Finally got the girl of my dreams the lost her straight away :(

Talliesin

Loner in Love wrote:

Why are things so confusing....i melted when she text me!
What should i take from this?

That you don't handle crushes well.

It's unlikely to work as a romantic relationship due to how that goes on her part.

It's unlikely to work as a friendship due to how that goes on your part (you can't handle being friends with someone you have a crush on).

Just let it go.

Firetrap

Loner in Love wrote:

'Ok so i have finally turned 20!! WAAHEY!:D haha

Anyway the minute it hit midnight last night she was the first person to text me wishing me a happy birthday. She said she is sorry for everything and doesnt wanna lose me

Why are things so confusing....i melted when she text me!
What should i take from this?'

You have a crush on this girl. You're infatuated with her. There's nothing wrong with having a crush on someone. It can happen to people of any age. The only thing is, you have to handle it differently to how a 13 year old would.

Everyone on this thread is telling you that she's no good for you and that all she's going to do is hurt you very badly. You are clearly second best in her eyes. A happy birthday text means nothing.

You're getting good advice here. I know you can't stop caring for her overnight but you need to take proactive steps to wean yourself off her. In other words, stop thinking about settling down with her in the little house with the white picket fence with babies and two dogs. Don't text her or keep texting to a minimum. Don't hang out with her if you can avoid it. Over time your feelings for her will diminish.

kryogen

im gonna go ahead and take a wild guess that you texted her back immediately saying it was ok and you didnt want to lose her either right???

listen,she is no good for you, whether she is doing it consciously or not she is causing pain to you, its not a healthy relationship and its one you need to sort out.

dont be a pushover for her again and come running when she whistles like your her pet dog man!

she will hurt you again

A Primal Nut

When she says spark she most likely means someone she can complain about to her friends. So don't text her back for a few a hours or at all, cancel meetings at the last minute, turn up late, look at other girls when she's around, etc. Girls like this love that.

Talliesin

A Primal Nut wrote:

When she says spark she most likely means someone she can complain about to her friends.

Eh. No.

She probably means something like what the OP mentions when he talks about how he feels about her.

Venom

Have to agree with the delete her phone number posse. This girl is and will, be nothing but pain for you. Delete her number, stop replying to texts and just treat her as an acquaintance rather than a friend as the way she has messed you around so far it shows she doesn't consider you a friend.

Caliden

Loner in Love wrote:

'Ok so i have finally turned 20!! WAAHEY!:D haha

Anyway the minute it hit midnight last night she was the first person to text me wishing me a happy birthday. She said she is sorry for everything and doesnt wanna lose me

Why are things so confusing....i melted when she text me!
What should i take from this?'

Absolutely nothing. She made it clear she doesn't want you in a relationship. You're nothing more than a friend and that's it so stop obsessing about this girl and accept the fact that she doesn't want you.