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  • 04-08-2007 5:32pm
    #1
    McFearless
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 128 ✭✭McFearless


    im 21 and have been with my gilfriend for the past 4years,but i find myself starting to worry at the idea of spending the rest of my life with her.Dont get me wrong she's great and i know she really likes me too,but i cant help but feel like "is this it?",am i just gonna settle down with her get a house and just work in dublin for the rest of my life?
    I really have an urge to travel and im in the position to the able to live in another continent,hassle free.I know she would never agree to move,abit of a home bird,i just dont know what to do.The thought of staying is just depressing....
    Anyone else know where im coming from?cheers for reading anyway...


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  • #2
    Winston Raspy Mower
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Winston Raspy Mower


    Have you discussed it with her? It seems like a big deal to you, she's your gf, she should be the one you're talking about it with...


  • #3
    McFearless
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 128 ✭✭McFearless


    jes that was quick!well i have told her that i would like to go maybe in about 2years,but i dont think she thinks that im serious!


  • #4
    Winston Raspy Mower
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Winston Raspy Mower


    Well after 4 years with someone, surely you know how to make it clear how serious you are? =/ Or are you having communication issues too?
    Sure you got together young enough, so you want to get out there and see the world and so on. There'll be people who can say they split up with the person in this situation and were glad, or regretted it, or didnt split up. Only people to sort this out would be you two. But if you feel you'll be miserable if you just stay, then I suggest you travel with or without her.


  • #5
    Beelzebub
    Closed Accounts Posts: 643 ✭✭✭Beelzebub


    Whatever you decide, firstly you should discuss this with her. As bluewolf says.
    You obviously feel the need to experience more of life before you settle down. Travelling for a while and/or living in another country may satisfy this need or at least will help to give you a better perspective.


  • #6
    Oryx
    Subscribers Posts: 19,425 ✭✭✭✭Oryx


    McFearless wrote:
    im 21 and have been with my gilfriend for the past 4years,but i find myself starting to worry at the idea of spending the rest of my life with her.Dont get me wrong she's great and i know she really likes me too,but i cant help but feel like "is this it?",am i just gonna settle down with her get a house and just work in dublin for the rest of my life?
    I really have an urge to travel and im in the position to the able to live in another continent,hassle free.I know she would never agree to move,abit of a home bird,i just dont know what to do.The thought of staying is just depressing....
    Anyone else know where im coming from?cheers for reading anyway...
    Theres nothing wrong with knowing in your heart youre not going to spend your life with her. Most people dont spend their life with just one partner, for lots of reasons. People break up. Its life. You just need to be honest with yourself and her. You say 'shes great, but.....' and that 'but' is a huge thing. It shows how uncertain you are right now about your feelings. You need to tell her all thats in your head, even if its hard. At least then all this doubt will be out in the open. And you will know if she would be willing to make the leap and go with you when you move abroad.


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