Favouritism in families...

Quality

My mam and dad have a favourite, I am bloody sure of it,,, My sister is perfect, she can do no wrong, her kids are perfect, her husband is perfect, they live in a perfect house, in a perfect estate,BLAAAHHHHH

Out of four of us in the family I would say I am in 2nd/3rd place most of the time.

Do the rest of youse have this problem

patrickolee

Yes, I am the favourite of ten. Its hard to deal with the jealousy, but somehow I get by!

In case any of my siblings are reading.. I'm only joking honest!

Only two kids in ours and im the oldest at 22, so far its been grand...

connundrum

Seems fair enough that your sister would be the favourite. The parents would hardly be in love with the crack smoking, unemployed single mother kid would they?

I know as a parent you're not supposed to take sides, but it must be difficult.

I'm not the favourite, but I have no qualms about it.

Lux23

I know Im my parents favourite in some ways but I used to be the least favourite. Its not really an issue we all get positive feedback from our parents in different ways.

RobbieTheRobber

Im mammys favourite I use my powers for good only though

monkeyfudge

I'm definitely not the favourite... probably something to do with how many times I set fire to the house as a child.

echter

When my mam gets drunk, everyone is her favourite.

Conor108

Not the favourite but not concerned

Fad

me thinks im the favourite, as i cause the least amount of trouble :D

Ruu_Old

^ Same, caused parents less grief than the others.

godtabh

connundrum wrote: »

Seems fair enough that your sister would be the favourite. The parents would hardly be in love with the crack smoking, unemployed single mother kid would they?

How do you know that?

Sleepy

Black sheep of the family here. The brother's the favourite and the sister's the one who can do no wrong. Doesn't bother me in the slightest though - the brother's my favourite of the family too! :P

WindSock

out of 4, I'm the 3rd favourite. Mammys love their boys more.

Pherekydes

Quality wrote: »

My sister is perfect, she can do no wrong, her kids are perfect, her husband is perfect, they live in a perfect house, in a perfect estate...

What's your problem? The fact that your sister is perfect, or the fact that your parents favour her?

Is it bugging you that her guy is better? Her kids are better? Her house is nicer? (All your opinions, or your parents', BTW, and all cobblers)

Pigman II

Any time I privately ask either of me auld pair "who's your favourite?" they always say me. Therefore I can only assume it is me or they are stinking pair of barefaced liars!

RxQueen

im not the favourite in my family, but i gave them plenty of reason for it to be like this, so i doesnt really bother me that much.

The guy

Fad wrote: »

me thinks im the favourite, as i cause the least amount of trouble :D

Also same.

tribulus

I'm the favourite even though my younger sister works way harder at school/college and never caused a hint of trouble as a teenager

cyrusdvirus

Well i'm certainly not the favourite, that's reserved for the (26 year old) kid sister, once I'm not regarded as a disappointment to the parents, then i couldn't give a monkey's.

And for the record I don't really get on with the younger sister, but that's more our incompatible personalities than her being the favourite

Carsinian Thau

I'm third out of three.
It's not that I've done anything to make my parents dislike me (recetly, at least) but that my brother and sister do more, and are generally just nicer people.

MagicMarker

I'm certainly not the favourite, i don't think there is a favourite.

connundrum

kearnsr wrote: »

How do you know that?

Sorry, I meant more in love with - as in the perfect sister would be less maintenance and hardship. And I'm aware that I'm generalising, but I know of parents who are completely heart broken with problem children. Methinks it stands to reason that they'd like the perfect one more.

High&Low

I reckon I am 2nd favourite of 4, but I am the favourite grandchild to my only living grandparent and she has more than 20 grand children

ScumLord

I'm the first born son, so I can do no wrong in me mothers eyes even though by far I cause the most trouble.

ejmaztec

I think that the OP hasn't been told about the adoption yet:eek:

FlutterinBantam

connundrum wrote: »

Seems fair enough that your sister would be the favourite. The parents would hardly be in love with the crack smoking, unemployed single mother kid would they?

I know as a parent you're not supposed to take sides, but it must be difficult.

I'm not the favourite, but I have no qualms about it.

kearnsr wrote: »

How do you know that?

Here maybe

www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=54762190&postcount=7

Lockstep

I'm the least favorite kid for sure.

Older brother is the perfect one-genius, well built, excellent with languages etc
Little brother is the happy go-lucky one- always laughing and being goofy
Little sister is the only girl so is always treated by my dear old ma as a doll

i was always in trouble as a kid for starting fires, throwing rocks at cars, telling my neighbour that her skin-diseased affected kid was the ugliest I;ve ever seen etc.

Even now what I like is never the right stuff:
Study-I like history. Thats it. No career in that says my old man who's a history teacher.
Sports- Boxing, too violent and no team attitude they think.
Women- I've never brought a girlfriend home. Made excuses to them outside my house.It'd be like the Spainish Inquisition. My folks thought I was gay at one point due to this.
Humour- My dad laughs at my jokes when there's us lads about but acts horrified if my ma is within earshot.

prendy

id say im the favourite but little bro is givin me a run for my money.
sister causes way way way too much trouble to be considered!

Quality

ejmaztec wrote: »

I think that the OP hasn't been told about the adoption yet:eek:

I am the youngest of four, there is an 8 year gap between me and the next one up.

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

WindSock

Don't let the whole mistake thing get you down, OP. I'm sure the majority of us here are I know there are favourites in families but it doesnt mean your parents don't love you or want you. They would be devastated if you were to die, so put that knife or those pills down

LadyE

My mam doesnt do favourites...actually when one of us is flavour of the day she "secretly" tell one of us

"You were the only one I wanted"

"You were only only one I wanted to keep"

RxQueen

aww quailty thats not nice, how did my mother put it oh i was a "surprise" i think its just a nicer way of saying i was a mistake!

Pigman II

Quality wrote: »

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

I love that phrase "a mistake"

Was he aiming for her mouth?

kelle

Quality, that's so cruel! My middle child was a surprise, because her older brother was only a year old at the time - aargh, two children under two! But she has turned put to be my lovliest, sweetest, most obedient child. I would certainly never consider her a mistake.

Pigman II wrote:

I love that phrase "a mistake"

Was he aiming for her mouth?

Quality

it doesnt bother me being the mistake, Sure I have two suprises of my own here!!!

RxQueen

see you learnin- thats the way to say it ! SURPRISE!

echosound

I'm definitely not the favourite, only problem with that is I'm an only child. :mad:

Pherekydes

Quality wrote: »

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

You shouldn't consider that as an insult to you; it's an insult to the other parent. Think about it. You didn't even exist at the moment of coitus.

RAFC

I'm one of four (all girls) and I can't honestly say Mum and Dad favoured any, of course we were all in bad books at times, but were never made feel less loved than any of the others.

Now, as mum of 4 (3 boys and 1 girl) I have to say I have no favourites. They all have the abiltiy to make me laugh (and cry ). The younger two do demand more of my attention, of course, but that does NOT take from the love I feel for the older two.

However, my 16 and 14yr olds, do feel that the younger 2 (10 & 7) get away with alot more that they did at the same age - but I think thats more from the fact that I too have grown up (nearly 40) and don't have the same fears that I had when I bubble wrapped them :D:D

I honestly don't think parents do favourites

ejmaztec

Quality wrote: »

I am the youngest of four, there is an 8 year gap between me and the next one up.

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

Perhaps the mistake was that they kidnapped you from the SuperValu car-park instead of the Dunnes one. I think it's time to get the DNA test. Your real parents are probably flying around the world in their private jet wondering who they're going to leave their vast fortune to.

daiixi

Quality wrote: »

I am the youngest of four, there is an 8 year gap between me and the next one up.

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

My father used to tell me while I was growing up (and usually when I was in trouble ) that he never wanted more than one child. That was until I informed him that his lack of contraception usage was his problem and not mine and that it was time he grew up and accepted responsibility for his actions. He kind of shut up about it after that.

I think my older sister is the favourite child.

Pherekydes

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Here maybe

www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=54762190&postcount=7

Or here maybe: http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=54758575&postcount=4

:rolleyes:

daiixi

daiixi wrote: »

My father used to tell me while I was growing up (and usually when I was in trouble ) that he never wanted more than one child.

Thats actually viscious. Bad daddy.

I'm the eldest child and every bad thing everyone does is always my fault, and punishable until such a time as we find out the youngest did it.
Which is why a havent a bit of sympathy for you Quality!

I wouldn't say there is a favorite in my house, we are all very close.

Crumble Froo

lol, my sister's a daddy's girl, and my bro's a mammy's boy.

i caused waaaaaaaaaaaay too much hassle, they kinda just love the other two out of default that they're not me

Davidius

Out of six one of my sisters is at the top. I don't know where I am though. They probably like the fact that I'm good at maths and such but they seem quite troubled by the fact that I'm socially retarded. Probably 3rd or 4th.

SarahMc

During recent drink filled evening with siblings, it emerged we all secretly thought we were the favourite with our parents (both passed away).

Now there lies clever parenting.

Lockstep

Quality wrote: »

I am the youngest of four, there is an 8 year gap between me and the next one up.

My dad told me a few years ago that I was a mistake!!:(:(:(

Yup my dad told me I was an accident as well.

00112984

I'm the youngest of 6 and there's a gap of 8 years between me and the next one. Mom says I was an accident but not a mistake.

I'm the only one who doesn't live near home so, anytime I'm around for a few days, I'm the favourite just cos of the novelty factor.

GhostInTheRuins

I don't think it's favouritism or anything but my younger brother (who is quite a good few years younger than the rest of us) gets away with so much crap and nonsense that we would never have gotten away with it's not funny.

Jay P

I read somewhere, or heard on the radio, that parents, whether they like it or not, have a favorite, though mine are good at hiding who it is