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KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Hmmm, I *really* doubt it, but hey I'm not going to burst your bubble

Ah no, I get what you are saying and I am a realist-speed dating will probably let down and it let me down. As for having a simple normal chat with a girl-it is a hard thing to do at times. The female race is a suspicious group at times and guys are more sensitive and shy than is imagined. Women sometimes suspect that the guy has an agenda when its a simple good natured chat that he wants-hey us guys are human-amazing fact!

Phil01

I think bars are one of the best places, but you have to be introduced. Clubs and societies are also probably the best places. clubs are just a waste of time. Interet is good place too.

pretty-in-pink

I know you guys are human (still make great pets lol), but hey women can be suspicious of girls that get on with boys.

Heck you can have mostly male friends and some girls will imply your sleeping with them all, or will do, becasue app men and women can't be friends.

Moral being- the girls who chat to guys are the ones who are easy to approach and relax with, the other type are uptight and bitchy and paranoid.

moco

monkeyfudge wrote: »

Speed dating is horrible...

But it is handy if you want to meet your monthly rejection quota in a single evening.

I went speed dating once as a last minute thing when my friend's other mate dropped out of going and it was great craic!!

The only thing was I drank a bit too much and couldn't work out the next day what I'd written about the second half of the guys I met. I met 2 of the guys for a few dates after it, one was just out of a marriage and was a wee bit crazy, the other one I'd convinced myself was gay but that's just my experience of it. I'd do it again actually.

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

I know you guys are human (still make great pets lol), but hey women can be suspicious of girls that get on with boys.

Heck you can have mostly male friends and some girls will imply your sleeping with them all, or will do, becasue app men and women can't be friends.

Moral being- the girls who chat to guys are the ones who are easy to approach and relax with, the other type are uptight and bitchy and paranoid.

Well said but I have long given up on what others think-I have three very close female friends who look on me as a bigger brother-I fancied one like crazy but I did her a good turn and it knocked romance on the head. Women seem to go for rogues at times and the good guys who try hard are left on the sidelines until 32 or 33 when these woman come back after having had their fun for a few years with the wild boys. They pick the good guys up then because they are a safe bet to father their kids and keep them in high maintenance living-so yes chatting is a near impossibility when that type of scenario is going on.

pretty-in-pink

KlondikePaddy wrote: »

Well said but I have long given up on what others think-I have three very close female friends who look on me as a bigger brother-I fancied one like crazy but I did her a good turn and it knocked romance on the head. Women seem to go for rogues at times and the good guys who try hard are left on the sidelines until 32 or 33 when these woman come back after having had their fun for a few years with the wild boys. They pick the good guys up then because they are a safe bet to father their kids and keep them in high maintenance living-so yes chatting is a near impossibility when that type of scenario is going on.

True enough, we like to have our fun while we are young, and it is with bad boys, mostly.
But guys are the same really. Actually, no, you're more into commitment then us (in my experience)

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

True enough, we like to have our fun while we are young, and it is with bad boys, mostly.
But guys are the same really. Actually, no, you're more into commitment then us (in my experience)

Well why not committment?(****-did I spell that correctly) You get to wake up every morning beside the person of your dreams for the rest of your life. Better than slapping around and having your heart broken.

pretty-in-pink

Sometimes commitment can burn you, and so you're in no rush to get it again, and you can stop at kissing y'know. or flirting.

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Sometimes commitment can burn you, and so you're in no rush to get it again, and you can stop at kissing y'know. or flirting.

On a chatability scale you are not bad yourself-I will give you a full ten ha ha ha

Tusky

The best place to pick up kids is definitely in the playground.

pretty-in-pink

Thats nice of ya. Tis why girls dont like me. Ah well, I like most everyone, and I laugh at people who clal me a slapper, casue really, its funny. If it were true, I might get offended, but its just funny. Esp as its people wo don't know me

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Thats nice of ya. Tis why girls dont like me. Ah well, I like most everyone, and I laugh at people who clal me a slapper, casue really, its funny. If it were true, I might get offended, but its just funny. Esp as its people wo don't know me

I wasn't even thinking like that-just passing a compliment-thats the narrow suspicious talk that I presume you were on about pretty in pink?Am I right?

pretty-in-pink

I may know its a random compliment- but some people think a guy/girl can't be nice without it having sexual connotations

*jeez this is heavy for AH

Snotmonkeys!

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

I may know its a random compliment- but some people think a guy/girl can't be nice without it having sexual connotations

*jeez this is heavy for AH

Snotmonkeys!

i know another place where a guy could chat to a girl!

2 stroke

I'm not saying its a good place but I've been picked up a few times by girls asking me to pick items off the top shelf (I'm over 6 foot) followed by a sob story about a light bulb needing changing in their appartment. (I actualy fell for this line more than once, and will again)

pretty-in-pink

2 stroke wrote: »

I'm not saying its a good place but I've been picked up a few times by girls asking me to pick items off the top shelf (I'm over 6 foot) followed by a sob story about a light bulb needing changing in their appartment. (I actualy fell for this line more than once, and will again)

Ah DIY stores, how could I forget?

KlondikePaddy wrote: »

i know another place where a guy could chat to a girl!

general comment on direction of thread

KlondikePaddy

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Ah DIY stores, how could I forget?


general comment on direction of thread

It is, it is!

monkeyfudge

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Snotmonkeys!

They produce the best kind of snot.

Rb

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

we are normal.....

wrong.

thelordofcheese

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Just talk to us lads, we are normal.....

You can't lie like that on the internet!

estar

thebiggestjim wrote: »

Hi All,

Im just reading that Irish Women; Gods gift to the Earth thread and its gone a bit crazy on how should women behave when approached in a night club.
I don’t believe night clubs and to a lesser extent bars are a great place to meet women when you’re looking for something more long term. I have hooked up with women in night clubs, never gone any distance really. Parties have been pretty good for meeting girlfriends, women seem more relaxed and you have something in common.

Anyway my question is:

Where do you think the best place is to meet someone outside bars and clubs, for potentially a relationship?

Also if you are not Irish please include that in your response. I would like to see what foreign attitudes are on this.

Ill get the ball rolling, I think swimming pools are a good place, people are relaxed and you get a good look at the form.

J

house parties. they are the best places

BBQ's

dinner parties

weddings

casinos sometimes

going to bands and festivals

but house parties is number one

MooseJam

just make sure you come uninvited

dubdcugirly

Stumbled across this little forum and thought I had to answer!
Firstly totally agree bars/clubs tend not to lead to a long,meaningful relationships! I think the best way to look at it is how people in other relationships got together...

Well number one is ... friend of a friend... sorry I know its irrating but if you think about it the amount of ppl you probably know and the amount they all know you've got a pretty good chance...

Work or play... your place of employment/clients/business partners or sports clubetc...maybe you should start looking a bit closer to home...people tend to try to hard looking for some exotic stranger when "the one" is sitting at the next desk.

Finally lots of people will tell you to join things specifically to meet someone...talk about pressure!...your going to go specifically into that in order to meet someone, it aint going to work nine times of ten...therefore do something when the focus is different, one of my cousin meet her now husband when volunteering once very fourth sunday in a homeless soup kitchen! No pressure and after 12 sundays (...only seeing each other three times) the first date was arranged!

Hope its some help,ders someone der im sure just takes awhile to look in the right place

themadchef

work worked for me!, met my husband while working in Intel. One gas oven explosion + 1 ERT guy = marraige eventually lol

Crumble Froo

i'd say mostly just through friends... also at clubs, or if you happen to be a regular in the same pub as them... you tend to get to know people on sight pretty quickly then... it's only a matter of time before small talk turns into conversation.....

for me... the internet is the place where i met my guy.

slipss

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Make a joke on the bus

Train journeys

I'd have to agree there. I think I've had the best luck on public transport ahead of anywhere else, as strange as it sounds. But I mean think about it, a girl is sitting there on the bus bored, no one to talk to, no gaggle of mates there with her to keep interupting the two of you. If your bus travelling cycles cross you know you are going to see each other semi-reguarly in anyways. You have instant conversation starters as far as asking her where shes off to or where shes coming from, telling her the same about you, I'd usually have a news paper or a book with me if I'm going to be on a bus so lots to talk about there, explaining how you are riding the bus because you accidently backed your new BMW into your classic ferrari......