Valentines Day- for all you Valentines Questions and Comments

Dudess · 09-02-2008 10:23pm

Lady Lainy wrote: »

Ah now i dont think there's anything wrong with a bit of romance. Me and my boyfriend always been very close. He's in wicklow and I'm in cork. we dont see each other that much, so we thought we'd make the effor for valintines day. Don't think thats a crime.

We're going out to dinner and i've heard he's also gotten me some flowers & wine to chill out after dinner with a movie....shrek 3....oh that boy knows how to get me going.

Yeah but why not do that any day, rather than making a point of it on one specific day just because it's "the thing to do" and it's a marketing person's dream? Far more sincere and meaningful if people just do it off their own bat.

Im_No_Superman · 10-02-2008 5:45am

Im going out with my girlfriend 3 months now and my plan for Valentines is that I will cook up a nice meal (hopefully)

, dress up smart (suit,etc), a nice bottle of wine, choclates,card and teddy. My only question now is should I tell her I will cook her dinner, etc or try keep it a surprise!

rain on · 10-02-2008 2:10pm

Dudess wrote: »

A black metal CD? Now THAT is romantic!

And I actually mean that because it's something he'd like, rather than something useless.

I reckon nothing says "I love you" like "grrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrghhhhhhh"

Anti · 10-02-2008 4:18pm

Jules wrote: »

Our first valentines day together.. last year we were living in different countries. All i expect is flowers/small teddy and a card!

wonder is he reading this?

Damn right i am !

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar · 10-02-2008 5:58pm

you'll of course notice she said 'all i expect' not 'all i want'

tread carefully anti.

Gordon · 10-02-2008 6:06pm

Just get her a card with a teddy and flowers on it!

Jules · 11-02-2008 12:23pm

Quiet you Gordo!

Mrs Roy Keane · 11-02-2008 5:10pm

Any ideas?

All welcome

Dragan · 11-02-2008 5:12pm

Well, it is a Thursday Night so, i imagine, rather than allow yourself to fall into a heavy depression over a marketing machine you could just do what you alwasy do an Thursday night?

LouOB · 11-02-2008 5:37pm

The same thing we do every night - Try to take over the WORLD

Dragan · 11-02-2008 5:41pm

LouOB wrote: »

The same thing we do every night - Try to take over the WORLD

Freaky, i watched a LOAD of episodes of Pinky and the Brain last night!

Whispered · 11-02-2008 5:42pm

to prove their mousey worth la la la la la la...................

I'm not single, but a very good friend of mine is and only since recently too, so a group of us are meeting up on friday night for drinky's and nice food. Fellas and girls. Going as friends, not as couples. Can't wait!

Clare Bear · 11-02-2008 5:42pm

Well I was planning on being single for Valentine's this year but I'm not now so I have to do the slushy thing (oh I love it really!) but I was planning on going out with a couple of single friends to bitch about men....OP either go out with your mates and mock all the sappy couples (some of whom probably hate eachother really) or stay in and burn old photos of any ex boyfriends.

That or just do whatever you usually do on any Thursday night, it's no big deal really. Try to ignore it if you can.

Clare Bear · 11-02-2008 5:44pm

Dragan wrote: »

Freaky, i watched a LOAD of episodes of Pinky and the Brain last night!

So did I! I watch it a lot though so nothing new there, love it!

Dudess · 11-02-2008 5:44pm

Dragan wrote: »

Well, it is a Thursday Night so, i imagine, rather than allow yourself to fall into a heavy depression over a marketing machine you could just do what you alwasy do an Thursday night?

Yay!!! Can I marry you?

Yeah OP, just do whatever you'd normally do on a Thursday night, which I presume is staying in if you've work the next morning.

Tar.Aldarion · 11-02-2008 5:46pm

Narf!

Dragan · 11-02-2008 5:48pm

Clare Bear wrote: »

Well I was planning on being single for Valentine's this year but I'm not now so I have to do the slushy thing (oh I love it really!) but I was planning on going out with a couple of single friends to bitch about men....OP either go out with your mates and mock all the sappy couples (some of whom probably hate eachother really) or stay in and burn old photos of any ex boyfriends.

Ah don't bitch about us all! Some of us can cook. We can carry heavy things sometimes. Occassionally we have big shoulders just ripe for carrying a few boxes of shoes and hats and such. Hell, some of us even watch Pinky and the Brain!

Go on, be a star and on Thursday night as you eagerly await tearing men down just spare even a brief thought for that one nice guy.

His name is Sean and he lives in Devon.

I imagine!

missbusy · 11-02-2008 5:48pm

I am going out with someone and so far, no plans for Valentines night .

Does anyone really have a truely romantic valentines anymore ??! Am i missing out on something !? :eek:

LivingDeadGirl · 11-02-2008 5:48pm

Not single but I won't be seeing the OH on the night in question, so I'll probably just watch movies, heh possibly love themed ones, have to match the trend of the day!

Clare Bear · 11-02-2008 5:53pm

Dragan wrote: »

Go on, be a star and on Thursday night as you eagerly await tearing men down just spare even a brief thought for that one nice guy.

His name is Sean and he lives in Devon.

I imagine!

Really? I thought his name was "Doesn't exist"??

Ha ha only joking, ah yeah ye have your uses now and again

Dragan · 11-02-2008 5:56pm

Dudess wrote: »

Yay!!! Can I marry you?

Yes. But it all depends. Is it a marrige of convenience or a marrige of love?

My mother told me to do one, but not the other and I can never remember which.

Finally……you would , in the very least, have to buy me a drink first.

missbusy wrote: »

Does anyone really have a truely romantic valentines anymore ??! Am i missing out on something !? :eek:

Well, this time last year my ex was arriving home from a day in work that she described as "hell" to find roses and chocolates on her balcony to cheer her up. ( That’s two stories up, those adds weren't messing and delivery such goods can be risk let me tell ya! ) then I arrived in the door with the items for dinner and some bubbly. A bath was ran and she was put in it while I cooked dinner, which was beautiful might I add.

Then it was wine on the couch with The Cake Sale playing and a nice evening spent chatting. Then bed.

How is that for effort for ya? And all this for a lass who didn't really care a whole lot in the end.

So……should it all be down to the boy to make the effort?

Lux23 · 11-02-2008 5:57pm

There is a bitter and twisted singles night in the Baggot Inn. Could be fun or very depressing.

Dudess · 11-02-2008 6:07pm

Clare Bear wrote: »

Try to ignore it if you can.

Yeah, some single people almost feel obliged to feel bad about being single on 14th February but it's ok every other night? The couples are still there every other night. You're still single every other night. You don't (well you shouldn't) feel bad or inadequate then so why punish yourself on February 14th?

Lux23 wrote: »

There is a bitter and twisted singles night in the Baggot Inn. Could be fun or very depressing.

It's only depressing if you make it so.

Dragan · 11-02-2008 6:09pm

Dudess wrote: »

It's only depressing if you make it so.

Nope. It's only depressing when that chick and the guy she met who think they whole reason they got broken up with a few weeks beforehand is so they could meet, get hammered and then inflict a duet version of "Too Lost in You" by the Sugababes get up and sing.

cuckoo · 11-02-2008 6:10pm

As a single gal I know that it is important to make the effort to show myself that i care about me.

So....

Option 1: spend Wednesday evening doing a face mask, hair conditioning treatment, shave legs, etc. Get to bed v late after all that effort. Thursday evening whip out the fancy underthings, do my hair and make up, cook a lovely meal (for one) and have 'love actually' in the DVD player, candles burning and flower petals leaving a trail to the bed. Spend much time in front of mirror telling myself i look only lovely. Admire the huge A4+ card that i sent myself. Make sure i text everyone in my phone to tell them about the card.

Option 2: check rte.ie for the tv listings, and maybe get an indian takeaway - which i will eat in my pjs. Do a bit of housework, sort out clean clothes, etc. Usual Thursday evening for me.

Option 3: pjs, bottle of wine and 'all by myself' on repeat on the cd player. Embracing my inner Bridget Jones (sadly, the single era, not the Colin Firth by my side era). *sniffle* Make drunken phone calls to exes at approx 1.30am. Pass out by 2am.

Think i'll be going with Option 2!

Clare Bear · 11-02-2008 6:12pm

Lux23 wrote: »

There is a bitter and twisted singles night in the Baggot Inn. Could be fun or very depressing.

Really? Like it's actually an event? Ah I bet that would be good craic.

smurfbaby · 11-02-2008 6:16pm

Hmm, I dont really buy into the whole Valentines thing. I'm not into flowers and chocolates, and I dont think people should be pressurised into doing something, nor should single people feel depressed.

I do love going for dinner though, and we go out every year. People say we're crazy and being ripped off, and it's so commercialised blah blah blah, but we enjoy it so why not? Sure we're keeping the restaurants of Dublin in business, but we do that every week of the year! I like the excuse to treat ourselves to a fancy meal on a week night, and not be the only people in the place. And before someone pops up and says why not do it any other day of the year-we do! We go out for dinner all the time, and cook each other nice meals as well. I just don't see why we shouldn't go out on Valentines just because other's might say we're sheep!

My attitude is live and let live. I don't believe in buying Valentines presents and spending a fortune of flowers and chocolates, but if it makes others happy I wouldn't dream of running it down.

SRFC90 · 11-02-2008 6:27pm

hope this is in the right place and is embraced by you all:)

it's about the whole upcoming valentines day thing!!:o

I'm 17, and recently (well nearly a month) back with my previous girlfriend after a 2 month kinda break! we're geting on really well at the moment too.

thing is, im not sure what she's expecting this valentines day, for me to plan something big or keep it low key. we've had quick convo's about it where she's asked 'have you thought about what ya wanna do on thursday' but nothing major!

if you were in this situation, what would you expect?

or even better, any tips on what i should do?

thanks a million:)

Dragan · 11-02-2008 6:32pm

Jesus.

Your 17! Why worry about this type of thing? Back in the day it was call round to the young girls house, get a glare of her dad because he ****ing KNEW what i was thinking and then go for a stroll down by the river.

I would have a rose, hand picked at great peril from the neighbours garden and would be happy out with a kiss for all my troubles.

And i'm only 26 for Christ sake!

Dude, don't sweat it mate. Do something with her/Get her something that YOU feel she will like. Make it genuine, not some rubber stamp version of what people thing Valentines Day should be.

angelbabyk · 11-02-2008 6:36pm

SRFC90 wrote: »

hope this is in the right place and is embraced by you all:)

it's about the whole upcoming valentines day thing!!:o

I'm 17, and recently (well nearly a month) back with my previous girlfriend after a 2 month kinda break! we're geting on really well at the moment too.

thing is, im not sure what she's expecting this valentines day, for me to plan something big or keep it low key. we've had quick convo's about it where she's asked 'have you thought about what ya wanna do on thursday' but nothing major!

if you were in this situation, what would you expect?

or even better, any tips on what i should do?

thanks a million:)

Dont worry yourself about these little details.. Just a nice card and spend the evening with her, be it going to the cinema or just a stroll she'll just be glad you want to spend the evening with her..