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  • #92
    Puddleduck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    Ah..think theres a bit of misunderstanding...its not that we never have sex..we just dont do it as much as Id like..I dont inititate coz I dont want to pester and then make him feel bad like he cant keep up. Id happily do it 3 or more times a day.


  • #93
    nikki 122
    Closed Accounts Posts: 307 ✭✭nikki 122


    ah i can see where you are coming from you definitly dont want to damage his ego because that is something a guy will never get over... well to be honest i cant think of a solution for you besides 'flying solo' sorry ill try think about it more for you


  • #94
    Puddleduck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    nikki 122 wrote: »
    ah i can see where you are coming from you definitly dont want to damage his ego because that is something a guy will never get over... well to be honest i cant think of a solution for you besides 'flying solo' sorry ill try think about it more for you


    Ah thanks chicks, Ive spoken to him bout it but I think maybe Im doin it wrong and its translating in boy language to 'your crap!' somehow...


  • #95
    [Deleted User]
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    Puddleduck wrote: »
    Ah thanks chicks, Ive spoken to him bout it but I think maybe Im doin it wrong and its translating in boy language to 'your crap!' somehow...

    Yup.

    Tell him u love him and want him all the time. Anything that boosts the ego. Implying "Im not satisfied" will kill the poor dudes confidence resulting in less action for u as that would lower his sex drive.


  • #96
    Puddleduck
    Registered Users Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭Puddleduck


    yea, good advice there neil1984. I love the guy to bits and the sex is great and everything its just my mental sex drive thats the problem


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  • #97
    nikki 122
    Closed Accounts Posts: 307 ✭✭nikki 122


    good advice neil1984 lads opinions help more in these situations than girls do


  • #98
    sosusie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭sosusie


    panda100 wrote: »
    Have to admit Im suprised by the response's here. Maybe Im just odd but sex to me is completyly irrelavant in a relationship. In fact most of my boyfriends I never slept with and two of them I was going out with for about a year. Its not that I dont like doing physical stuff,I do but its just not a big thing for me at all.
    To me a relationship is about building up trust and a really good connection and you dont need to have sex to do that. Saying that I agree you need a physical attraction cos without that then its just friendship territory.

    I have to say. Maybe you have not had great sex yet....... It's very addictive. The more you have the more you want it. When its not there you still want it....
    I'm talking from a long term relationship. So, I suppose our friendship is solid. So I would think about the sex more...when did we do it last?


  • #99
    How Strange
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,339 ✭✭✭How Strange


    Sex is a vital part of a relationship. IMO, and as others have said, a relationship without sex is a friendship.

    I think in a longterm relationship the drive can wane especially if you're living together but its all about making an effort.

    I saw a statistic about sex in a longterm relationship and it said something like 70% of time you could take it or leave it, 20% it is fine and 10% it is mindblowing. I think it was an article saying how sex and sexual drives have been distorted by films and media so people are under more pressure to be having mindblowing sex all the time and we think we've failed if its not like that.

    For me, the most special thing about sex in a longterm relationship is the sense of intimacy. You can't get that from a fling.


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