Parted-at-birth twins 'married'

The_Conductor

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/7182817.stm

A pair of twins who were adopted by separate families as babies got married without knowing they were brother and sister, a peer told the House of Lords.

A court annulled the British couple's union after they discovered their true relationship, Lord Alton said.

The peer - who was told of the case by a High Court judge involved - said the twins felt an "inevitable attraction".

He said the case showed how important it was for children to be able to find out about their biological parents.

Details of the of the identities of the twins involved have been kept secret, but Lord Alton said the pair did not realise they were related until after their marriage.

'Truth will out'

The former Liberal Democrat MP raised the couple's case during a House of Lords debate on the Human Fertility and Embryology Bill in December.

"They were never told that they were twins," he told the Lords.

"They met later in life and felt an inevitable attraction, and the judge had to deal with the consequences of the marriage that they entered into and all the issues of their separation."

He told the BBC News website that their story raises the wider issue of the importance of strengthening the rights of children to know the identities of their biological parents.


We are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves
Pam Hodgkins
Adults Affected by Adoption

"If you start trying to conceal someone's identity, sooner or later the truth will out," he said.

"And if you don't know you are biologically related to someone, you may become attracted to them and tragedies like this may occur."

Pam Hodgkins, chief executive officer of the charity Adults Affected by Adoption (NORCAP) said there had been previous cases of separated siblings being attracted to each other.

"We have a resistance, a very strong incest taboo where we are aware that someone is a biological relative," she said.

"But when we are unaware of that relationship, we are naturally drawn to people who are quite similar to ourselves.

'Incredibly rare'

"And of course there is unlikely to be anyone more similar to any individual than their sibling."

Mo O'Reilly, director of child placement for the British Association for Adoption and Fostering, said the situation was traumatic for the people involved, but incredibly rare.

"Thirty or 40 years ago it would have been more likely that twins be separated and, brought up without knowledge of each other," she said.

Today, however, adopted children grow up with a greater knowledge of their birth families - and organisations try to place brothers and sisters together.

If that were not possible, the siblings would still have some form of contact with each other.

"This sad case illustrates why, over the last 20-30 years, the shift to openness in adoption was so important," Ms O'Reilly added.

HashSlinging

Oh oh... thats very sad, probably why they got on so well.

holly_johnson

That's shocking! What are the odds of that happening?
What a sad story for the people involved. It definitely highlights the need for adopted people to know their history.

The_Conductor

Yes, its incredibly sad for those involved. It does highlight what is known as GSA- or Genetic Sexual Attraction (by psychologists), in a very sad way. I mentioned the above case to an EO in the General Register's Office earlier today- he said it couldn't happen here, as the permission to marry form would never issue (apparently they spent quite some time on an exercise identifying adopted people in the main records for this very reason).

I suppose its only when very sad cases such as this one come into the public arena that it begins to resonate that adopted people do have a right to information, in a better manner than the tidbits that are drip fed to us by the Adoption Authority and the agencies, who seem to view most of us as nuisances.