare

LOL, if a cold sore is a 'big relationship obstacle', maybe you should think about becoming a priest.


If you do decide to give it a whirl, just bear in mind that at certain times of the year you'll have to go elsewhere for your blowjob fix.

LepperJoe

Yes, a "cold sore" is typically Herpes Simplex Virus 1 located in the mouth.

Both HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be found in both the mouth and genitals. Both can also be transmitted from mouth to genitals, and genitals to mouth.

Miss Fluff

You'll get more replies if you post in the Personal Issues forum

LepperJoe

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote:

Pretty much everyone I know has "herpes" of the mouth. If you've ever had a coldsore then you have it too.

I've never had a cold sore.

Lazare

LepperJoe wrote:

Yes, a "cold sore" is typically Herpes Simplex Virus 1 located in the mouth.

Both HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be found in both the mouth and genitals. Both can also be transmitted from mouth to genitals, and genitals to mouth.

A ha! This is the problem for you isn't it?

LepperJoe

Miss Fluff wrote:

You'll get more replies if you post in the Personal Issues forum

My apologies, I glanced over the forum categories and must have missed that one. There are quite a few of them...

LepperJoe

Lazare wrote:

LOL, if a cold sore is a 'big relationship obstacle', maybe you should think about becoming a priest.


If you do decide to give it a whirl, just bear in mind that at certain times of the year you'll have to go elsewhere for your blowjob fix.

What I meant was that we've had previous "relationship obsticles", I wasn't implying that herpes was at the top of the list, but mearly that it is now on the list.

It's not just BJ's that I'd have to worry about. I can contract the virus by kissing her even when there is no visible outbreak (called Asymtomatic Transmision or "Viral Shedding"). Not only do I contract the virus, but there is a possibility that I could transmit the virus to her genitals. We could both end up with the virus both in our mouths and genitals.

Lazare

LepperJoe wrote:

What I meant was that we've had previous "relationship obsticles", I wasn't implying that herpes was at the top of the list, but mearly that it is now on the list.

It's not just BJ's that I'd have to worry about. I can contract the virus by kissing her even when there is no visible outbreak (called Asymtomatic Transmision or "Viral Shedding"). Not only do I contract the virus, but there is a possibility that I could transmit the virus to her genitals. We could both end up with the virus both in our mouths and genitals.

I have that virus since as long as I can remember. My wife doesn't. We don't spend our time in isolation tanks. Don't let it bother you so much. You just have to be a little bit carefull when she breaks out in a cold sore, other than that it shouldn't be an issue. It's more common than you think.

Binomate

If she infects you with herpes, get the bitch back with AIDS.

davyjose

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote:

Pretty much everyone I know has "herpes" of the mouth. If you've ever had a coldsore then you have it too.

I don't

Schlemm

If your immune system is in good shape, you get less outbreaks (although I dunno if you can actually clear the virus completely from your body).

DarkJager

You'll have to approach this Pokemon style. Just catch a bad dose of syphilis or chlamyidia, then infect her and let your chosen virus battle it out with the herpes!!

*You may also want some Japanese pop music playing in the background while you do this, just for added authenticity. Also don't forget to give your virus commands on what attack to do next e.g "Sticky coloured discharge attack!!"*

KTRIC

I personally wouldn't touch a girl with Herpes with a long barge poll. Best thing to do is scream "UNCLEAN , UNCLEAN , UNCLEAN" the next time you see her, she'll get the message.

Binomate

You could buy her a present, like a bell or something, so that she can ring it as she goes around town, warning people off.

Laslo

This thread has proven to be both worrying and hilarious in equal measure.

Lazare

Binomate wrote:

You could buy her a present, like a bell or something, so that she can ring it as she goes around town, warning people off.

I like this idea. Maybe a big battery powered neon sign above her head too, with the words, 'STAND BACK, I HAVE THE CLAP'

LepperJoe

Laslo wrote:

This thread has proven to be both worrying and hilarious in equal measure.

How come?

Gran Hermano

You could always try one of these:

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LadyJ wrote:

All this from a lepper!

Now that was hilarious!.

As to the OP. Welcome to the world of Herpes (she'll have passed it) most of us have it, get used to it.

DarkJager

LepperJoe wrote:

How come?

Aw it just keeps getting better!!!! "Come" and a range of STDS mentioned in the same topic!!!

Wertz

Herpes - the gift that keeps on giving.

Nephew

Binomate wrote:

If she infects you with herpes, get the bitch back with AIDS.

Quoted for truth.

Alternatively, get her hooked on heroin, by injecting her as she sleeps.

NotMe

DarkJager wrote:

You'll have to approach this Pokemon style. Just catch a bad dose of syphilis or chlamyidia, then infect her and let your chosen virus battle it out with the herpes!!

Haha... gotta catch 'em all!

OP you must be joking? Over 80% of people get cold sores so you'll have a hard time finding a girlfriend who never gets them (I don't but most of my friends do). I'm sure they all manage perfectly fine.

Wertz

Cover her head in cling-film. Sorted.

John Mason

lol, i started getting cold sores when i was about 4 years old, and as far i know i have never given anyone genital herpes. you can catch it just as easily from drinking from a cup in work that hasnt been washed properly, from the the swimming pool or a bottle of beer in the pub, jaysis man, if this is the only thing stopping you from being with your wan, you shouldnt be with her at all

Black Swan

OP you should know better than to put a PI issue on AH. We have a sense of humour here that will not quit. Just don't kiss and tell...

Red Hand

Go travelling and join a club, OP.

Mr.Nice Guy

Are you sure she has herpes? Maybe she just needed to know that you'd stay.

Dave!

Kill yourself.

Or, just don't kiss her (OR ANYTHING) until it's sorted..... however it is that herpes gets sorted.....

Karoma

Locked.