What's going wrong?!

Drift

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

I apologise profusely for the abysmal behaviour of many of my female counterparts, many of them sound like bitches. I've never acted like that but that might explain why I'm in a very happy relationship. Feel so sorry for ye guys now.

Now we know you're a troll gaeilgegrinds because girls NEVER apologise ..... EVER

gaeilgegrinds

Drift that's not fair, some girls are lovely! Try not to be so cynical, love is a truly wonderful thing!

leninbenjamin

padi89 wrote:

Ermmmm.......i think its a joke.

while hilariously funny, there is a certain element of truth to it.

oh, and it's mentioned the regular haunt is buskers? i think that would be your problem, i cant stand that crowd meself...

*shivers*

Lockstep

Years of living in standoffish Belgium and England have rendered me lacking in Irish social graces.

THe fact I'm18 year old 6 footer with a kids face doesn't help.

That's whats wrong with me

padi89

leninbenjamin wrote:

oh, and it's mentioned the regular haunt is buskers? i think that would be your problem, i cant stand that crowd meself...

*shivers*

I don't think there really is a problem with Buskers,its full or 20 something hot looking women (can't comment on men),its OK with me the few times i have been there.However if its a regular haunt then i suggest you branch out a bit.Does not going to the same place or area all the time not bore the living sh1te out of ye???????

Drift

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Drift that's not fair, some girls are lovely! Try not to be so cynical, love is a truly wonderful thing!

The smileys were meant to indicate that it was a tongue in cheek comment gaeilgegrinds. I know there are quite a few really nice girls out there and I'm hoping to find one really soon, although the good ones are snapped up fast so I have to get a move on .

This thread though has let me know that I'm not the only one that finds it difficult to find where these nice girls hide out in a pub/club environment.

Yv

Drift wrote:

Do you think that any guy who talks to you in a pub is "Making a move"

What annoys me (female, 20) when I go out is exactly that - when someone comes up to talk to you when you're out (& I generally don't do nightclubs much), they are a) male, and b) looking for some kind of sex / relationship. Fair enough, I'm still civil to them & chat away, but when they ask me for my number I tell them I have a boyfriend & then they disappear. Fair enough if you're on the pull or looking for a relationship, but surely people should still be able to talk to each other without an ulterior motive? I can see why going out to clubs & pubs to meet new people is so daunting to some, because if you try to spark up a conversation with someone you don't know the warning bells go off & they assume you're looking for something more.

I still give guys the benefit of the doubt but it always ends in a "sorry, I'm taken" & a quick exit by the chap in question. Bit of a shame, really.

DRakE

guys aren't interested in people with boyfriends, fact. the quicker you find out that the girl has a boyfriend the better so you can bail and find someone else. the girl might enjoy yhe conversation but the guys gonna get **** all out of it so he's gonna bail.

MattKid

Yv wrote:

What annoys me (female, 20) when I go out is exactly that - when someone comes up to talk to you when you're out (& I generally don't do nightclubs much), they are a) male, and b) looking for some kind of sex / relationship. Fair enough, I'm still civil to them & chat away, but when they ask me for my number I tell them I have a boyfriend & then they disappear. Fair enough if you're on the pull or looking for a relationship, but surely people should still be able to talk to each other without an ulterior motive? I can see why going out to clubs & pubs to meet new people is so daunting to some, because if you try to spark up a conversation with someone you don't know the warning bells go off & they assume you're looking for something more.

I still give guys the benefit of the doubt but it always ends in a "sorry, I'm taken" & a quick exit by the chap in question. Bit of a shame, really.

It is a shame, and that's why I try and just become more of a generally socialable person. And when it comes down to the crunch, if I like talking to you, odds are you've some like-minded single friends who I could meet and if introduced by you, then I'm pre-approved so I'm half way there!

That obviously would be way way back in my mind, because I'd just be enjoying your company on a platonic level.

*Sometimes I don't think I come across as sounding sincere in text format*

SimpleSam06

Joebloggs4817 wrote:

GUINNESS
The man is a rapist and will get laid one way or another.

Ah fuckit, the cat's out of the bag now, I'll have to change my tipple. What does your chart have to say about tequila?

Seriously though, in Ireland there is no place else to meet women for a relationship than in a pub or club, a sort of warped, inbred bastardised siamese child of dance halls and discos, cheered on by the licker peddlers.

So of course men are drunk when they try to chat to women, they'd need to be in case the daddy's little darling of a screeching harpy claws the face off them, metaphorically, which happens more often than not. And of course then the women complain they are only approached by rummied molesters on day release, making the problem worse.

OP, maybe if your friends got tans and started speaking with foreign accents, their luck might improve.

Yv wrote:

because if you try to spark up a conversation with someone you don't know the warning bells go off & they assume you're looking for something more.

What, you thought they were in there for the delights of the watered down overpriced booze? The wonderful music that you can barely listen to, never mind dance to? Which is played so loud that holding a decent conversation is an exercise in futility in any case? The warning bells should have rung off the wall before you set foot in the door!

I mean look at this crap. The only way to get laid (barring unforseen circumstances) is to go to a nightclub or pub, but you're afraid to make that clear in case the women think you only want to have teh secks with them. THERE IS NO OTHER REASON TO BE THERE!

gaeilgegrinds

Socialising with your friends is a good reason to be there.

Lockstep

A guy at work mentions that all the usual young peoples haunts have been taken over by pre-teens.Says it makes him feel like a paedophile.

He was out once and one girl came up to him and asked what he did.He said sarcastically he was a doctor(the girl was around 15) she said"well you can throw me up against the slab anyday"

SimpleSam06

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Socialising with your friends is a good reason to be there.

The only advantage a pub or nightclub has over a house party or whatever is that there are other people there (not your friends), who are there for exactly the reasons I mentioned. So no, socialising with your friends is not a good reason to be there, not to mention that pubs and nightclubs have several major disadvantages over a house party, not least of which is its damn hard to get talking to someone without having to bellow in their ear like an ould fella at a GAA match, whether you know them or not.

gaeilgegrinds

Short of having a house party open to all your friends you're never going to meet them all out! How boring would it be to meet the same people ALL the time!

gaeilgegrinds

Short of having a house party open to all your friends you're never going to meet them all out! How boring would it be to meet the same people ALL the time!

SimpleSam06

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Short of having a house party open to all your friends you're never going to meet them all out! How boring would it be to meet the same people ALL the time!

Are there friends you wouldn't invite to a house party? And in any case, weren't you only going out to socialise with your friends?

If you go out, you will meet other people, most of whom are there to get laid, to one degree or another. What you mean is you go out with your friends to try to enjoy their company and possibly meet a partner of some sort. So really, you are there for the same reason. Its not a book club you are attending here.

Anyway what you are saying just reinforces my point, there is no real alternative in this country, which is a disgrace.

Drift

SimpleSam06 wrote:

there is no real alternative in this country, which is a disgrace.

Yup there seems to be f*ck all other way of meeting girls in Ireland than the pub. Even if you join a club/society (as all in PI will recommend) when it comes to socialising with the people from that club or society everyone heads straight down to the pub. You're not quite back to square one because at least the girls there know you a bit so won't assume you're a raging perv when you talk to them but it still boils down to trying to chat up a girl in a pub! I really hate that and would love to have some alternative but there just doesn't seem to be any .... I don't even drink so my dutch courage to approach girls in pubs or clubs has to come from Coca Cola :rolleyes:

Anyway, all I'm saying to the girls here is at least be open to the fact that there are nice guys out there too not just the ones after you for one night.

Lockstep

I'd rather have a serious relationship and I'm slightly asexual,this means girls respond to the first by assuming I'm clingy and to the second that I'm either gay or just don't fancy them.

We can't win.

PixelTrawler

Alessandra wrote:

As for the drinks chart Joebloggs, that is a load of rubbish! Does anyone stick to the same drink all the time? Male or female? How can you jsuge someone by what they drink... Some nights I'll have a cola, others a jd, others a tequila etc.

Although I agree a man drinking an alcopop is pretty conspicuous.

em, twas only meant to be a bit of humour there... thread was getting heavy:)

Supposedly it came from a survey of barmen who were asked to equate personalities with drinks and these were the common trends that emerged

SimpleSam you're right there bout meeting in the pub thats typically where I've met girls although I did meet two of my ex's in work of all places. I met my current girlfriend in the pub. She was a german student over to nuig for a year. First night out (in buskers of all places!) in galway, we meet, 4 years later (this week) we're still going strong - all hail the pub!

smackbunnybaby

Yv wrote:

I'm still civil to them & chat away, but when they ask me for my number I tell them I have a boyfriend & then they disappear.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBLhYziLMOI&NR=1

ha ha

padi89

smackbunnybaby wrote:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nBLhYziLMOI&NR=1

ha ha

ha should have ended with him calling her a prick tease.

Mahell

gaeilgegrinds wrote:

Am so so so sick of my friends ona bout how they can NOT find a man in Galway. They go out, look great, are intersting, funny and kind. What's going wrong?! Any tips cos I'm getting sick of it! I'm taken but they miss me coming out & helping them out, not going to happen til well after the baby though. Any ideas? Particularly from the gentlemen cos I'm baffled!

Came to this discussion kinda late and only read the start and end so I apologise if I'm retreading old ground but felt compelled to pitch in. Anyway, so the crux of the matter is women in Galway can't get fellas. Here's my two cents:

Out in Cuba one night (years ago before I got sense) and got talking to a girl who turned out to be a friend of a friend so we ended up in the same company for the evening. Anyway we were chatting away, not with seedy intent in mind, just discussing the state of the world and all that.

Eventually the topic of chatting people up in pubs and clubs arose and I was saying how it can be tough to muster the courage to go over and talk to some complete randomer and that I thought it was much harder for men than it was for women. At which point she laughed, nodded and said: "Yeah I suppose so. I'd get LOADS of fellas coming up talking to me on a night out and if I actually turn and talk to one out of ten they're lucky. Ha ha ha."

Now bear in mind that this was a nice looking girl, but by no means a stunner and she was otherwise a pretty decent person, the above statement aside.

Anyway, I suppose what I'm trying to say is that my brothers and I have had it pretty tough on the social scene of late. We get rebuffed, shot down and sent back to our corners with the giggles of hooched up girly-girls resounding over the thumping bass. And I'm not saying that this is a universal trait of the fairer sex, but I've seen it raise its head even among my own female friends who can be pretty quick to turn away anyone even harmlessly chancing his arm.

So, to finally distill a point out of all this, I suppose I'm trying to say that it's hard to have sympathy for the women of Galway when the men of this great city have had it so tough for so long. Not all the women are like that though, just like not all fellas are pissed-up horn-dogs. But if the tables are indeed starting a slow turn then you'll have to cop on and make more of an effort to be the ones to make the long walk over to us. Or continue to slumber merrily alone

Drift

Great post Mahell ..... Exactly what I was trying to say but couldn't put into polite words

CerebralCortex

the-furbo wrote:

Its a fact! It truely is impossible to find men in galway!Where do they hide??

I moved to Limerick.