Talk About Your Relationships Here

tbh

!!literally!! kick that ho to the kerb IB.

John Mason

tbh wrote: »

!!literally!! kick that ho to the kerb IB.

hey you know me teebies, i am a soft touch

tbh

that's why I'm reminding you not to do it

John Mason

tbh wrote: »

that's why I'm reminding you not to do it

oh okay, then will tell him that you said he couldnt move in:D

mollybird

Oh its the worst when you have strong chemistry with someone, its like it plays with your mind

Even after you've come to your senses and realised how stupid you acted,where all the mistakes were made, what you/he did wrong and when your over him ages later etc ..the chemistry is still there and its the worst.

mollybird wrote: »

god where do i start with mine. our whole relationship was messed up. i had been with his twin brother a few months before hand. he never took me out in public. he kept me a secret for 4 years pretty much and for that i didn't have a chance to get with my current boyfriend sooner as my current boyfriend is his mate. he didn't want me being with anyone else but him. and we had such a strong chemistry we know how to get to each other and we still do i would think. what saved me is that he went and got married to an american for a green card. says it's love ya right not when he cheated on her twice with moi ! he went traveling for a year with mates and i was devasted with a girl he was seeing. when he came back it was so hard to see him. i shook his hand as i could not bear getting a hug from him ( his were the best) as soon as i broke up my fella he was over to me and was trying to kiss me all night. christ the chemistry was electifying. ill never forgive him for moving in on me again and then for keeping me and my current guy apart for his greediness

irishbird wrote: »

oh okay, then will tell him that you said he couldnt move in:D

Don't have contact with him for a few weeks until your safe in knowing he has somewhere else in case you think he won't get the hint!

ashisback

daiixi wrote: »

tbh I'd be pretty pissed if you crashed my car too. If I had a car that is. And I'm a girl. Next time just don't crash it, right? No problem!

i didnt crash the car he did

SW81

Another Maynooth girl, how many of us are in here?!!

ashisback, don't mind him. Boys and their toys, he'll get over it.

ashisback

ya he has forgotten about it wont even drive it now

Rozabeez

Hes?

G'wan the 'nooth.

John Mason

coolsmileygirl wrote: »

Don't have contact with him for a few weeks until your safe in knowing he has somewhere else in case you think he won't get the hint!

i couldnt care less if he had to sleep on the street tbh:D

John Mason

ashisback wrote: »

whats up with men :mad: my boyfriend drives me mad all he cares about is hes car and hes mates. the other day someone crashed into the car and he was all pissed of with me like it was my fault i told him it was hes fault he treats the car like hes baby but not me god men get a life

what do you ladies think :mad:

Men are great. if you you dont like the one you have, just get another one. I am really not sure what the problem is here

LouOB

Unless Im No1 in his life - forget it

I refuse to be someone else's 2nd when I rate them as No1
Go fishing

ashisback

hes not from maynooth i am hes from cork

Maximilian

ashisback wrote: »

whats up with men :mad: my boyfriend drives me mad all he cares about is hes car and hes mates. the other day someone crashed into the car and he was all pissed of with me like it was my fault i told him it was hes fault he treats the car like hes baby but not me god men get a life

what do you ladies think :mad:

Tsk. Its his own fault for letting a chick near it.

Now, must dash - the exit beckons.

Kurumba

ashisback wrote: »

whats up with men :mad: my boyfriend drives me mad all he cares about is hes car and hes mates. the other day someone crashed into the car and he was all pissed of with me like it was my fault i told him it was hes fault he treats the car like hes baby but not me god men get a life

what do you ladies think :mad:

Well if its any consolation, my bf is totally and utterly obsessed with football. I actually think its getting worse. It's very worrying all the same. How can men talk about football so much? Why would they even want to?!
He insists on talking to me about it all of the time when he knows i really couldn't give a fiddlers. This whole Ireland manger debacle is beginning to consume him and its driving me bonkers at this stage!!! If Terry Venables gets the job..well put it this way, i'm off!! Couldn't listen to another second of it!
I feel your pain sister!!

panda100

Uh worst day ever.
I bumped into the 'love of my life' (at the time) ex today. He gave me the look of death and we just ignored each other though he said hello to my friend.
Im so sick of ex's not being friends with me.I always try and be civil and friendly with them but not one of my ex's speaks to me.Its upsetting

tbh

panda100 wrote: »

Uh worst day ever.
I bumped into the 'love of my life' (at the time) ex today. He gave me the look of death and we just ignored each other though he said hello to my friend.
Im so sick of ex's not being friends with me.I always try and be civil and friendly with them but not one of my ex's speaks to me.Its upsetting

take it as a compliment. You broke them GOOD!

Rozabeez

LouOB wrote: »

Unless Im No1 in his life - forget it

I refuse to be someone else's 2nd when I rate them as No1
Go fishing

That's quite selfish advice considering the fact that they have a kid. Wouldn't you like a bf to put your kid first?

LouOB

I dont have children at the moment - OP didnt say about kids. sorry

Niamho!

Clare Bear wrote: »

Meh, I'm off to Lesbania!

let me know how that goes!
I keep threatening.....not happening.....

Rozabeez

Clare, marry me.

SW81

What did you do to them that makes them all dislike you panda?

SW81

Yeah let us know how the whole Lesbian thing works out for ya, I'd be interested, it's the only thing I have left at this stage!:D

Maple

panda100 wrote: »

Uh worst day ever.
I bumped into the 'love of my life' (at the time) ex today. He gave me the look of death and we just ignored each other though he said hello to my friend.
Im so sick of ex's not being friends with me.I always try and be civil and friendly with them but not one of my ex's speaks to me.Its upsetting

ah chick thats crap. But maybe thats the only way they can deal with the relationship ending. Sometimes if someone feels really strongly and it then ends, it just hurts too much so they amputate you from their life. It can be a case of all or nothing.

Just try not to let it get to you hon. *big hugs*

Rob_l

Clare Bear wrote: »

Meh, I'm off to Lesbania!

Do you mean lesbos

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lesbos_Island

SW81

Lesbania is an entirely different place

Rob_l

SW81 wrote: »

Lesbania is an entirely different place

I was only trying to help typical stroppy lesbian

Wibbs

With the exes that left me with the exception of one I would be civil and that's about it. Any small talk beyond "Hello", "hope you're well" and "goodbye" is pretty much off limits. Generally their existence is acknowledged politely but that's about it. They lost the right to anything but my manners, when they left and by the methods they took to do so. The one I do talk to, while hurting me at the time was much more mature and clearly cared about me and my feelings even though hers had changed. Nice person basically.

With exes I've left I would be friendlier but wouldn't be too friendly in case it made them uncomfortable. I've found that if love was discussed and it splits down the line true friendship is almost impossible. Now many may disagree, but I've also noticed that what people define as friendship often isn't anyway. With ex relationships there can be an imbalance where one is more invested in hope than the other. Where there was real chemistry and passion, friendship is frankly a downgrade. I don't do downgrades. Any ex that dumped me and then said "let's be friends" or even "you're my best friend", got short shrift from me.

With casual exes where the L word didn't come up I would be the same as I would be with anyone I knew. One or two are friends.

gcgirl

irishbird wrote: »

hey you know me teebies, i am a soft touch

Been there burnt the t shirt several million times!

Wibbs

Wibbs wrote: »

With the exes that left me with the exception of one I would be civil and that's about it. Any small talk beyond "Hello", "hope you're well" and "goodbye" is pretty much off limits. Generally their existence is acknowledged politely but that's about it. They lost the right to anything but my manners, when they left and by the methods they took to do so. The one I do talk to, while hurting me at the time was much more mature and clearly cared about me and my feelings even though hers had changed. Nice person basically.

With exes I've left I would be friendlier but wouldn't be too friendly in case it made them uncomfortable. I've found that if love was discussed and it splits down the line true friendship is almost impossible. Now many may disagree, but I've also noticed that what people define as friendship often isn't anyway. With ex relationships there can be an imbalance where one is more invested in hope than the other. Where there was real chemistry and passion, friendship is frankly a downgrade. I don't do downgrades. Any ex that dumped me and then said "let's be friends" or even "you're my best friend", got short shrift from me.

With casual exes where the L word didn't come up I would be the same as I would be with anyone I knew. One or two are friends.

I think everyone should adapt this attitude ...**** all this ex nonsense they are for a reason like the ones given in this thread
I wish i had of listening to people's advice on my ex's

but well said

/claps

Jules

Ok guys quit with the piss taking. OP he is a bloke everything is your fault, not matter if you had anything to do with it or not. Is he like that all of the time, and i also find it interesting that you say that his mum doesn't like you cuz you're doing a good job bring up your son and hers. Why are you bring up her son. I think you really need to look at your relationship and see if it is worth fighting for. Yes you want to do what is best for your child but, saying that your child will not have a happy life if his parents are not happy in the situation.

Any more lesiban jokes or off topic posting will result in a ban!

Semiosis

ashisback wrote: »

if i crashed my car hell give out to me cuz then he has to fix it sometimes he can be great he just gets me worked up with hes car its a new car and the money he spent on it was for our house but no it had to be for the car. he called a blond dope the other day sayin that we women are stupid i was so hurt

so the poor fella is great when it comes to fixing your car. a + in my books
what was the blond doing to invoke this remark from your fella?
most men like there cars a fact of life,Question for you,do you know how to change a fuse,can you hook up jump leads your self,can you change your oil filter yourself....if not learn and because your a dumb women maybe your should ask your bf for help on this.:cool:

Jules

Semiosis banned!

Slow Motion

Jules wrote: »

Ok guys quit with the piss taking. OP he is a bloke everything is your fault, not matter if you had anything to do with it or not. Is he like that all of the time, and i also find it interesting that you say that his mum doesn't like you cuz you're doing a good job bring up your son and hers. Why are you bring up her son. I think you really need to look at your relationship and see if it is worth fighting for. Yes you want to do what is best for your child but, saying that your child will not have a happy life if his parents are not happy in the situation.

Any more lesiban jokes or off topic posting will result in a ban!

Seems to me you're doing a bit of piss taking yourself, ban me for being off topic if you like, but I find it hard to take your response to the OP seriously when you preface it with such a sweeping generalisation. Have to say I'm a little surprised Jules.

Jules

In my experience when things go wrong people generally take things out on their partners, then afterwards apologise. Thats why i asked if he is like that all the time.

Im talking about my past general experiences. Im not insulting anyone directly.

And i wouldn't ban you for that semisos was banned for calling the op dumb. no other reason.

Slow Motion

Jules wrote: »

In my experience when things go wrong people generally take things out on their partners, then afterwards apologise. Thats why i asked if he is like that all the time.

Im talking about my past general experiences. Im not insulting anyone directly.

And i wouldn't ban you for that semisos was banned for calling the op dumb. no other reason.

Fair enough, I wasn't insulted , just wanted to make a point about generalisations, now back on topic! OP while it's good and healthy to vent and get others opinions at the same time, you need to look seriously at your relationship with your SO. If it's bad you need to consider your options, and staying together for the sake of a child should not be the only reason, it wont work in the long run and will just build up resentment. You need to talk (and listen:)) to each other and see what can be done.

Dudess

nipplenuts wrote: »

and the basta*d stole all your punctuation too!

Tee hee!

OP, I take exception to you calling the thread "men". Your boyfriend is not representative of all men. Maybe you should start a thread in Personal Issues? Although you'll probably get more support over there if you use punctuation - not being smart, it's just that it's sometimes difficult to understand what you're saying. I remember a mod over there saying that very thing to someone who posted without using punctuation.

Weidii

Clare Bear wrote: »

Meh, I'm off to Lesbania!

Take me with you

Jules

Weidii banned for one week.

You should read all of the thread!

Jules

Excuse the merge but please can we keep the relationsip rates to the one thread... this is not PI!

Clare Bear

Starlight I know how you're feeling. In this day and age when you break up with someone and break contact there's still ways of seeing what they're up to like Bebo.

With me, I haven't deleted my recent ex from my Bebo because I think it'd be a petty thing to do (in my situation, not necessarily yours) but I won't let myself look at his either. I don't want to know what he's up to, none of my business anyway because we're not together anymore but I just find it a lot easier not to go near his page. It's there but I won't look at it. Now if that's too difficult for you to do maybe you should delete your ex boyfriend's page. Constantly looking at it and reading in to every little thing WILL wreck your head. So delete it if you have to. If you're strong enough to keep it there without looking at it then do that. Whatever you think you can deal with best.

As for meeting someone new, you will don't worry, you're only 22, I know you liked him a lot but he obviously wasn't meant for you. Go out with your mates and have fun. You might meet someone this weekend or you might not meet someone for years, but he wasn't right for you. Now it's time for you to move on from him, your special person is out there and you'll look back and smile at this in years to come and barely remember his name. Best of luck.

Orlee

I've had a stalker, a posessive nutter and a dirty cheat

I think if I started then I'd never stop!

mollybird

ladies,
at one o clock today my boyfriend finally gets in touch with me. yesterday he had a very busy day in work and was in bits. so didn't hear from him much. i sent him the odd txt during the day about different things and during the night and not a word from him. and i sent one or two txt's this monring and still nothing till now.

he was out with him mates drinking last night after a very hard day. now usually when he has a hard day he is only fit for bed not out for drinks with his mates. so he could go out with his mates but not send an odd txt back to me. im seriously pissed off with him and ive pretty much told him. and it's hte first time ive been able to be pissed at him and tell him.

AND NOW he is only reading the txt THIS VERY MINUTE!!

what the hell!!!

the GALL

hey girl
chill out the man had a hard day and went on the beer. When a man tells a women he's had a hard day it means he's had a hard day, he's going for pints and would prefare not to be disturbed. So what if he didn't answer his phone. If you can't trust him or you cant handle him going out without you that's your problem not his.
Do the chap a favour and let him on. Surly if you loved him you could let him go. He sound like a great partner.:)

Balmed Out

I reckon you owe him a big apology.

mollybird

heh guys im so relaxed bout what he does always. this is the first time im a bit pissed. he knows i never ever get like this. we all ready made up. i can never be mad at him for long.

azezil

You should make him a nice steak dinner and apologize for being so over bearing and possessive, that poor poor man.

Oryx

Men need to chill out sometimes. Hed had people on at him all day, probably, and just needed to go out and just look after himself without being responsible for you or anyone else. Its normal. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you.... he just needed me time!

And texts are the worst invention for the frustration they cause. You send one. And sit. And tap your fingers. And think youre being ignored. And it builds in your head, while the recipient is getting on with things blissfully unaware.

Give the man a break (and a hug)

Niamho!

sorry Mollybird i know us girls are suppsoed to stick together but i would kind of have to agree with the boys. i would send a Text but if i didnt get a reply i'd leave it at that and not get any way slightly obsessive (Sorry)
maybe i mjust not one of those Girls...

Let him sweat!! he'l eventually give in!!

Balmed Out

You really should draw up a list of things you can do to try to make up for your awful behaviour.