Weekday weddings - selfish?

BroomBurner

Repolho wrote: »

My granny always says that. SHe is 99 and got married in 1938. Apparantly, in her day everyone got married on a Wednesday!

Incidently, my wife and I married on a saturday. We considered the weekday option, but felt in the overall scheme of things the savings were not worth the hassle for everyone who had to travel.

The discount offered (Mon - Thurs) by the hotel was 10% of the meal which for us worked out at about €600.

When we divied up our budget we were conscious of not trying to cut back on the meal or the wine but to try and make savings elsewhere!

It's all well and good having your wedding on a saturday when you can afford not to save €600. Also, judging by your figures, you probably had a good couple of hundred people, which is also not favoured by everyone. Most hotels will only allow a saturday wedding for groups of 150+, which puts extra pressure on a bride and groom that may not want to have this many people. Somebody else posted this same reason.

On making savings with the hotel, why is it ok to look for savings on everything else but not the hotel? Surely if you want to save money, you look at all areas of your wedding, not just a select few.

Repolho

BroomBurner wrote: »

It's all well and good having your wedding on a saturday when you can afford not to save €600. Also, judging by your figures, you probably had a good couple of hundred people, which is also not favoured by everyone. Most hotels will only allow a saturday wedding for groups of 150+, which puts extra pressure on a bride and groom that may not want to have this many people. Somebody else posted this same reason.

On making savings with the hotel, why is it ok to look for savings on everything else but not the hotel? Surely if you want to save money, you look at all areas of your wedding, not just a select few.

We viewed these as cut backs, not savings. As far as I remember there were no minimum numbers required for a saturday in where we held our reception.

We had about 150 people at the wedding, alot of whom were travelling. We figured the least we could offers them for taking the time to share in our day was a decent meal and plenty of wine.

I would say to the OP if you can't afford to have a saturday wedding within your budget, then by all means opt for the weekday, but for us there were other cuts to be made that allowed us to have our wedding on a Saturday.

Whispered

I was actually coming in here to ask something similar.

I have a date in mind which is very special to us for a number of reasons, problem is, it falls on a wednesday.

I hope the wedding will be small and intimate, but we have large families which we rarely see, but "have" to invite. A weekday wedding, IMO will cut out the people who are going because they feel obliged to. It will allow us have our small wedding with the people who care enough to be there.

Thinking through the guests we actually want there. I honestly can't think of one who would complain about a mid week wedding, especially with over a years notice. If they do then frankly, they are not welcome.

Same with families with children, kids are not invited. People complaining about this can just not come. No hard feelings or anything, but if it is awkward for people then a simple "I'm sorry, I cant make it" would be better then a guest being there and not wanting to be there.

sweetie

helena.ryan wrote: »

I was actually coming in here to ask something similar.

I have a date in mind which is very special to us for a number of reasons, problem is, it falls on a wednesday.

I hope the wedding will be small and intimate, but we have large families which we rarely see, but "have" to invite. A weekday wedding, IMO will cut out the people who are going because they feel obliged to. It will allow us have our small wedding with the people who care enough to be there.

Thinking through the guests we actually want there. I honestly can't think of one who would complain about a mid week wedding, especially with over a years notice. If they do then frankly, they are not welcome.

Same with families with children, kids are not invited. People complaining about this can just not come. No hard feelings or anything, but if it is awkward for people then a simple "I'm sorry, I cant make it" would be better then a guest being there and not wanting to be there.

Not everyone can afford two days holidays. The last wedding we went to my wife had to work the day after in the car as I drove back to Dublin. As for children, we didn't want them either but a couple were brought anyways.

Whispered

We'll be organising a bus back to a central area in dublin, probably dropping off in tallaght and the city centre, later in the night for those who want to work the next day.

I think we will specifically put a note on the invitations saying that kids are not invited. Not in those words exactly of course.

sweetie

checkout www.weddingsonline.ie for ideas on how to exclude the kiddies.
there's a few good ones that I can't remember at the moment

helena.ryan wrote: »

We'll be organising a bus back to a central area in dublin, probably dropping off in tallaght and the city centre, later in the night for those who want to work the next day.

I think we will specifically put a note on the invitations saying that kids are not invited. Not in those words exactly of course.