Getting back together with an ex

theevilmonkey

Hope this ain't too flippant (?:rolleyes: ) for here but I'm sure the mods will sort it out if it is.

Anyway, a mate of mine got dumped over the weekend and a few of us went for a few brews with him last night to try cheer him up and take his mind of it. Of course that didn't really happen and a few rounds later talk turned to getting back with exes.

Consensus was that for relationships of less than 6 months/a year...there's more of a chance people will get back together (however casual) but only on occassion does it work out. Longer term relationships, despite best intentions of remaining friends, that it's just too painful for at least one party.

So, just out of interest I thought I'd put a poll together here...

rubyred

It depends whether you break up cos of feelings changing or circumstances changing.

Any of my exs where one of us wanted to end the relationship - I would never go back for seconds. But my current bf went to Oz for a year. We knew we were quite serious so we said that we would stay in touch and see what happened. We both saw people during that year. He came back and we are now going out four years.

little miss

Unless two people put the effort it and really want to make it work, I never think its a good idea. Also depends why you break up in the first place. If people learn from their mistakes and don't repeat them, then I think a second chance should be given. But no more than that. Far too many people hang on to crap relationship or people who treat them badly just because they're scared of being alone.

dudara

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AH mods - you might like to reopen the poll or not.

dudara

Stench Blossoms

I wouldn't get back with an ex. Ex's are ex's for a reason.

Winters

orla wrote:

I wouldn't get back with an ex. Ex's are ex's for a reason.

She speaks the utter truth.

Been there before. Dont go back to them, stay away!

Wibbs

Depends. I know some who have broken up(some really bad breakups too) and have gotten back together and it's better the second time. It depends what the reasons were and how close the original relationship was.

MooseJam

bad idea, leave it

SimpleSam06

Run far, run fast.

aidan_walsh

Once bitten, twice...

Ruu_Old

Never, ever, ever, ever, etc.

Zapp Brannigan

Ruu wrote:

Never, ever, ever, ever, etc.

Never ever, forever, never?

Dord

never have, never will.

Mrs_Doyle

I broke up with my boyfriend for about 6 or 7 months, back in 2003. We got back together in the beginning of 2004 and we've been together ever since.

I think when we met first it was a case of 'Right person, Wrong time', the break gave us a chance to grow up a bit and sort our priorities out.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

My cats breath smells like cat food...

aodhu

What about being friends with your Ex or is that a totally different question?

azezil

Tried twice, both times it ended again less than a week later.