What is is with guys and texting?

445279.ie

Hi all. New to this forum and think it's great.

Working with a guy for the last 10 months. Lots of flirtation from the word go and lots of sexy texts.

Anyway, we got together at the christmas party (cliché - I know!!). Came back to work after new years and everything was grand. He keeps telling me going home every day to text him.

Well I do but nada, nothing, zilch. Hasn't responded to one of my texts.

Now he has a girlfriend so I don't text him at certain times, but still nothing. I emailed him to ask if I should stop texting him but he said no he loved when I text him.

It's so bloody frustrating!

Rant over :mad:

G86

He.has.a.girlfriend

I don't mean to sound bitchy but thats the fact here. Why are you texting him at all?

rockergirl

It sounds like he wants you to boost his ego. So he can look at his phone and go oh, look there's a text (esp if it's a sexy one) from another girl... why doesn't he initiate texts?. The fact he never replies, yet you STILL send him texts.... his head probably can't fit out the door.
If he liked you enough, then he wouldn't be with his girlfriend, he'd be with you.
If he already cheated on his gf... then that's not fair on her.
Maybe it's a moral thing for me, I don't know, but I could never pursue a guy who was with someone.. or let them wreck my head a bit!... as I'd feel too bad for doing so for his gf. If girls didn't cheat with guys they knew already were taken... then there'd be a hell of a lot less 'ooh noo, he cheated on me heartbreak' going around.

MagicMarker

DCC160 wrote: »

Hi all. New to this forum and think it's great.

Working with a guy for the last 10 months. Lots of flirtation from the word go and lots of sexy texts.

Anyway, we got together at the christmas party (cliché - I know!!). Came back to work after new years and everything was grand. He keeps telling me going home every day to text him.

Well I do but nada, nothing, zilch. Hasn't responded to one of my texts.

Now he has a girlfriend so I don't text him at certain times, but still nothing. I emailed him to ask if I should stop texting him but he said no he loved when I text him.

It's so bloody frustrating!

Rant over :mad:

The words 'cop' and 'on' come to mind.

445279.ie

But before christmas he was the one initiating all the contact by texting me constantly

SarahSassy

"Here little troll.":rolleyes:

rockergirl

He charmed you enough to get together at that party... you said it was before Christmas he was initiating texts. Maybe, he just wanted to get together with you+ isn't that bothered since. You seem to be more into him than he's into you now though. If you continue sending him texts... just because he said he loves them... then he's got you wrapped around his little finger.He's clearly being a headwreck. Maybe if you tried to take your mind off the whole thing or find someone else. He sounds like an idiot.

AckwelFoley

*Big snyper action hero comes in to break up the snappy remarks at op in deepest macho voice*

The problem here with this guy (in his case a little problem) is that he sees himself as a "player".. playin the fielld and buffering his ego to make himself feel good and compensate for lacking qualities in more aparent areas.

I know i was that guy.

Im recovering.

Slowly.

There is nothing wrong with it particularly, but it does tend to confuse some women at times.

Women do it too im sure, but i dont think as much..

metaoblivia

Stop texting him. And at work, only speak to him in a professional manner. He has a girlfriend and its not you. You need to let it be.

445279.ie

Do you know what? Yer bloody right.

I've just deleted his number from my phone.

And in relation to work - it'll be on a professional basis from now on

Thanks for making me see the light

AckwelFoley

Your welcome.

My fee is €20

Cathmandooo

Ahh ffs, i may have a few drinks on me (sorry girlies with the coffee, I really couldnt make that and have no idea of rathmines / ranelagh, but went for dinner and a few drinks locally with my gf after my drop off, sorry!!)

yes, em he's an asshole and you should forget him!! seriously! he's seriously only trying to make himself look good, what a bleeedin sap, kick him to the kerb

Edit: I typed 'bf' instead of 'gf', whooops!

embee

*boggle*

I know you've deleted his number at this stage, but wtf?

He has a girlfriend!

Jules

Think this has run its course and we have an outcome, best decision, he has a girlfriend he is off limits.

End of!