Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

dublinlady

Lemon Squeezy wrote: »

Well, it was our first month trying, and my period arrived bang on time!

We weren't having more sex than usual, but we still did it on average every second day throughout the month.

I read somewhere that, even if there are no medical issues on either the mother or the father's side, and even if you do everything absolutely right, you still only have a 25% chance of getting pregnant in any given month. Would you think that this is about right, or totally made up?

I'm just a little surprised - I suppose I'm used to the fear that's been drilled into me for years, that if you have unprotected sex, you WILL get pregnant immediately. :rolleyes: But I'm not too disappointed. We're in no rush, I won't be seeking medical advice anytime soon.

Takes the average healthy couple 7 months to conceive! It's like anything else - as soon as you want it it seems harder to get!!!
Took me 1&1/2 yrs and one miscarriage to fall pregnant with my little girl - I was 28, fit and healthy as was my hubbie. Regular cycles too. It's just one of those things! Try not to stress - just keep an eye on your cycle so I get to know it, but sounds like ur doing great with everything else! I really need to have more sex....I don't think my babies gonba be conceived without it.. Lol!!!

javagal

Wow, so many BFP's on here!

Congrats everyone!!

Zoe was 3 weeks yesterday and I am studying for exams
Sleep where arth thou!

stickybean

55 days and FINALLY AF arrived. Not sure what to do this month, was going to try Agnus Castus to see if I can O earlier.

Any ideas?

yellow hen

stickybean wrote: »

55 days and FINALLY AF arrived. Not sure what to do this month, was going to try Agnus Castus to see if I can O earlier.

Any ideas?

God that's bad stickybean. Defo try Angus castus. It shortened my cycle from 42 days to 30. I only stopped using it because my periods were v heavy but I subsequently found out that was probably linked to something else.

Ms2011

stickybean wrote: »

55 days and FINALLY AF arrived. Not sure what to do this month, was going to try Agnus Castus to see if I can O earlier.

Any ideas?

I took AC & it brought my ovulation day from day 27 to day 13 & that is the cycle I got pregnant on.
I would say give it a go & best of luck!

dublinlady

Ms2011 wrote: »

stickybean wrote: »

55 days and FINALLY AF arrived. Not sure what to do this month, was going to try Agnus Castus to see if I can O earlier.

Any ideas?

I took AC & it brought my ovulation day from day 27 to day 13 & that is the cycle I got pregnant on.
I would say give it a go & best of luck!

I wonder can u take it to bring ur period back after having a baby?

Ms2011

dublinlady wrote: »

Ms2011 wrote: »

stickybean wrote: »

55 days and FINALLY AF arrived. Not sure what to do this month, was going to try Agnus Castus to see if I can O earlier.

Any ideas?

I took AC & it brought my ovulation day from day 27 to day 13 & that is the cycle I got pregnant on.
I would say give it a go & best of luck!

I wonder can u take it to bring ur period back after having a baby?

Dunno but I got some breakthrough bleeding between periods when I first started to take it??

Hopeful35

Hi

What do ya do when you've to do Dqay 21 Bloods and it falls on a weekend, my doctor does'nt work weekends

dublinlady

Hopeful35 wrote: »

Hi

What do ya do when you've to do Dqay 21 Bloods and it falls on a weekend, my doctor does'nt work weekends

Are ur cycles always 28 days?

I ask cos if 29 - do it on day 22, if 27 day cycle do it ok day 20 etc

Hopeful35

dublinlady wrote: »

Are ur cycles always 28 days?

I ask cos if 29 - do it on day 22, if 27 day cycle do it ok day 20 etc

I have PCOS and am very very irregular, Can go months without. We've started fertiliity treatment and had to take Provera to encourage it to start, which it has, and now my Day 21 now falls on a weekend so not sure where to go for the bloode test

dublinlady

Hopeful35 wrote: »

dublinlady wrote: »

Are ur cycles always 28 days?

I ask cos if 29 - do it on day 22, if 27 day cycle do it ok day 20 etc

I have PCOS and am very very irregular, Can go months without. We've started fertiliity treatment and had to take Provera to encourage it to start, which it has, and now my Day 21 now falls on a weekend so not sure where to go for the bloode test

I think on the thread you started about this someone answered exactly as I would here - I.e 7 days previous to period.. Which is hard to tell in your case! I am not sure but I would say day 22 would be ok?

I still have no period and convinced myself I was pregnant - even tho I have actually no symptoms whatsoever!!!!! Did a test anyway - it was so negative - not a faint whisper of a line! So def not - think I'm going to go back to acupuncture to see if it will help being my cycle back!

I'd go to the doc but I can't admit to her I'm trying..... Your not meant to try within a yr of a section.. But considering it took us a year and a half last time I'm not waiting around!!!!

My friend told me at the weekend she's 8 weeks pregnant... She got married and they started trying 8 weeks ago...... I said she is so lucky - her reply ( knowing my history and loss of 2 babies etc) was - but sure we were trying , why wouldn't it happen! I nearly smacked her.. Didn't even occur to her I'd find that hurtful.
Only for I know it's not the norm to get pregnant straight away I'd be completely depressed!!
There's a def lack of innocence about the whole thing anyone on this thread has to endure! The pretty fluffiness if it all... For us it's more like OPK's, mucus and temping....

Sorry I'm in a bad mood !

meggysmom

Dublinlady,I understand yuor frustration as i'm sure everyone on this board does,the question on why us or why not us are all consuming,I really felt for the long 19 months it to for us to get pregnant with #2 that it just would never happen,although compared to some people it's not a long time,everyones situation is different and yes some people are so clueless to other peoples feelings on this matter,sorry your having a low day,I hope you get your BFP real soon:)

dublinlady

In an effort to be pro active I bought (cos I've nothing other to spend my zero money on!!) the clearblue fertility monitor. Then realised you need to do it from day one - 5 of cycle.... Sure I have no cycle...!! So just to throw money down the drain I'm lying to it and pretending im on day 5 and will see what it says - at least this way I get to pee on a stick..., sone excitment for me!
That's how sad I am!!!
My husband would kill me if he knew....

DetectivFoxtrot

Mustering up the strength to tell you guys that we lost bean #3, obviously we are devastated but have to just dust ourselves off and get on with it.

Life, right now = ugh


We will go for a review in a few weeks and take it from there...

yellow hen

oh DFT, there's really nothing I can say. I wish with all my heart this didnt happen to people, it's truly horrific. Talk to your partner and talk to a specialist when you feel ready. In the meantime, take time for yourself to deal with it.
Take care. xx

bubbaloo

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

Mustering up the strength to tell you guys that we lost bean #3, obviously we are devastated but have to just dust ourselves off and get on with it.

Life, right now = ugh


We will go for a review in a few weeks and take it from there...

DFT I am so sorry. It is an horrific time. I have avoided coming on here in the past 4 weeks because I hadn't the strength either to say that we have also just suffered our 3rd loss. Went for our 13 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat. We had to name our little boy and bury him yesterday.

It is a dark time, filled with sadness and anger and only time will make it possible to live with this. The only positive i can take from it is that i truly know who my friends are and how much support we have. Take care of yourself. X

DetectivFoxtrot

bubbaloo wrote: »

DFT I am so sorry. It is an horrific time. I have avoided coming on here in the past 4 weeks because I hadn't the strength either to say that we have also just suffered our 3rd loss. Went for our 13 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat. We had to name our little boy and bury him yesterday.

It is a dark time, filled with sadness and anger and only time will make it possible to live with this. The only positive i can take from it is that i truly know who my friends are and how much support we have. Take care of yourself. X

Oh hon... I have no words for you. how cruel life is. I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy.
I am finding this one the worst (not physically but emotionally). I'm going to get some counselling (finally - I have been hemming and hawing for months), do you think it would help you?

For the first time I feel kids are not on the cards for us, and that is the most devastating thing of all. I also think I will not be able to suffer another loss without actually having a breakdown, I came very close this time...

Hang in there my love and if you need to talk please PM me or post here. The ladies on here are wonderful xxx BIG HUGS

Lucyfur

bubbaloo wrote: »

DFT I am so sorry. It is an horrific time. I have avoided coming on here in the past 4 weeks because I hadn't the strength either to say that we have also just suffered our 3rd loss. Went for our 13 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat. We had to name our little boy and bury him yesterday.

It is a dark time, filled with sadness and anger and only time will make it possible to live with this. The only positive i can take from it is that i truly know who my friends are and how much support we have. Take care of yourself. X

Oh sweetheart:(

I don't know what to say xxx Be good to yourself and do what feels right for you and your other half.

DFT, you know I'm always at the end of the phone x

bubbaloo

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

bubbaloo wrote: »

DFT I am so sorry. It is an horrific time. I have avoided coming on here in the past 4 weeks because I hadn't the strength either to say that we have also just suffered our 3rd loss. Went for our 13 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat. We had to name our little boy and bury him yesterday.

It is a dark time, filled with sadness and anger and only time will make it possible to live with this. The only positive i can take from it is that i truly know who my friends are and how much support we have. Take care of yourself. X

Oh hon... I have no words for you. how cruel life is. I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy.
I am finding this one the worst (not physically but emotionally). I'm going to get some counselling (finally - I have been hemming and hawning for months), do you think it would help you?

For the first time I feel kids are not on the cards for us, and that is the most devastating thing of all. I also think I will not be able to suffer another loss without actually having a breakdown, I came very close this time...

Hang in there my love and if you need to talk please PM me or post here. The ladies on here are wonderful xxx BIG HUGS

Thanks DFT. I understand how you feel and if you don't have hope, what have you got? I've been to counselling before and it's fantastic. I will definitely go again and would suggest it for anyone going through infertility or bereavement. I hope it settles your thoughts and feelings somewhat. It's just good to talk to someone and not be judged.
We are so lucky to have a miracle little boy who is 3, conceived through Napro. We have decided we have the strength to try once more with Napro and if it doesn't happen we will be content with our little munchkin. He is truly heaven sent.
The offer of a pm/whinge is absolutely mutual......any time.
Take care xx

DetectivFoxtrot

bubbaloo wrote: »

...we will be content with our little munchkin. He is truly heaven sent.

No doubt he is

bubbaloo wrote: »

The offer of a pm/whinge is absolutely mutual......any time.

thank you hon

staker

Just reading ye're posts wrenches the heart out of me. No good way to say it but keep the hope and remember the pain you're going through will only make you stronger in the long run.
We were one of the lucky ones after a long time trying but never had to endure what some here have. Take care of yourselves DF and Bubbaloo:(

Ms2011

Bubba, DFT my greatest sympathies, I had hoped that your silence on the thread was a good sign, heartbroken to read your posts.
Please take care xx

yellow hen

bubbaloo wrote: »

DetectivFoxtrot wrote: »

Mustering up the strength to tell you guys that we lost bean #3, obviously we are devastated but have to just dust ourselves off and get on with it.

Life, right now = ugh


We will go for a review in a few weeks and take it from there...

DFT I am so sorry. It is an horrific time. I have avoided coming on here in the past 4 weeks because I hadn't the strength either to say that we have also just suffered our 3rd loss. Went for our 13 week scan to be told there was no heartbeat. We had to name our little boy and bury him yesterday.

It is a dark time, filled with sadness and anger and only time will make it possible to live with this. The only positive i can take from it is that i truly know who my friends are and how much support we have. Take care of yourself. X

So sorry to hear that too bubaloo. Life is cruel in so many ways. I went for counselling many many years ago for a very difficult time in my life. At first I found it no help, but gradually over time things improved. The pain of some things will never leave you and you will have bad days but for the most part you will learn to be happy again. I will be thinking of you and dft as I go to bed tonight and pray to whoever is up there listening that you get some relief soon. X

dublinlady

DFT & Bubbaloo
I'm so so very sorry. I really don't know what to say as words seem so very little right now I'm so sorry
Huge hugs xxx

barbiegirl

DFT and Bubbaloo I'm tearing up here. Sending you both all the prayers in the world. There isn't anything any of us can say other than we are here for you both.
Our angels are in heaven at peace, the pain and heartbreak is for us.

Digs

DFT & bubbaloo I am so so truly sorry, I just have no words. Take care of yourselves xxx

meggysmom

DFT and Bubbaloo so sorry to hear about your losses,yes life can be so cruel sometimes,I hope you both heal in time.My thoughts are with you both!

carolinespring

Bubbaloo and DFT,

I have no words to say other than I am truely, deeply sorry and I only to well understand the pain.


Caroline xxx

bubbaloo

Thank you everyone. It's been a very tough time, but isn't it strange how DFT's post gave me the strength to post my news too - we're already helping each other!

Hopefully things will settle and I'll be back on this thread obsessing with you all about 2WW symptoms before we get our BFPs!

stickybean

Hi girls, I had been of this thread for a few days, need a break from TTC.

Just reading back now, Bubba, DFT I am genuinely heartbroken for you both, how very say that your little angels have been taken straight to heaven. My thoughts and prayers are with you both xxx