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Partner is moving home next yea - without me

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  • 16-11-2007 12:41am
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    LegacyUser
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    I have been with my partner 7 months and since we met we have only spend the odd weekend apart - we r very close but not in a crazy way

    He is asian and announced to me recently that he may be moving back home in a year - most lightly - while this is perfectly understandable after 9 years living here - i was shell shocked - there also seems like no plan whatsoever to bring me with him - which i also kinda understand because of his religion he is expected to get married and we both know when he moves back his family will have a future wife arranged for him -he may want this as he loves kids

    While i dont blame him for wanting to move home i am a little shocked - because he wants us to go on like we have a future - i wish we did - but he does not seem to want to discuss it at all - he says he loves me and we should see what happens - but i noticed in his internet history he has been looking at possible positions out there - not send off cvs but seems to be more of checking what the job market is like...

    i know most people will say im a fool for being allowed to be lead like this when i know there is no future - i could spend my life with him as im happy....


    i guess im just venting my feelings and ive no where else to dump them

    I always knew he felt the same about me - but if he has these feelings about leaving and he casually mentions about buying a house and such out there - what am i supposed to think...


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    Boston
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    A terrible but manageable amount of pain now Vs a horrific amount of pain in 12 months time.


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    biko
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    Enjoy what you have while it lasts.


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    anotherlostie
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    7 months...

    If it was 7 years then I might be inclined to give advice! Anytime I've known a couple to be so wrapped up in each other after a couple of months, they're wrapped up in their next respective relationships within a year or two.


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    Rev Hellfire
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,346 ✭✭✭Rev Hellfire


    Well if he's looking into moving and doesn't seem interested in bring you forward with him it would seem obvious that he's not interested in a serious commitment.
    So the question is why are you still there, I'm sure if you brought this to PI you'd get a chorus of dump them and move on. Although better to the dumper than the dumpee.


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