Trying to conceive/Planned parenthood/Assisted Reproduction Chat thread.

Ms2011

Ah thrilled to bit for you Barbiegirl xx

Lucyfur

barbiegirl wrote: »

Hi guys thought i'd give you a quick update from my hospital bed. I now have two, yes two open tubes and no endo! It's not the end of the journey quite yet, I can now get pregnant but I need two more ops to ensure we can hold onto it. One next month to remove a fibroid and a second in February to fix a septum. Seemingly when my womb was forming it didn't do so properly and at the join I have a septum which would disrupt any pregnancy. I'd never be able to carry to term with it. This will then be the final op allowing us to get pregnant and hold onto it. It's been a very long journey but it looks like we're about 12 weeks from the end.

Never be afraid to get a second opinion and if anyone needs contact details for my miracle worker let me know.

Thrilled for you

Take it easy, relax and recover well xxx

Neyite

It must be a relief to know its finally getting fixed Barbiegirl. Rest properly for your recovery because you'll have a lot to be doing in a few months

Digs

Delighted the end is in sight for you and your partner barbiegirl. A much deserved happy ending is on the way in 2013. Fingers crossed for you xo

stickybean

Ah barbiegirl! I am so happy to hear your good news A good positive story

dublinlady

Great news barbiegirl wishing you a speedy recovery now and thru til feb - when the real starts begins just shows how important investigating is! Delighted for ya, x

angeldelight

Aww barbie I'm so thrilled for you! Fingers crossed that 2013 is an amazing year for you x

bubbaloo

Barbiegirl - that is fantastic news. It just shows the importance of second opinions sometimes. Best of luck to you.

iguana

I'm really happy for you Barbiegirl. Fingercrossed the next two surgeries go well and your sticky positive follows shortly.

stickybean

How is everybody getting on this month? I am at CD 23 - not sure when I ovulated this month, we are taking a few weeks off the "tracking and monitoring", not really expecting this to be our month, I have zero symptoms. Had really hoped we would have a BFP for Christmas, but thinking it will be more of a new years resolution

lola15

Hi everyone,

I hope you dont mind me joining in. I am just about to make an apt for Galway to try ICSI. My husband and I have have been ttc for 6 years now and everytime we get near anything going ahead we seem to hit a wall. We aer married for 8 years now and am always putting on the brave face pretending we are no hurry for children when really its hurting like hell. I am not sure of the procedure for ICSI and am wondering whats faces me. To be honest I dont mind and will do anything to make our dream of our own baby come true.
I wish you all the best of luck and if anyone could let me know what faces us that would be great xx

Neyite

lola15 wrote: »

Hi everyone,

I hope you dont mind me joining in. I am just about to make an apt for Galway to try ICSI. My husband and I have have been ttc for 6 years now and everytime we get near anything going ahead we seem to hit a wall. We aer married for 8 years now and am always putting on the brave face pretending we are no hurry for children when really its hurting like hell. I am not sure of the procedure for ICSI and am wondering whats faces me. To be honest I dont mind and will do anything to make our dream of our own baby come true.
I wish you all the best of luck and if anyone could let me know what faces us that would be great xx

Hi lola, hope your appointment in Galway goes well.:) I only had Ovulation Induction there and was lucky to be successful on the third cycle of that, but each of the Doctors (Dr. E, Dr. L and Dr. C) by all accounts are great. I met with Dr. Conway who is lovely and really put us at ease, and friends have dealt with Dr. Egan and Dr. Lowe and have also good things to say about them. Dr. Egan, if you get him, is a straight talker. Some patients find that as abrupt, but he will tell you straight if he thinks something is a waste of your time, and your money.

Have you attended elsewhere? What procedures have you tried prior to going for ISCI? You may find that someone here on this forum has a similar fertility issue and can share experiences of procedures /tests and all that.

lola15

Hi Neytie,
Thank you for your msg, My hubby and I made the apt in 2009 for Galway and had to cancel then as I lost my job and we could not afford it. We have done the NAPRO with Dr Boyle in Galway as I have PCOS and though the problem lay with me. Turns out after 10 months attending Dr.Boyle that my hubby has a problem also, a blockage and although he produces sperm the blockage is preventing us getting pregnant. My husband finds this hard to deal with and there have been many tears and arguments for the past few years. he is afraid that if the ICSI does not work that I will be so broken hearted and not able to cope but I know this wont be the case. I have actually become stronger as time has gone by and will try anything to try make our dream a reality.
I am new is a way to ICSI as we had started the journey with a meeting in Galway and my hubby had a test biopsy but then due to financial reasons we had to call a halt but please God this is our time and we are successful.
Thank you so much for your reply to me - I find talking about this to people helps me deal with it as none of our friends or family know the pain it causes us x

Neyite

When I was going through my infertility investigations, this thread was my life saver Lola. I made some good friends on here, who I'm in touch with through facebook and met a few in person (so they are really big hairy internets men )

Use this thread to share your experiences, that it might help others, to vent when you have had a horrible day, to get support and encouragement when you need it, or just hugs. It really helped me.

As for me, I'm casually trying again - no charting this time, or peeing on stick or counting days past ovulation, or any of that. I'm going to give it a few months and see what happens.

carlyam2

hey ladies

help needed myself and my now husband have been trying for coming up on 2 years and no luck no we have taken a few breaks in that time to get married and honeymoon without the stress of temping (which i never got hang of) and stuff.
ive had all tests done and as well as underactive thyroid ive the hormone levels of pcos but no cysts dont know if thats good or bad.
my husband has had his tests done and there seems to be some issue with motility im just wondering is there anything that we can do to try and improve that before he has to go again?
we have to make another apt with the doctor now to discuss our options part of me wants to jump on this and get it sorted the other part of me wants to wait until after christmas.
i was alright thinking the issue was just me as i can take whatever is needed to help whereas my lovely husband objects to tablets says he cant take them. i guess i just wanted to vent a little as well as im soooo tired of seeing pregnant people all around me and to me it feels like it will never happen and after 2 years of nothing im beginning to wonder is that true.
thanks for listening ladies feels good to get it off my chest a little

stickybean

carlyam2 wrote: »

hey ladies

help needed myself and my now husband have been trying for coming up on 2 years and no luck no we have taken a few breaks in that time to get married and honeymoon without the stress of temping (which i never got hang of) and stuff.
ive had all tests done and as well as underactive thyroid ive the hormone levels of pcos but no cysts dont know if thats good or bad.
my husband has had his tests done and there seems to be some issue with motility im just wondering is there anything that we can do to try and improve that before he has to go again?
we have to make another apt with the doctor now to discuss our options part of me wants to jump on this and get it sorted the other part of me wants to wait until after christmas.
i was alright thinking the issue was just me as i can take whatever is needed to help whereas my lovely husband objects to tablets says he cant take them. i guess i just wanted to vent a little as well as im soooo tired of seeing pregnant people all around me and to me it feels like it will never happen and after 2 years of nothing im beginning to wonder is that true.
thanks for listening ladies feels good to get it off my chest a little

Hi carlyam2,

Welcome to trying to conceive, and please feel free to rant any time you need. There is not one of us on here who doesn't get a bit upset seeing all those lovely pregnant ladies with there bumps.

Taking a zinc supplement, wearing loose fitting boxers, avoiding getting his testicles to hot (so hot baths, showers, laptop on this lap) are all ways to help.

If it was me I would go to your doctor as soon as you can, purely because you won't get an appointment until the new year with a fertility specialist. We met our GP in early November, we did our initial tests (day 3 and day 21 bloods) and Sperm analysis for himself. Then we got a referral to the fertility clinic - but not till February. If you already have the tests most likely you will just get your referral letter.

Very best of luck pet xxx

carlyam2

thanks for that. i guess i just thought it would be easy to have a little bump its good to know im not alone in this it sometimes feels like that with family esp the inlaws asking when your going to have a child.
i shall float the supplement idea to him he isnt the biggest tablet fan.
we rang the surgery to find out when they are open over christmas and the poor receptionist didnt know yet so will ring her next week see can we get down before christmas when were both off least we will know where we stand and what happens next which i think is the scariest bit is the not knowing.
thank you

Neyite

carlyam2 wrote: »

thanks for that. i guess i just thought it would be easy to have a little bump its good to know im not alone in this it sometimes feels like that with family esp the inlaws asking when your going to have a child.
i shall float the supplement idea to him he isnt the biggest tablet fan.
we rang the surgery to find out when they are open over christmas and the poor receptionist didnt know yet so will ring her next week see can we get down before christmas when were both off least we will know where we stand and what happens next which i think is the scariest bit is the not knowing.
thank you

Carlyam, men are lucky that with a few temporary lifestyle changes they can really improve their sperm - motility and all - its not a reflection on his masculinity, but more that an unhealthy lifestyle has taken its toll. All that Stickybean has said but also smoking and drinking on or over the recommended units per week affect sperm. Zinc, Maca (health food shops) or shop for a tonic if it would be better than tablets. If you search this thread, I know its been mentioned before.

carlyam2

thanks again. we both need a lifestyle choice so ill float that idea first and am waiting on the Gp to tell us what way they are open over the christmas so we can get in and see him without taking leave. ive read bout the supplements before on this and ill say that to him as well and see what he thinks.
here is hoping 2013 is a good year for everyone.
i actually had a brainwave earlier in that i figured since we have some form of issue we get to have all the action we want over the christmas no stress over will it happen this time and if im honest i have kind of felt like its more of a chore lately but am looking forward to christmas now even if we have to head off to fertility clinics in 2013.

stickybean

Oh girls, I know I say we all do it, and it's okay, but just got home and an old school friend rang me, to share her news, she just found out she is pregant, and knows I'm a real baby person and couldn't wait to tell me. She then proceeded with a ten minute chat about how they weren't even trying an it just happened and must have just meant to be. I smiled fighting back the tears, just of the phone, sitting here now, in floods

I really deep down am very happy for her, and know she will be a super mam, but right now I am going for a cry x

Neyite

stickybean wrote: »

Oh girls, I know I say we all do it, and it's okay, but just got home and an old school friend rang me, to share her news, she just found out she is pregant, and knows I'm a real baby person and couldn't wait to tell me. She then proceeded with a ten minute chat about how they weren't even trying an it just happened and must have just meant to be. I smiled fighting back the tears, just of the phone, sitting here now, in floods

I really deep down am very happy for her, and know she will be a super mam, but right now I am going for a cry x

You need to have a little cry. Tomorrow you can be happy for them but for today, be sad for you.

Hugs Stickybean. Its not easy.

Sky blue

Hi everyone, myself and my other half have being trying to conceive for the last two years with no success. We have started to get tests and my progesterone at day 21 was 20 which the nurse said was 'a bit low' but hasn't explained it yet. I have an appointment in March to have a pelvic ultrasound and my other half is getting a sperm analysis this month. That's as far as we are at the moment.

I have been on here reading this thread for the last few months and find it a great help. You all support each other so much. I suppose we're both finding it pretty daunting at the moment as all we want is a baby, it's heartbreaking 😞

Is anyone at this stage too? Whats next? What does a progesterone level of 20 mean?

Thanks for listening x

carlyam2

oh stickybean i completely understand and take the time to have your cry and be happy for them later take it from someone who started crying in a shop after passing one too many babies in trollys that if you dont take the time to deal with it it will come out at an inconvienient location and time. thankfully my husband knew what i was upset at and didnt look at me like a complete weirdo.
sky blue hi and welcome. im at similar stage in that ive had all my hormones done and ive an underactive thyroid and hormone levels of pcos but not the cysts and my oh has had his seman analasyis done were waiting on an appointment with doc to discuss what our options are now. i just wanted to say good luck and here is great for venting and just feeling like your not alone in the struggles.

stickybean

Thanks girls, had a little cry then thought to myself some day that will be me, and some one I tell will cry like I am now, but we'll get there xxx

Welcome sky blue. I am going to the fertility specialist in February, best of luck to you and your other half xxx

yellow hen

stickybean wrote: »

Thanks girls, had a little cry then thought to myself some day that will be me, and some one I tell will cry like I am now, but we'll get there xxx

Welcome sky blue. I am going to the fertility specialist in February, best of luck to you and your other half xxx

Ah sb, we've all been there. You're doing the right thing by being proactive and going to see a specialist. I often wonder if we'd ever have fallen pregnant if we didn't go see someone too. Everything crossed for you pet. X

stickybean

Ah thanks yellow hen x - hope you and your little bump are going along well xxx

yellow hen

stickybean wrote: »

Ah thanks yellow hen x - hope you and your little bump are going along well xxx

We're going great sb, thanks. I'll be saying the same to you soon. Good luck with appt in feb. x

LegacyUser

We've been trying for a year now.

We had a 'chemical miscarriage' after the first month. Since that, nothing.

We keep trying not to worry. I think, though, that now's the time to start worrying.

My period just started - right on time - a day early, in fact. I guess I better book an appoinment with my GP next week.

bobskii

Hi Stickybean,how long have you been trying?We have an appointment in the Hari in February too,been tryin 4years.I find this thread great for making how i feel seem normal!My best friend of 23 years just had a baby and i must say she has been great,other friends who know our situation seem afraid to offer me a cuddle of their baby,she just plonks him on my lap without a thought!!It's friends like you can open up too i feel.I have another friend who has a six month old who told me awhile back at a wedding that her whole pregnancy was ruined because of 'my situation'!

It's not an easy road were on but we'll get there

Neyite

bobskii wrote: »

I have another friend who has a six month old who told me awhile back at a wedding that her whole pregnancy was ruined because of 'my situation'!

Well, dang. Because your fertility issues are all about her. Obviously. :rolleyes:

Now that my outraged sarcasm is out of the way. HOW DARE SHE??? What kind of a "friend" is she??